What are the consequences of always being single?

[TheGod]

Since I realised that I'm God and I don't need anything or anyone (because I'm everyone and everything) I started questioning my need for relationship with women. I mean I had romantic relationship throughout my life. It all starts with some sort of excitement that slowly disappears and after each break up this question comes back to me : "What was the point?"

I also noticed that the true reason why I start a relationship is my desire to hide from life's challenges in companionship and sex. If I didn't have sexual needs in the first place I would never pursue intimate relationship with women. True intimacy not necessarily requires sexual attraction or desire. I have friends and my mother is one of my best friends. I'm able to be happy on my own, so basically the only thing that I can't do without someone is sex. 

But approaching girls just for that sounds like too much for me. Making all the effort for what? Just for sex? If all I need just sex what's wrong with prostitutes? 

 

[Spiritual Warrior]

It sounds to me like you should take a break from intimate relationships for a little while and take a look at the situation from a disconnected viewpoint. A lot of times this is what gives you clarity on a situation; distance yourself from it and things will fall into place. 

1 hour ago, TheGod said:

 If all I need just sex what's wrong with prostitutes? 

Only you can answer this question 

[Yimpa]

Being in a relationship is simply icing on the cake.

[Spiritual Warrior]

1 hour ago, TheGod said:

But approaching girls just for that sounds like too much for me. Making all the effort for what? Just for sex? 

I would take a look at this statement, is it possible that you are avoiding the emotional labor that is required to get really good with women? Maybe you have constructed this viewpoint so that you don't have to put in the hard work... or maybe not .. just be honest with yourself. 

[TheGod]

5 minutes ago, Spiritual Warrior said:

I would take a look at this statement, is it possible that you are avoiding the emotional labor that is required to get really good with women? Maybe you have constructed this viewpoint so that you don't have to put in the hard work... or maybe not .. just be honest with yourself. 

Yes, you're right. I'm not willing to go trough emotional labour just to get sex. 

I think I'm overestimating the role of women in my life. 

[Princess Arabia]

The real question is, why do you desire sex to begin with. And don't say it's a biological need because that's just something the mind is constructing. We're speaking on a relative level and not from the Absolute because then we'd be taking about having sex with yourself. 

You don't have to go through emotional labor just to get sex. Like you said, prostitutes are there for that quick fix, but what you will quickly realize is that it's not the sex you are after as much but the feeling that it gives you. The quick release that happens through ejaculation, can be had through masturbation, but that's doesn't feel fulfilling, so we desire real sex with a partner. Then when you ejaculate via prostitutes, that feeling would also be temporary and not fulfilling, that's why you want to do it again whether with a prostitute or regular female.

So, if you're not willing to go for the deeper more fulfilling intimacy that a loving relationship can give you, and just go to prostitutes or even the rest of your life with one-night stands, the emotional labor you will experience through those circumstances long-term will be more laborious than you could ever imagine. 

You think you just want sex; but no you don't. You want the feeling of closeness that the sex act brings that you will never get from a prostitute or continuous one-night stands; and you will find yourself in more emotional pain by trying to fool yourself into thinking otherwise.

I hope i said that with clarity as to the point i was trying to make because it was a point that has to be seen through and can be mistaken for it's ambiguous nature.

[TheGod]

1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said:

The real question is, why do you desire sex to begin with. And don't say it's a biological need because that's just something the mind is constructing. We're speaking on a relative level and not from the Absolute because then we'd be taking about having sex with yourself. 

You don't have to go through emotional labor just to get sex. Like you said, prostitutes are there for that quick fix, but what you will quickly realize is that it's not the sex you are after as much but the feeling that it gives you. The quick release that happens through ejaculation, can be had through masturbation, but that's doesn't feel fulfilling, so we desire real sex with a partner. Then when you ejaculate via prostitutes, that feeling would also be temporary and not fulfilling, that's why you want to do it again whether with a prostitute or regular female.

So, if you're not willing to go for the deeper more fulfilling intimacy that a loving relationship can give you, and just go to prostitutes or even the rest of your life with one-night stands, the emotional labor you will experience through those circumstances long-term will be more laborious than you could ever imagine. 

You think you just want sex; but no you don't. You want the feeling of closeness that the sex act brings that you will never get from a prostitute or continuous one-night stands; and you will find yourself in more emotional pain by trying to fool yourself into thinking otherwise.

I hope i said that with clarity as to the point i was trying to make because it was a point that has to be seen through and can be mistaken for it's ambiguous nature.

