Female appreciation thread for women’s day

[Emotionalmosquito]

As much as I want to make the opposite thread, I think it would be good for the community and I to temporarily set aside all the drama and hard feelings for a good wholesome thread where we do nothing but share our favorite things about the fairer sex. Leo’s old video “Always do what is emotionally most difficult to do” strongly applies here, lol

Not to mention a women hate thread probably wouldn’t make the mods very happy  

Although I welcome light trolling and backhanded compliments as long as it’s not TOO brutal

To all the moms, daughters, sisters, nieces, aunts, grandmas, girlfriends, wives, exes, in-laws, teachers, nurses, waitresses, stewardesses, secretaries, cheerleaders, sports stars, strippers, sex workers, dominatrixes, porn stars, nobodies, escorts, actresses, musicians, anime waifus and all those unmentioned, this one’s for you!

Share some female artists you like or a time when a girl stood up for you when she had nothing to gain from it, or any positive thing you can think of

My favorite thing they’ve done is their creation and contribution to music 

 

[Emotionalmosquito]

these two deserve a separate post 

[meta_male]

1 hour ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

or a time when a girl stood up for you when she had nothing to gain from it

lol

[kamill]

Why do you have hard feelings for women. I cannot understand that.

 

[Guest Bazooka Jesus]

4 hours ago, kamill said:

Why do you have hard feelings for women. I cannot understand that.

Well... when you're in bed with a woman and you're not getting any hard feelings for her, you've got a problem on your hands.

Kidding aside, women are wonderful. They can be b****es sometimes, but life without 'em would be like pizza without cheese... possible, but pointless.

[Princess Arabia]

This isn't female appreciation, it is appreciation for music done by females.

[Princess Arabia]

8 hours ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

Although I welcome light trolling and backhanded compliments as long as it’s not TOO brutal

This is like saying sorry to someone and trying to apologize while telling them what they did wrong.

You're trying, but no thank you. I don't feel the appreciation. You can shove this appreciation thread up your you know what. It feels more like a mockery. You might as well started a thread saying I hate women but at least i like some of their music.

[meta_male]

Alright. Let's appreciate that women are more caring and empathetic than men. The most empathetic man is still just on an average female spectrum probably. We also don't appreciate enough how hard it is to stay sane when you're on a roller coaster ride of emotions all the time.

[Emotionalmosquito]

12 hours ago, meta_male said:

lol

I can think of some times when they did in the past, not so much as of lately. But the fact that I’m almost never around any might have something to do with it

5 hours ago, Bazooka Jesus said:

Kidding aside, women are wonderful. They can be b****es sometimes, but life without 'em would be like pizza without cheese... possible, but pointless.

Can’t live with em, can’t live without em

10 hours ago, kamill said:

Why do you have hard feelings for women. I cannot understand that.

To get into it here would defeat the entire intention of this thread. But I have plenty of reasons. For now let’s leave it at 

5 hours ago, Bazooka Jesus said:

Well... when you're in bed with a woman and you're not getting any hard feelings for her, you've got a problem on your hands.

 

5 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

This is like saying sorry to someone and trying to apologize while telling them what they did wrong.

Except I haven’t said anything they’ve done wrong. That’s not what I’m doing right now. But I see where you’re coming from.

5 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

You're trying, but no thank you. I don't feel the appreciation. You can shove this appreciation thread up your you know what. It feels more like a mockery. You might as well started a thread saying I hate women but at least i like some of their music.

Totally fair. Just try to understand how difficult it is for me to talk nicely about women. I’m fighting against years of deeply misogynistic thinking here. This really is my best attempt. The reason I said that stuff that makes it sound like I’m not being fully genuine is because I’m trying to strike a delicate balance. I don’t wanna get too close to full on woman-worshipping simp while still distancing as far as possible from hardcore incel level misogyny. This protects me from feeling like a simp and makes the thread easier for others like me to pop in and make positive contributions comfortably. 

I did say “as long as it’s not TOO brutal” meaning we’re allowed to take friendly jabs at each other but no more maliciously than what you’d see among groups of good friends. In a perfect world the genders would be able to tease one another without it turning ugly. @Bazooka Jesus did it well by making that boner joke about me having hard feelings, and by saying they can be bitches but they’re also wonderful. That’s the kind of stuff I’m talking about.

6 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

This isn't female appreciation, it is appreciation for music done by females.

Don’t underestimate the power of a perfect song at the right moment. Even if singing and composing music was the only thing they ever gave to the world, that would still be enough for them to be lovable. It’s far from all they do for us, but it happens to be my favorite. Probably still would be even if I was getting laid all the time.  

[Emotionalmosquito]

4 hours ago, meta_male said:

Alright. Let's appreciate that women are more caring and empathetic than men. The most empathetic man is still just on an average female spectrum probably. We also don't appreciate enough how hard it is to stay sane when you're on a roller coaster ride of emotions all the time.

