Teach Yourself How To Dance

By Leo Gura - December 1, 2024

I highly recommend that you teach yourself how to dance.

I don’t mean any kind formal dancing. I mean Pure Dance. Pure Dance is spontaneous and unchoreographed.

How do you learn it? Just by doing it over and over again for hundreds of hours. You turn on some music that you genuinely love, you shut off your mind, you feel into it, and you start to move with the feeling. It’s all about feeling. This is why women are naturals at dance, because they live in their feelings while men live in their logical minds. So this is harder to learn for men, especially introverted men. But that makes it all the more worthwhile.

The most important thing is to shut off your mind, don’t think about how you look, don’t try to look cool, don’t try to copy others’ moves, but just FEEL and move to your feelings. Pure Dance is about surrender to your feelings, to your body. If you do this you will start to invent your own dance moves and you will build dance skill. But it takes lots of practice and experimentation. Practice in the shower. Keep doing this over and over again for hundreds of hours over the course of a year or two and you will eventually become good. And then you’ll have this skill for the rest of your life. Don’t go asking someone else to teach you how to dance. Let your feelings teach you. Invent Pure Dance for yourself.

This is one of those soft skills that no one teaches you growing up, but it’s so powerful for dealing with women. You can use dance to guide a woman’s emotions and moods. But beyond that, it’s powerful just for yourself.

Pure Dance is a test of your ability to feel. Are you able to take the stick out of your own ass? That’s not as easy as it seems — to be able to do it sober, at will — especially if you are a serious intellect.

Note: A trap here would be to develop a choreographed dance routine. You have to let that go and develop spontaneous dance skill, which is a different thing.

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