When I see a hot girl I just want to fuck her. My mind has nothing to do with it. It's pure and instinctive desire to put my dick inside her vagina, That's it. 

I've dated girls in the past, therefore, I know what's the difference between banging girlfriends vs banging prostitutes. There are pros and cons in both options. 

Your idea that intimacy with a girl will ever make me fulfilled is nonsense, You can chase emotional connection with women till the day you die, relationship isn't the solution, 

Only when I'm God I'm fulfilled. 

[Princess Arabia]

28 minutes ago, TheGod said:

When I see a hot girl I just want to fuck her. My mind has nothing to do with it. It's pure and instinctive desire to put my dick inside her vagina, That's it.

There's a reason you have that desire. I'm not saying you'll be totally fulfilled because, innately, you are already fulfilled as Source - you are fulfillment. But that instinctive desire is coming from a particular place other than just instinct, when you tire of that instinctual energy (or however you phrase or call that), you will be desiring and desiring and desiring. You only want to "just" fuck her because you're craving something. You will tire of that feeling in time and it will turn into something else. The difference between you just wanting to "fuck" her VS somebody who wants to get to know her, VS somebody who wants to (fill in the blank) is determined by how much you're intuned and connected to Source.

My point is you'll still be mentally laboring regardless of how many women you sleep with just for the sake of sex, if you're not emotionally in-tuned, maybe just in another way. 

While you're still here in human form, you'll be desiring something, feeling the need to be satisfied somehow. You are God or Source experiencing itself in human form and unless you have given up the desire to keep this form, that form still needs to be maintained. If you're saying you can't do without sex but you're able to be happy on your own, you're just kidding yourself and the more you pursue this craving the more you will recognize that. 

Edited January 30 by Princess Arabia

[TheGod]

29 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

There's a reason you have that desire. I'm not saying you'll be totally fulfilled because, innately, you are already fulfilled as Source - you are fulfillment. But that instinctive desire is coming from a particular place other than just instinct, when you tire of that instinctual energy (or however you phrase or call that), you will be desiring and desiring and desiring. You only want to "just" fuck her because you're craving something. You will tire of that feeling in time and it will turn into something else. The difference between you just wanting to "fuck" her VS somebody who wants to get to know her, VS somebody who wants to (fill in the blank) is determined by how much you're intuned and connected to Source.

 

I'm the Source. I've created this forum and I've created you. As well as every woman that I've been with. 

The best moments of my life were the moments where I was myself. When I was Being. No amount of hot women will ever get me there neither will any kind of relationship. 

I Just miss the time when I was 10 years old. I was so joyful, I didn't have any sexual needs I was just riding my bicycle and that time I was much happier. 

[Princess Arabia]

10 minutes ago, TheGod said:

49 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

 

 

 

 

[Princess Arabia]

13 minutes ago, TheGod said:

I'm the Source.

I am speaking about you when I say Source. 

 

14 minutes ago, TheGod said:

I've created this forum and I've created you. As well as every woman that I've been with.

You didn't create anything. Who is the who that created what. If you say God, then who am I. If you say God then you're saying God created God. You cannot be everything and create everything. I exist in your mind just as those women. 

 

21 minutes ago, TheGod said:

The best moments of my life were the moments where I was myself. When I was Being

You cannot not be yourself, you are Being itself. The question is what are you imagining being.

[Princess Arabia]

23 minutes ago, TheGod said:

I Just miss the time when I was 10 years old. I was so joyful, I didn't have any sexual needs I was just riding my bicycle and that time I was much happier. 

That's just a memory. A story. Just like you're telling yourself you have sexual needs. 

[Yimpa]

One of the consequences is not allowing yourself to be vulnerable to different worldviews. For example, my partner is really into Valentine’s Day whereas I don’t give a crap about holidays. I will pretend to enjoy it and see what happens 

[TheGod]

36 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

You didn't create anything. Who is the who that created what. If you say God, then who am I. If you say God then you're saying God created God. You cannot be everything and create everything. I exist in your mind just as those women. 

I'm creating everything right at this moment as I'm typing these words. You are me but you're not aware of that, because you're not self-conscious. Moreover, you don't even have a body yet

[TheGod]

35 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

That's just a memory. A story. Just like you're telling yourself you have sexual needs. 

You're not getting what I'm saying. I'm not interested in the narratives here, I'm trying to point out to the feeling of freedom and joy. Entiendes? 

[Princess Arabia]

35 minutes ago, TheGod said:

I'm creating everything right at this moment as I'm typing these words. You are me but you're not aware of that, because you're not self-conscious. Moreover, you don't even have a body yet

Lol

[Hojo]

They will do things you dont expect and you will like it. And they smell good. You will feel love come from them. Its not all about sex, they make your life more enjoyable cause they do unexpected cute things that men dont think about.

