How To Make A Guy Fall In Love With You
By Leo Gura - January 19, 2014 | 14 Comments
Follow these fundamental to become absolutely irresistible to guys. Attract him, seduce him, and keep him head-over-heels in love with you forever.
Hey, this is Leo for Actualized.org. In this quick self-help segment of about 10 minutes, I’m going to tell you how to make a guy fall in love with you.
This is an interesting topic for me because I’ve been involved in the pick-up community and have been doing a lot of advanced, deep-level personal development work on dating and social interaction with the opposite sex.
I’ve been learning about flirting and all of this amazing stuff. This is a fascinating topic to me.
From a girl’s perspective, if you want to keep a guy on the hook and keep him steady with you and become your boyfriend and fall in love with you, what you have to understand is male psychology and what guys like in girls.
You’ll find that this is invariable across most of the human male population. There are a couple of points.
First, if you want a guy to like you, you have to realize that guys are visual. Women are more emotional, more about comfort, and more about personality. Guys are visual.
I’m sorry to say – you have to take care of your looks. It doesn’t mean that you have to wear a ton of makeup or be fake, but you have to take care of your health. You have to take care of your weight. You have to take care of your hygiene.
Make sure that you’re nicely dressed and you have a sense of style. You have to have your weight handled. You have to be going to the gym and eating clean.
These are important things and they’re also beneficial to you because you should be doing these things anyway because you care about your health and hygiene.
Many girls don’t have this issue. Some girls do have this issue. It depends where you’re at.
I think that almost all guys are sensitive to weight. You have to take care of your weight and manage it because guys like healthy, fit girls. That’s just a fact. That’s our biology. That’s something that we’re drawn to. We can’t do anything about it.
Keep your weight in line. That’s very important.
You might be asking, “Well, what does that have to do with love? Love has nothing to do with physical appearance.” The problem is that, to a guy who has options, it’s important just like to you, for example, the personality of the guy is important.
You like a guy who’s humorous, adventurous, outgoing, and strong and who has a sense of command over life. The same argument can be made – “What does that have to do with love? What does personality have to do with love?”
The fact is that it’s just something you’re drawn to. Women are drawn to personality. Guys are drawn to physical appearance.
Try to make your physical appearance as decent as you can make it without bending over backwards. That’s important.
The next point is that you have to be sweet. I think most guys like a sweet girl who is caring and loyal to the guy. It’s hard to reject a girl like that. Be sweet and be outgoing like that.
Be kind to your guy. Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be too naggy. Guys hate it when you are nagging them all the time.
For guys, we want the connection and the intimacy, but a lot of guys don’t want too much of it. We also are independent-minded and we want to be out there and doing whatever it is that we’re doing. We don’t want to feel like we’re attached at the hip. We want our sense of independence.
A strong guy will want that. Any guy who you want to lock down is going to have that independence. That’s what you’re attracted to. You don’t want to smother him too much.
In fact, you want to play it a little bit cool and have things that you’re doing in your life that are not just revolving around the guy and getting the guy. Counter-intuitively, the best way to get the guy is to not want to get the guy so much. The guy will chase you, especially in the beginning.
He’ll chase you because guys are the pursuers in the beginning. It’s still always important to keep a little bit of that edge in the relationship. If it ever becomes too obvious or stale, then that sense of playfulness is lost.
Make sure that you have stuff that you’re doing and you’re not just sitting around and waiting for your guy. You have other friends who you’re hanging out with. You have things that you’re doing. The guy will see that. It will become very apparent in the way that you’re acting and communicating and in how much you want to see him.
All of that is going to show, in very subtle ways, and the guy is going to pick up on that. When he sees that you’re actually out there and doing stuff and you’re not so desperate to have a guy in your life, he’ll chase you a little bit. That’s going to be the ideal situation for you. Keep that in mind.
Make sure that your life is interesting. Have friends and activities that you’re doing. That’s always attractive. That’s attractive both to guys and to girls.
Girls want guys to be doing stuff on their own and guys want girls to be out there and doing stuff on their own. Nobody wants somebody who sits home all day and is boring and has no life. People want somebody who’s more attractive and has something going for themselves and has a future ahead of them. That’s important.
