Understanding Disagreeable People

By Leo Gura - March 31, 2023

This is very good:

I wish Jordan Peterson stuck to teaching psychology rather than politics. He’s really good at psychology. But hey… I’m sure many people would say the same thing about me.

Has my work been made worse by my forays into political topics? I would say no. But then again, I’m biased. I’m sure JP would say the same about himself. Why do we both feel a need to talk about politics when it turns people off? We both believe we’re saving the world. Everyone believes his work is saving the world. Isn’t that funny? And yet, I would feel negligent if I didn’t speak about politics. Which is exactly what I’m sure JP would say. So here we are. The only question is, Which one of us is more self-deceived?

For most of my life I’ve been a relatively agreeable person. I’ve always hated conflict with people. But in order to attain my recent insane awakenings I’ve had to become much more disagreeable with people, especially online, where interactions are asymmetrically anonymous. People know me so deeply from my work, but I don’t know them at all. Which is why I’ve been acting a bit strange lately. It was a necessary part of my process to achieve the sovereignty of mind necessary to transcend all human understanding. You’re not gonna cut through all the human spiritual bullshit that’s out there by being agreeable.

I don’t enjoy being disagreeable. It’s painful to me. But I would rather be disagreeable and have Truth than be agreeable and full of human shit. So I endure the pain. This work ain’t easy. You have to be very careful with agreeableness, niceness, and politeness. People will abuse it. Ignorant and selfish people will takes advantage of your generosity. And the devil will use it against you to flood your mind with bullshit and group-think. The devil LOVES spineless people with no boundaries because they are ripe for seduction and corruption. Being too nice can ruin your whole life if you’re not careful. That’s how serious this issue is. I have to keep myself isolated from humans and their activities in order to avoid getting corrupted and distracted. One of the most important parts of my work is making sure that it doesn’t get co-opted by human games, as that is the default.

Then again, this is not license to be a stingy, bitter, isolated, jerk. You need to find a balance where you are firm yet kind, generous, and loving. It’s not easy to strike that balance. It takes a lot of practice and experience in dealing with people and their games, and a serious commitment to your own values. By being too agreeable you let others trample on your values. Sometimes a bit of conflict is necessary for a higher purpose. But you have to be careful not to abuse this tool. It’s not worth being disagreeable unless something crucial is at stake. For me, that’s Understanding.

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