Very good point. I can’t relate completely with being less emotional because I myself have always been quite the emotional mosquito. Perhaps even more so than a typical female on some days. But on top of them generally being more emotional than us, they also have to deal with periods every month which makes their already roller coaster ride of emotions ten times worse! For a large chunk of them it’s an incredibly painful process. AND it’s an embarrassing taboo that they have to hide as best they can. All this while still being required to carry out their daily duties. Massive round of applause for that one.

[Princess Arabia]

5 minutes ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

Totally fair. Just try to understand how difficult it is for me to talk nicely about women. I’m fighting against years of deeply misogynistic thinking here. This really is my best attempt. The reason I said that stuff that makes it sound like I’m not being fully genuine is because I’m trying to strike a delicate balance. I don’t wanna get too close to full on woman-worshipping simp while still distancing as far as possible from hardcore incel level misogyny. This protects me from feeling like a simp and makes the thread easier for others like me to pop in and make positive contributions comfortably.

I totally empathize. What I read here is you trying to protect your delicate heart. Also looking for a teddy bear to hold unto for comfort which is where the "others like me" fit in. I send you love and hope one day you will find the peace you so desperately seek. It's right there within you, you just have to open yourself to it. You want to find women to have sex with or whatever you want to do with them to indirectly ask for their forgiveness for the way you have treated them in your mind, that's why you biologically yearn for them so strongly. Since that hasn't happened, this is the best way you know how - for now. My apologies for my harsh words as I see through your attempt to make amends. The only thing is, it's you you have to make amends with, not women.

[aurum]

4 hours ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

Totally fair. Just try to understand how difficult it is for me to talk nicely about women. I’m fighting against years of deeply misogynistic thinking here. This really is my best attempt. The reason I said that stuff that makes it sound like I’m not being fully genuine is because I’m trying to strike a delicate balance. I don’t wanna get too close to full on woman-worshipping simp while still distancing as far as possible from hardcore incel level misogyny. This protects me from feeling like a simp and makes the thread easier for others like me to pop in and make positive contributions comfortably. 

It's a good first step. One of the things misogynistic thinking does is change your selective focus so that you only see the negatives about women. So something like this where you are deliberately attempting to find the positive can help break that habit of negative selective focus.

You'll also start to see that people don't treat you like a simp simply because you *gasp* said positive things about women. Actually you will likely find a lot of the opposite. Women will treat you with more respect and appreciation because fundamentally you respect and appreciate women. They will reflect back the energy you put out, just like a mirror. 

[Guest Bazooka Jesus]

1 hour ago, aurum said:

You'll also start to see that people don't treat you like a simp simply because you *gasp* said positive things about women. Actually you will likely find a lot of the opposite. Women will treat you with more respect and appreciation because fundamentally you respect and appreciate women. They will reflect back the energy you put out, just like a mirror. 

As always, it depends on which place the praise is coming from. Is it coming from a place of neediness ("please, you are so wonderful, I need you to fulfill me and make me happy, I beg you, please love me back") or from a place of abundance where you already are fulfilled and share you fulfillment and happiness with the world out of sheer joy and gratitude?

That's why the "fake it till you make it" approach can be problematic; people will always feel if your outward protestations of appreciation are authentic or not, which is why a genuine internal change is required for you to see genuine changes in the way people - in this case women - react to your advances. Adapting a bunch of positive sounding slogans without true inner change will probably just lead to more rejection and frustration... so make sure that you don't build your fancy new house on sand.

And no one puts new wine into old wineskins. For the wine would burst the wineskins, and the wine and the skins would both be lost. New wine calls for new wineskins.

- Mark 2:22 -

 

Edited March 9 by Bazooka Jesus

[aurum]

6 minutes ago, Bazooka Jesus said:

As always, it depends on which place the praise is coming from. Is it coming from a place of neediness ("please, you are so wonderful, I need you to fulfill me and make me happy, I beg you, please love me back") or from a place of abundance where you already are fulfilled and share you fulfillment and happiness with the world out of sheer joy and gratitude?

Of course. What I said implies a basic foundation of self-respect as well. If someone reading this feels like they don't have that that basic foundation, then you should make it a top priority to steadily move in that direction.

At the same time, be aware that "I don't want to come across as too needy" can also turn into its own excuse / trap. You end up depriving yourself of expressing love, and by extension, receiving it. No healthy relationships can be formed this way. At some point you have to be willing to transcend / include that.

6 minutes ago, Bazooka Jesus said:

That's why the "fake it till you make it" approach can be problematic; people will always feel if your outward protestations of appreciation are authentic or not, which is why a genuine internal change is required for you to see genuine changes in the way people - of in this case women - react to your advances. Adapting a bunch of positive sounding slogans without true inner change will probably just lead to more rejection and frustration... so make sure that you don't build your fancy new house on sand

Yes that's true.

