Understanding Ego Backlash
By Leo Gura - December 12, 2018 | 10 Comments
Why backsliding is so common when developing yourself
Ben says: Hey Leo. As always, thank you for your work. I have a few questions:
1. Why does ego backlash provide the greatest opportunities for growth?
2. Does backlash mean we went too hard and that next time we should try to implement a change more gradually, or is it simply an inevitability no matter what and it’s just something to mindfully wait out before carrying on with implementing the change?
3. How long does ego backlash typically last?
Ray M says: You are a wonderful human being, Leo. You’re VERY gifted at communication.
Wait, does that stroke your ego? What does wonderful even mean? What matters? Why are you helping me?
anthony wheeler says: Leo, thanks for telling on yourself. The path is to focus on identifying with TOTAL CONTEXT not content. You are both a help, and a hinderance.
Lisa Love says: I need the Ego Back BackLash Work Sheet Please. I cannot find it anywhere.
Thank You for Your Help.
Lisa
Suzi says: I experienced this after 9 months of constant work. Between videos and my therapist. It hit me like a tons of bricks. I wasn’t prepared. It took me down a dark dark path. I couldn’t find the tools id had learned or anything. It took me 4 days to get back above the water. Now that I’ve made it I feel like I’ve grown and am back to working.
Thank you for all you do!!
Max Gron says: There’s been a few adjustments in my diet, but if it changes too much it wouldn’t be a puritanical diet. I know you’re being nice when you talk of “significant” changes, and of the cheesecake, I don’t even eat cheesecake anymore, I demonise a sinful stage blue mentality and an uncaring stage green, and a beta-level purple tribesman, but I don’t demonise evil people and I don’t demonise a cheeky woman acting as a Catholic saint, and I demonise no wise man per she, but if he had an elixir of death I will absolutely demonise him.
Max Gron says: I’m starting to lose faith in this stupid religion, I happen to be an intellectual, I will never stop doing things intellectually.
Maxiwrong says: I so didn’t get the meaning of this change if not so not getting the change itself, I got it, but not what it meant 3 years ago, I stopped hate-watching and playing the kind of lazy cynic, I don’t do much of either of these 2 things anymore, I began loving actualized.org but this extreme change I made, loving myself, being easy and gentle on myself, to paraphrase Leo Gura, well in my collective but my own stringing of words together, and nobody takes a non-indigenous original seriously, I think this is a pseudo-extremist organisation which is very overwhelming with some of those things, when the weak fanaticism has fake extremes and is even made up and unreal (by which I mean it’s lacking reality), don’t get me wrong, this is the reality of his pet changes if not the reality of even being fanatical which Leo is a novice compared to Jesus Christ, Jesus Christ was a full-on fanatical extremist, Leo is less than Jesus Christ, at the same time he’s enough and he’s real enough, as for the main points, and these are notes to myself: 1. Do the gentleness mentioned above, 2. Get prepared for if I backslide into my old ways to get ready and start the change again but smarter, & 3. Start a meditation habit, and do self-inquiry, not exactly an individual change of my own, but what Leo threw in to add as an example of changing my life.
Maxiwrong says: Yes I’ve done the change and I didn’t like the feeling, I follow some of that change, like playing phone games more, eating a bit more dark leafy greens if not pears, walnuts when I haven’t eaten them, other bullshit changes, the reality is I shouldn’t be as radical in my change as I was 12 days ago since before I acted that way at dad’s house, it was making a positive difference in my life, it’s hard not believing in anything anymore, but being nothing for the first time is absolutely disgusting, it should be pessimism, metaphysical monism, God, and ordinariness, because especially with pessimism you’ll find out that reality’s monstrous, some misfortune will happen
Maxiwrong says: Ah, I see, I need to regress in my old ways and break them apart, I’m 42 3/4, I’m not the conscious being I anticipated, I pursue a change in my life, 100% true to myself I’ll be after that, but maybe I’m wrong about changing, I’ll make it a non-issue, it’s my diet and its psychology I should change, not my life, and I’m not scared, I tried this salad diet of mine, but I’ll use white vinegar or something if it’s my dad’s house because vinegars & dressings and sauces aren’t leaving my house.