Is rejection and heartbreak are process for getting better with girls ?

[Rishabh R]

44 minutes ago, Hojo said:

@Rishabh R there is sadhguru quote that you need to thank someone who broke your heart cause they started you on the spiritual journey. Its a forced dis identification where you feel like you are dying and you can use it to awaken.

Right now I contemplated -What is the truth about my personal life ?

Answers are counterintutive :

I am attractive

I have attracted many people

That I have overcome bullshitty situations 

Why?

Because I took action and moved on

[Hojo]

@Rishabh R  cry alot too. It is a secret forgetting tool humans have.

[Yimpa]

1 hour ago, Rishabh R said:

That I have overcome bullshitty situations 

Why?

Because I took action and moved on

Nice!

[Yimpa]

16 minutes ago, Squeekytoy said:

Can confirm...

Thank you for breaking my heart. You’ve also taught me to heal the hatred within me that I’ve held onto for far too long. 

[Yimpa]

16 minutes ago, Squeekytoy said:

how so?

I have a long history of defending against and judging worldviews that weren’t compatible with my own, especially ones that were forced upon me without my consent. I’m now freeing myself from needing to engage in such behaviors and mindset. I intuitively realize that that’ll always be a losing game no matter how highly developed one’s worldview gets. This took me years of inner and outer work to realize.

There’s freedom and expanded connection when we allow all perspectives to coexist while simultaneously respecting our own authority. This is also how we’ll be able to significantly reduce conflicts and misunderstandings. 

[SeaMonster]

On 1/13/2024 at 7:31 AM, Rishabh R said:

The girls whom I hit on after a while either I come to know that they already have a boyfriend or they reject me and become someone else's girlfriends. This is the problem and I am responsible for solving this problem.

In order to understand what's going, you need to see the pattern with all the details filled in.

E.g, it almost sounds like you fall in love very quickly or superficially (if you use words like "heartbroken.")

Is this really love, though, or are you investing your emotions into a fantasy or compulsion of some type? How would you know if these women are WORTH loving if you're not even in a REAL relationship with them?

The problem with rejection is the problem of perception.

When you ask a girl out, you're asking to get to know her better.  That's all it is.  You shouldn't be investing all kinds of emotions into an object of fantasy.