How to approach girls in small town

[evgn]

I live in a town with  approximately 100,000 people. Majority of young people know eachother or atleast seen eachother somewhere. 

How can i start approacing women. I am 30 years old.

[Schizophonia]

You go to a restaurant, you sit down, have a coffee, and when a pretty chick shows up you say to her:
“Hey ma’am, would you like to eat an ice CrEaM with me? ”

Guaranteed effect

[Schizophonia]

Jokes aside, why this sentence : "Majority of young people know eachother or atleast seen eachother somewhere" ?

[Yimpa]

Compliment something about her outfit. Maybe her shoes. Or her earrings. Do it in a playful way.

[Raze]

https://www.girlschase.com/content/urbanization-romantic-anonymity-and-birth-game

[Tboy]

Dude, follow Leo's advice and move to a big city. If you don't want to do that, then you're not serious

Edited January 29 by Tboy

[something_else]

The short answer is “don’t”

Not to say you can’t talk to women and build up a social circle there, you absolutely should do that. But the traditional pickup framework of “cold approaching” lots of girls in a small town is likely to build you a bad reputation very quickly.

[Emotionalmosquito]

On 1/29/2024 at 9:03 PM, something_else said:

The short answer is “don’t”

Not to say you can’t talk to women and build up a social circle there, you absolutely should do that. But the traditional pickup framework of “cold approaching” lots of girls in a small town is likely to build you a bad reputation very quickly.

 

22 hours ago, DefinitelyNotARobot said:

This. Word could quickly get around in such a small place if there was some "weirdo who keeps creeping out all the girls" running around.

I’ve posted these before but they’re even more relevant now, it’s exactly what you guys are talking about and what I’ve been saying this whole time 

[Miguel1]

The best thing you can do is move to a bigger city.

There is no way to learn this if you don't even have people to approach in the first place.

[evgn]

Ok then, let say at this point i cannot aford moving to bigger city. 

How could i meet women im my current circumstances? In my social circle there are no women that i am interested in. 

[Miguel1]

1 minute ago, evgn said:

Ok then, let say at this point i cannot aford moving to bigger city. 

How could i meet women im my current circumstances? In my social circle there are no women that i am interested in. 

Part of becoming good at this is taking care of your base finances first.

Don't put the cart before the horse.

[Emotionalmosquito]

“Don’t worry if you look weird or embarrass yourself. It’s all in you head, bro. It’s a much bigger deal to you than it is to them. After ten minutes go by, she’ll have completely forgotten about you or won’t care anymore.”

“Approaching in a smaller city is likely to get you a negative reputation.”

These two takes on the matter are 100% at odds with each other. You may pick only one. Which is it?

Edited February 1 by Emotionalmosquito

[Schizophonia]

13 minutes ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

“Don’t worry if you look weird or embarrass yourself. It’s all in you head, bro. It’s a much bigger deal to you than it is to them. After ten minutes go by, she’ll have completely forgotten about you or won’t care anymore.”

“Approaching in a smaller city is likely to get you a negative reputation.”

These two takes on the matter are 100% at odds with each other. You may pick only one. Which is it?

Get social and find a nice, pretty girl to make lots of mini Emotionalmosquitos.

No need to go in the pick up path.

 

Edited February 1 by Schizophonia

[something_else]

7 hours ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

“Don’t worry if you look weird or embarrass yourself. It’s all in you head, bro. It’s a much bigger deal to you than it is to them. After ten minutes go by, she’ll have completely forgotten about you or won’t care anymore.”

“Approaching in a smaller city is likely to get you a negative reputation.”

These two takes on the matter are 100% at odds with each other. You may pick only one. Which is it?

They aren’t at odds with each other at all. The scale of the city makes a huge difference. In a large city with 8mil people the former is true. In a 100k city the later is true.

Also the scale of your social fuck ups makes a difference too. The more people in a city the weirder you have to be to build up a reputation, so if you are seriously under-socialised then moving to a bigger city gives you much more breathing room to fuck things up while you are learning how not to be a weirdo.

[Emotionalmosquito]

2 hours ago, something_else said:

They aren’t at odds with each other at all. The scale of the city makes a huge difference. In a large city with 8mil people the former is true. In a 100k city the later is true.

Also the scale of your social fuck ups makes a difference too. The more people in a city the weirder you have to be to build up a reputation, so if you are seriously under-socialised then moving to a bigger city gives you much more breathing room to fuck things up while you are learning how not to be a weirdo.

I fully understand all that. My problem is people are saying women forget about or don’t care that much about your fuck ups because apparently they’re not significant enough to be an issue to them. How can that be the case if you’re also at risk of developing infamy? If you end up with a negative reputation as the the town creep from your pickup blowouts, that clearly means it is a very big deal to them, because why else would they attach the harmful stigma to you? That’s what I mean by they’re at odds with each other.

Edited February 2 by Emotionalmosquito

[EdgeGod900]

@evgn Any updates?? If you're still at a stalemate, maybe you should change your approach and really consider what people have been saying -- be patient and get your money up. Besides there's so many whores online that you're bound to find someone who looks just like your crush, from this degenerate-backwards-closeminded-wierdo galore(that is your small town), who you can jack off to.

 

Unsolicited Advice: Always go for dumb/crazy girls, unless you're some beta cuck who likes to be manhandled by their girl. Also dumb girls are very gullible, so you can tell her that swallowing your cum has anti-aging properites and she'll believe it.

Edited February 10 by EdgeGod900