How To Change Your Life

By Leo Gura - January 24, 2014 | 7 Comments

The critical ideas you must understand to start getting results, creating lasting change in your life.

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Hey, this is Leo for Actualized.org. In this quick self-help segment, we are going to talk about how to change your life.

This is a deep passion of mine. That’s why I founded Actualized.org. I wanted to help people change their lives because that’s the position that I was in five years ago.

I was struggling and trying to figure out how I could change my life and set it up and design it in such a way that I’m always happy and not dealing with all of this fear, anxiety, and negative emotions and that I’m out there and financially secure and have everything that I want in my life and just living an awesome and exciting life.

How do I get that? How do I go from this mediocre life that I have now to this supercharged life that I know I can have and that I see other people having and that I know I’m capable of getting into?

The problem for me was that I didn’t know the techniques or have any friends who had done that. I wondered if it was even possible. That was always on my mind.

Now, after I’ve made this journey of studying over $100,000 of personal development material and after making all of these radical changes in my life – from starting a business, becoming financially independent, moving all across the country, improving my dating life dramatically, improving my fitness dramatically, losing a lot of weight and keeping it off, improving my mindsets, and getting myself to think more positively – it’s shown me that it’s possible.

Right now, we live in an information era where there are information products that will help you change your life in any way that you want. They’re not overhyped. All of these changes are real and they’re actually possible.

The only question is whether or not you are going to work the program and go out there and take the question and decide that you want to do this. Are you going to shell out some money to buy the programs that you need or the books and get the help that you need? Are you going to go out there and capitalize on these opportunities?

I think that the most amazing thing is that people don’t realize that this is out there for them. Literally, right now, you can create and become whoever you want.

That doesn’t mean that you can fly to the moon, but it does mean that whatever career you want to master, you can do. Whatever kind of relationship you want, you can get it. Whatever kind of family life you want, you can get it. Whatever changes you want to make to your beliefs and to any past trauma that is holding you back, you can make all of those changes.

However good you want to make yourself feel, like proud, optimistic, or excited, you can do that. However much travel you want to do, you can do that. However much money you want to make, you can make.

All of this is available to you. The tools are actually available to you. You do have to go out there and look and you have to follow certain principles to do this successfully.

These are the principles of success. They’re also the principles of change because success, in a lot of ways, is how to make great changes and make sustainable changes.

What happens is that most of us are not lucky enough to be born successful and to be in the kinds of situations that we want to be in for our whole lives. We usually start off struggling. We don’t know where we’re going. We grow up in a negative environment with limiting beliefs and friends and family who are not supportive.

What happens is that we feel stuck and we feel like there can be something better. We don’t know that there are certain principles that can be followed. Changes are necessary. By the process of making changes, you create this exciting life.

How do you actually do this? I’m going to just give you some practical ways. This is a deep topic and I’m going to cover it in other videos on my site.

To create change, you have to find out what it is that you want. You have to be clear about what you want. If you don’t know what you want, you will not get it. You will weave around life like this, back and forth, and you will be running around life like a chicken with its head cut off.

You have to get clear about what it is that you want. You have to articulate it. Be specific about what your goals are.

Why do you want it? Create a vision for yourself. Once you have that down, the rest is just a matter of time and a little bit of hard work. You have to be clear about who you are or what you want and what your purpose in life is and what your vision is. That’s understanding yourself.

Then you want to set some goals. Set some bold goals for yourself. If who you want to be and what your values are are not aligned with what your life is like now, then that means that you need some change to get you there. To do that, you need some goals.

What are you goals? What are specific things that you want to accomplish in the next year, and the next five years, and the next 10 years? Sit down and make a list and then think about it and then visualize it.

Ask yourself, “Is this what I want? Maybe I would prefer this or maybe that?” Through this process of introspection and journaling, create a nice, specific list of goals. That’s important.

Then you’re going to have to go out there and take action on these goals. There’s no way to avoid that. You can have all of the mindsets and all of the knowledge that you want, but you’re going to have to, in the end, go out and do some hard work and apply some elbow grease to the problem and actually get these things to happen. That’s going to be an unavoidable aspect of getting any change in your life to happen.

One point that I want to stress in this whole process is that the important part actually is the psychology. It’s the inner game that you have with regards to change. Most people try to make change in their life, but they’re not able to sustain it and they fall back to the place that they started at.

The reason that happens is because they don’t understand that they need to change their inner game before they get sustainable change in the external world. The inner game is your beliefs, your mindsets, your ways of thinking, your emotional control over yourself, your discipline level, and any mental techniques like visualizations and affirmations.

That’s what I mean when I talk about inner game and you need to have those things dialed in before you can get a change like losing a lot of weight and keeping it off, or earning a million dollars and keeping a million dollars, or finding a good relationship and maintaining that relationship.