I would argue that I'm not suggesting a "fake it till you make it" approach. I'm talking about genuinely making an effort to shift your focus based on conscious intention. Yes, this will feel awkward and maybe "inauthentic" for a while. That's growth.

[Emotionalmosquito]

6 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

The only thing is, it's you you have to make amends with, not women.

Many men are fully at peace with themselves despite being based woman haters. Would you tell them the same thing? I already love myself enough. My misogyny doesn’t come from hating myself, it comes from being hated by women. Also where some of my kinks come from. If all that’s needed is for men to fix their wounds or whatever then why would an international holiday dedicated to the entire opposite gender be necessary? And I don’t like the idea that I’m trying to apologize to anyone. More like I’m simply doing something healthy by going out of my comfort zone. If anything I’d say they’re the ones with most of the apologizing to do. 

Nobody needs to ass kiss to anyone in this thread. It’s just for sharing what we like about women (challenging as it may be) in celebration of a holiday, nothing more or less.

[Emotionalmosquito]

Yikes! Almost forgot two of the classics 

 

[Emerald]

Here’s a list of some of my most favorite acclaimed women who have been my top role models that have had the most impact on me…

• Jean Raffa
• Bjork
• Marianne Williamson 
• Teal Swan
• Frida Kahlo

And here’s a list of all the female role models that I can think of off the top of my head that I’ve drawn some level of inspiration from…

• Simone Wiel
• June Singer
• Maureen Murdoch
• Aurora
• Jean Shinoda Bolen
• Jessica McClintock 
• Wangechi Mutu
• Chappell Roan
• Natalie Wynn
• Danit
• Dolly Parton

Edited March 9 by Emerald

[Emerald]

32 minutes ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

Many men are fully at peace with themselves despite being based woman haters. Would you tell them the same thing? I already love myself enough. My misogyny doesn’t come from hating myself, it comes from being hated by women. Also where some of my kinks come from. If all that’s needed is for men to fix their wounds or whatever then why would an international holiday dedicated to the entire opposite gender be necessary? And I don’t like the idea that I’m trying to apologize to anyone. More like I’m simply doing something healthy by going out of my comfort zone. If anything I’d say they’re the ones with most of the apologizing to do. 

Nobody needs to ass kiss to anyone in this thread. It’s just for sharing what we like about women (challenging as it may be) in celebration of a holiday, nothing more or less.

It is not possible to hate another person or group of people and be at peace with one’s self.

And as a woman who’s been on the receiving end of misogyny many times, I can tell you that misogyny always comes from deep levels of insecurity and fears of being inferior to women… and a deep resistance to one’s own Feminine side.

Misogynistic men are the ones who are most afraid of women… even if that fear comes out in the form of anger.

If you think the issue is with women… think again. The call is always coming from inside the house… and I’m sure that (deep down) you know this.

[Emotionalmosquito]

14 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

This is like saying sorry to someone and trying to apologize while telling them what they did wrong.

You're trying, but no thank you. I don't feel the appreciation.

 

7 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

The only thing is, it's you you have to make amends with, not women.

I’m sorry but ya got me confused.

First it’s like “Apology not good enough. Not having it.”

Then it’s “Actually you should be apologizing to yourself, not women.”

Are these statements at odds or have I overlooked something?

[Emotionalmosquito]

24 minutes ago, Emerald said:

Here’s a list of some of my most favorite acclaimed women who have been my top role models that have had the most impact on me…

• Jean Raffa
• Bjork
• Marianne Williamson 
• Teal Swan
• Frida Kahlo

And here’s a list of all the female role models that I can think of off the top of my head that I’ve drawn some level of inspiration from…

• Simone Wiel
• June Singer
• Maureen Murdoch
• Aurora
• Jean Shinoda Bolen
• Jessica McClintock 
• Wangechi Mutu
• Chappell Roan
• Natalie Wynn
• Danit
• Dolly Parton

I’m familiar with four of them:

• Bjork 
• Teal Swan
• Aurora 
• Dolly Parton 

Aurora is fucking awesome. One of my best friends, who happens to be double X chromosome, turned me onto her. My top pick from her would have to be 

She also sent me an extensive interview. Seems like an angel.

Teal Swan is cool too. I went through a phase in high school and a few years after where I was bordering obsessed with her. Her videos helped me with some of the shit I was facing at that time. Especially the ones for handling difficult emotions and the meditation techniques. Not to mention I had some of her modeling pictures saved at one point. 

Don’t know much about Bjork or Dolly apart from them being musicians. Except I do know one of the songs I posted (Glasser - Apply) is apparently influenced by Bjork’s style.