The other way to attract a guy is with great sex. Guys are sexual. We want to be in relationships that offer us great sex.
Make sure that you know how to do good sex. Read up on it. Study it. Practice it. Do whatever you have to do. Make sure that you’re satisfying your guy and that he is getting his kicks from it.
To me, that’s the best part of the relationship. It’s all about making the sex awesome. I pride myself in learning how to do that stuff and mastering sex.
You have to master the whole sexual realm and it’s a much deeper topic than Cosmo makes it out to be. You can go out there and buy information products that will teach you how to become good at sex. They’re amazing things and will help you take sex to a whole new level.
Most people don’t realize how deep sex goes. They just have boring vanilla sex. They’re not exploring their sexuality and their relationships get stale because after you have normal sex for a few months, it tends to get boring.
You want to keep it spiced up. Learn different techniques. Be adventurous. Have sex in different places and be a little bit sexually aggressive with your guy.
I think that as guys, we like that. Sometimes, when a girl is too submissive and expects the guy to do everything, then it feels like we’re just doing all of the work and we want sex to be initiated on us.
I know that that’s not always natural for girls, depending on what kinds of girl they are. However, I think that most guys like when you initiate sometimes and initiate in kinky and adventurous ways. We think, “Oh, damn, that’s cool! Most girls don’t do that.” It’s something rare, unique, and valuable that we are attracted to.
You asked the question about how to get a guy to fall in love with you and before you can get that, you have to get him attracted to you. What happens is that you get attraction and then that attraction will build to love fairly naturally as long as there aren’t any big obstacles in the way.
What I’m telling you is to try and clear up those major obstacles. One major obstacle might be appearance and hygiene. Another major obstacle might be that you don’t have the social life or the life that a guy would want in you if he’s looking for a long-term relationship or girlfriend. Another thing might be that the sex isn’t up to his standards and he’s not thrilled with that and he’s looking in other places.
If you just remove those roadblocks, it’s going to naturally happen. Just make sure that you’re doing more than the average girl.
If the average girl is not looking at these areas in her life and working on them and fixing them, then the guy will eventually get bored with her or he’ll find faults. Then that process of falling in love will either take longer, will be rockier, will have problems, or it won’t happen.
If all the roadblocks are removed and you have all the fundamentals down and he’s attracted to you, there’s sexual chemistry, and there’s intimacy, then it will naturally lead to where you want it to go. It’s pretty simple. It’s not that complicated.
You also have to go out there and socialize. If you’re not finding enough of the kinds of guys that you want to start that whole process – because you have to start here. You don’t start with love. You start with an acquaintanceship and then it builds up to love.
Make sure that you have this part of your life handled, too. That means going out with your friends, going out to bars, going out to clubs, and being more receptive to guys or maybe even approaching guys. Sometimes, that’s attractive, too. If a girl approaches a guy, that can work.
Although, just being receptive and being attractive will get you natural approaches, as long as you’re in an environment where that can happen. If you’re sitting at home or hanging around the same friends all of the time and you are in places where there aren’t many people, then what are the chances of you meeting somebody? They’re not very high.
You can dramatically improve your chances by going out there and moving in new social circles and going to places that are crowded and where other people can see you, meet you, and approach you. Then that process will develop very naturally.
That’s how to make a guy fall in love with you. Go ahead and leave your comments for me. I’d like to hear what you have to say on this topic and what you thought of some of my thoughts and anything that you’d like to critique. I’m sure there may be some critiques here.
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To do that, which I know is what you want because that’s what guys want, too, you have to work at it. You have to do personal development and you have to work out kinks in your personality to smooth yourself out so that you can manage a relationship well. I hate to say it, but you’re going to have to do that work.
We have to do it as guys. Girls have to do it as girls. You can’t take that stuff for granted. Otherwise, what’s going to happen is that you’re going to have relationships, but you’re going to find yourself self-sabotaging them or doing things that are putting roadblocks in the way. That might ultimately lose you the good guys that you’re running into.
That’s going to do it. This is Leo signing off. Go ahead and check out Actualized.org and also sign up for the newsletter.