Notice that when you’re asking about making a sustainable change. Nobody cares about making a one-time change and then plopping back down the next day. Nobody wants to have a million dollars for a day and then lose it. Nobody wants to drop 50 pounds for a week and then lose it. Nobody wants that. You want to make a sustainable change.

Very few of us think about change in a sustainable way. Few of us use strategies that are sustainable. This is true with diets, pursuing money, and relationships.

You have to ultimately bite the bullet on this one and buy into the concept of self-mastery. Your success and your ability to change come, ultimately, from your mastery of your own emotions and your own psychology.

That means studying what that is like. That means understanding yourself on a deep level regarding what are the things that do create change and what are the things that don’t create change.

How do you self-sabotage? How do you think in negative ways that keep you from getting to the place that you want to get to? How are old beliefs limiting you and holding you back? How is old conditioning and training from childhood, perhaps, holding you back?

You have to fix that stuff to make sustainable changes.

You have to know some techniques, too. How do you set proper goals? How do you create a vision? How do you create a personal mission statement? What are your values?

These are all important to understand because if you don’t understand these, which are the fundamentals of success, then you’re not going to be able to have success in any area of your life. When I say you won’t have success, that means that you won’t have any real, positive, lasting change.

I’m going to wrap it up there, but because this is what Actualized.org is about and it’s the core of it, I’m going to send you to check out my personal development blueprint which covers 100 of the greatest personal development concepts of all time.

We cover all of these concepts that I talk about and dozens more. These are the most important things that you need to know to be able to create change and success in your life.

It’s everything from understanding how to find your life purpose, identify your values, and get all of the inner game into place to make you extraordinarily successful. We’re going to put you in the top one percent of every person who doesn’t know this stuff. Most people just are not taught how this stuff works.

Check that out right now. It’s free. It’s found at Actualized.org/blueprint.

Of course, I want to hear your comments. So, please, drop me some comments here. “Like” this and share this and subscribe to my newsletter which is also on Actualized.org. There you’re going to be able to get more video advice and articles like this that I publish every week for free. This will help you create the change that you want in your life.

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Michael says:

Fabulous insight
Thank you as always

Ashray says:

I have been listening and reading your vlog and transcript, touching every topic of life. I eat a lot junk food, a bit spoiled you can say. For past 2-3 days I kinda feel bad, almost disgusted, me eating junk food is slowly getting less. Is it my mind following you too narrow mindedly or am I getting mentally prepared or neither, then what? Or is it just a mood swing.

Joanne says:

Thank you. Just for the simple fact of saying ‘it is possible’. I think I’ll hang out with your youtube videos for a while until I find more open minded people to hang out with.

Jennifer says:

I appreciate you mentioning the foundation making of real change. I tend to watch whatever video of yours appeals to me on any given day and get amped about it but only implement changes for a day or two. I think I overwhelm myself by wanting to address too many facets of my life all at once instead of focusing on one or two things at a time. Additionally, maybe starting with the foundational things like emotion regulation would be the most effective. I’m more used to living in the here and now so setting goals is all new to me. Having a roadmap of what to master in what order would probably help me since I always feel like I don’t even know where to begin. Anyway, thanks for the inspiration Leo! Do you ever have presentations anywhere in person?

AMORIO says:

hey Leo.

Taking in consideration my childhood, the social rank of my family, its income . We were a poor family. But the thing I’m always happy about is what my father told us in every harder time the family experienced ” TRY TO KEEP IN MIND THAT I BRING MONEY FROM THE FIRE”. That’s a popular saying.

My father adds: LOOK AT MY HANDS ARE VERY HARD WITH HARD WORK, I WANT TO SSE YOUR HANDS SOFT, BE AWARE TO STUDY FOR A GOOD SUSTAINABLE LIFE”.

This make me studying regularly with the aim to change my parents life and see them living with me their old dream.
After the junior high school, the high school the university. I found a job and the dream is a reality we lived togegher.
And from time to time I show my hands to my father and told him ” look father my hands are soft he begged me to kiss them and in my turn I told him ” don’t forget father you have the hands of the bravest man in the world and I kiss them”.

sure:

– You have to figure out what you want. Make it clear to you.
– Develop a strategie leading to a sustainable change.
– From time to time check your road map.

THANKS LEO FOR YOUR WORLD WIDE HELP.

Excuse me for my simple English.

AMORIO.

rachael says:

What video talks about the principals of changing our lives..i am socially retarded..i am good looking but i still dont get the guys i want plus im studying dentistery that i have no passion for and i really feel stuck there..because if i quit i will have nothing else to do you know

Wendy Boode says:

Leo,
I cannot even begin to verbalize how grateful I am to have discovered actualized.org and I am hyper motivated to start this amazing process you’ve turned me on to.
Thank you so much, your insights and teaching have made a huge difference in my life already, and I have only just begun (1 month in).

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