You miss out on these things and it is a special feeling that you dont let out alot and feels good to do. They can help you open up your heart and if you dont get attached to them doing it you can have it open forever.

Edited January 31 by Hojo

[TheGod]

1 hour ago, Hojo said:

They will do things you dont expect and you will like it. And they smell good. You will feel love come from them. Its not all about sex, they make your life more enjoyable cause they do unexpected cute things that men dont think about.

You miss out on these things and it is a special feeling that you dont let out alot and feels good to do. They can help you open up your heart and if you dont get attached to them doing it you can have it open forever.

That's what I used to think when I was 18. Now I'm too conscious. 

 

[TheGod]

5 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

Lol

You're my toy lalala

[mr_engineer]

13 hours ago, TheGod said:

Since I realised that I'm God and I don't need anything or anyone (because I'm everyone and everything) I started questioning my need for relationship with women. I mean I had romantic relationship throughout my life. It all starts with some sort of excitement that slowly disappears and after each break up this question comes back to me : "What was the point?"

@TheGod First of all, good job getting to this point in your personal growth. Most people are not asking this question. It is a very important question and if those who want romantic-relationships ask this question, this can lead to a lot of reform in the family-system, in law, in religion, everywhere. 

13 hours ago, TheGod said:

I also noticed that the true reason why I start a relationship is my desire to hide from life's challenges in companionship and sex. If I didn't have sexual needs in the first place I would never pursue intimate relationship with women. True intimacy not necessarily requires sexual attraction or desire. I have friends and my mother is one of my best friends. I'm able to be happy on my own, so basically the only thing that I can't do without someone is sex. 

But approaching girls just for that sounds like too much for me. Making all the effort for what? Just for sex? If all I need just sex what's wrong with prostitutes? 

That is exactly right. Sex is not worth all of that effort. For the same reason that going to fancy restaurants, going on fancy vacations and having fancy stuff is not worth slaving away for 60 hours a week at a job you hate. Consumerism does not give you long-term happiness! 

When you believe that the point of a relationship/dating, as a man, is to 'get laid', you have the dating-mindset of a consumer. You're asking her the question 'how can you make me happy?' You think there is a definite answer to this question, you want her to do something that would make you happy. You define 'compatibility' like this, you go through the struggle of finding this person and in the end, it doesn't work. 

The root-cause of this dating-mindset is because of the sex sells media and because of online-dating. Sex sells on social-media, actual media, movies, pop-culture and porn. Even in parties, sex is seen as nothing more than a 'fun activity'. The consumeristic mindset is the default mindset for everyone. And, the 'red pill' ideology talks about 'SMV', which is, how to pander to the consumeristic mindset of women. What this leads to, is a dating-culture that's heavily transactional. So, if your question is 'Why has this worked up until this point?' or 'Why is this mindset so widespread in dating?', this is the answer. And, you will have to do something out of the ordinary to resolve this situation. 

So, what do you do to resolve this situation?

• Take a step out of sexual-relationships for a bit and focus on seeking out people you can actually connect with. If you have an avoidant attachment-style, focus on healing that. Focus on being vulnerable with these people with whom you don't have any important transactions going on. When you do this, you may see the ways in which you're being inauthentic in your life and this may give you an existential-crisis. Because you would have been wrong about who you are up until this point. Even if you were right, now, you're changing and this will call for big changes in your life.
• So, the next step would be to focus on finding yourself, redefining your values in life and behaving authentically in your life, embodying authenticity. This will radically change your life.
• Then, when you self-actualize (or when you get back on track towards self-actualization), the next step would be to reassess your understanding of relationships and to learn about relationships. This, potentially, could be doing inner-child work, trauma-resolution, learning about emotions, changing your conditioning about relationships, rewriting your life-story into something more realistic (as opposed to what you're conditioned to believe about yourself), understanding psychology and figuring out how to have realistic expectations from people, figuring out your unmet needs in relationships, changing your vision in relationships, redefining 'the right person' for yourself and coming up with a different dating-strategy to find this 'right person'.
• Then, finally, the next step is to embark on the journey of 'getting ready' for this relationship, where you align your life towards creating this new lifestyle with this person (or people, depending on your vision). 

It is in this process of 'getting ready' to actualize your vision, in which you will find the 'meaning' in dating-activities, or the 'point' of dating-activities. 

Edited January 31 by mr_engineer