A Deep Explanation Of How Women Mate

By Leo Gura - April 13, 2026

This is a very accurate explanation of the dating market and how women select mates, from a male perspective.

Warning, there are some brutal truths here, but the dating market is brutal. Always has been.

You cannot use niceness or goodness to buy a woman’s attraction. Don’t do favors for them. Don’t buy them anything. It never works so stop trying that. It just makes you look like a loser. What should you do instead? Work on making yourself as attractive as your genetics allows, and focus on socializing, approaching, build flirting skills, and let women chase you. DO NOT chase women. Approach them. Flirt with them. Get their numbers. Offer them dates. But do not chase them if they aren’t responding to you. If a woman is not interested in meeting up with you, DO NOT try to convince her, do not try to reason with her, do not compliment her, do not help her whatsoever, do not be her friend, do not chit-chat with her, do not text her. If she isn’t eager to meet up, you give her zero investment. Zero!

Warning: Be careful with this YouTuber. He has some advanced ideas mixed in with some bad right-wing politics and blackpill-type ideas. His view of women and politics is definitely distorted and corrupted. Do not get trapped in his biased way of seeing women. Do not dwell in the negativity too much. You need to take the useful insights and apply them constructively to your dating life. Do not bask in the doom and gloom of the dating market, just go out and socialize and date. Trust that you will get lucky. Not all girls are aiming for the top guys. There will be plenty of girls who are open to you. Remember, you don’t need to attract thousands of girls, just a handful is enough. You should not be wasting your time worrying about no girl liking you — this is both untrue and deeply detrimental to your success and self-esteem. Yes, the dating market it rough, but it is not impossible and it is not as bad as all the online complaining makes it out to be. There are plenty of dating opportunities if you just socialize regularly and put in the work.

Stop consuming content if it makes your bitter, whiny, and listless. You need to know the realities of the dating market not to complain and quit, but to know how to develop yourself and which actions to take to attract a mate. Your mind needs to be hopeful despite the harsh truths and challenges of dating. Visualize yourself succeeding, not failing. This is very important. You must believe in yourself and that your effort makes a difference. The truth is, it does. That’s not just cope. If effort wasn’t crucial, I wouldn’t be talking about any of this. I don’t care about online whining — all of it can go straight in the trash. Whining is not our work here.

I don’t know how to explain to you how to comprehend brutal truths yet still remain hopeful, positive, and constructive. You just have to do it. Whenever I share brutal truths with you, I’m expecting it to hurt you a bit, but then for you to carry on with a hopeful and constructive attitude and action. Not to resign to doom. Truth is never a negative thing for us in this work. Understanding how the dating market actually works is great because it helps us succeed in it, not resign or quit. The sooner you learn how dating actually works, the sooner you can succeed at it. Don’t wish dating were easy. That’s never happening. Rise to the challenge instead. Success in dating requires changing many of your stubborn old mindsets. That’s all part of our work.

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