How to get over judgement by ex?

[Buck Edwards]

I feel like my ex judged me about a few things. I was unethical with them (don't wanna go into details). I have experienced excessive shame over months and months about the whole situation. I still love them and I guess somewhere deep down I still crave their validation. I know that I did this to myself. But still. I want to be liberated from the need to being or wanting validated. Their validation meant the world to me. Post the break up they blocked me permanently. I live  permanently in rejection mode. It feels like death sometimes. Yea rejection can feel like death. Such coldness. I know I was wrong. And I did wrong again. To be forgiven, accepted, understood, communicated to(rather than communicated at) and loved makes me feel so wholesome. How to deal with such coldness from my ex? 

 

[ExplorerMystic]

@Buck EdwardsYou accept of your wrong doing and move on. On a deeper level of observation both thought & thinking are same. See how thought were supporting you when you were doing wrong & now it is in repentance mode.  Its trickery of conditioned thought system which play with us all. Don’t get me wrong thought system are very necessary tool for survival but in the end it should be seen as a tool & not a master to dictate our reality.

[Princess Arabia]

By stop judging yourself and others. The Universe reflects back to us our own state of consciousness. You only judge others because you judge yourself. This is the by-product of close-mindedness and thinking your standards is the only way people should live. You will encounter judgemental people who will judge you if you don't stop or reduce the judgements that are within you. Become that which you'd like to attract, because it's energetic even though the opposite can also attract because it seeks balance.

[Yimpa]

I’ve been through multiple painful breakups back-to-back in 2023. It all taught me that I need to seriously turn inward, and inward did I turn. It was helpful to have a therapist guide me throughout this entire process.

Ultimately, the deepest strength and healing comes from when you derive the insights and answers to your problems all from scratch, beyond what anyone else can tell or teach you.

Edited February 26 by Yimpa