holier than thou

[bebotalk]

what happens if you cite a prejudice (disliking hot women) in a friendship group where some others are homophobic? if they shout you down for your "bad views", what should one do? 

[Brandon Nankivell]

Questions you could reflect on deeply:

Why does the motive exist to share that within the friendship group?

Is it necessary to share your view in your friendship group?

Secondary questions:

If you were to share your view, what place is it coming from? A need to prove something? A genuine answer of your preferences because you were asked for your view?

If they were to shout down your view, what would be the issue?

You could accept that you have no control over their response.

Are you afraid they won't be pleased with your views and therefore you might lose 'friends'?

Specifically, what are you afraid of and why?

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[bebotalk]

4 minutes ago, Brandon Nankivell said:

Questions you could reflect on deeply:

Why does the motive exist to share that within the friendship group?

Is it necessary to share your view in your friendship group?

Secondary questions:

If you were to share your view, what place is it coming from? A need to prove something? A genuine answer of your preferences because you were asked for your view?

If they were to shout down your view, what would be the issue?

You could accept that you have no control over their response.

Are you afraid they won't be pleased with your views and therefore you might lose 'friends'?

Specifically, what are you afraid of and why?

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it's hypocrisy. all bad views are of equal weight.

humans express views all the time. it's our nature. though the moral condemnation of bad views is of equal weight. The point of this thread was clear and there was no real reason for it to go over your head. I never said I was afraid, just stating that the moral weight of prejudices cancels things out. 

[ted73104]

It would probably be a good time to test your sense of humor, if you're proud or supportive of your prejudice, then you could produce a half-joking statement supporting your view. For example if someone shouted down my preference for hot women, I could say "I'll take a hot bitch over Anderson Cooper anyday!" Something like that.

[bebotalk]

23 hours ago, ted73104 said:

It would probably be a good time to test your sense of humor, if you're proud or supportive of your prejudice, then you could produce a half-joking statement supporting your view. For example if someone shouted down my preference for hot women, I could say "I'll take a hot bitch over Anderson Cooper anyday!" Something like that.

Where is sense of humour related to this? people have negative views. it's best to accept them as such. that's the norm. such is life. unless you're lying or being disingenuous in stating you have no negative views.

[ted73104]

A sense of humour is great when you're among friends and have different negative views, you sort of push back with humorous expressions but avoid any confrontation. You're disagreeing with them but also accepting them as they are when you're humorous.

[bebotalk]

Friends don't barrack each other. Also, there is personal autonomy. Maybe in your church or temple, this isn't prescribed, but the works of some 1000 year old guru aren't really paramount to anything bar your congregation. People have prejudices, it's how it is. We don't live in a utopia but we can improve towards better things. If you think that people don't have bad views, and genuinely believe this, then you're either sheltered or aren't as "wise" as your prescribe. Or are dishonest in your condemnation and refutation of prejudice, or openly selective in condemning such.