My second salsa dancing experience

[Spiritual Warrior]

Hello, for anyone that cares, I am going to my second social dancing experience tonight. After last time, I got some great advice from all of you, and my main and only objective tonight is to have fun, have as much fun as a human can possibly have. 

I'll share my experience with you all later. Now I can't chicken out. 

[Princess Arabia]

Have fun. Hope it goes well.

[Spiritual Warrior]

I'm hosting at a restaurant, planning on going out salsa dancing afterwards

Halfway through the shift, I decide that I'm not feeling up to going out, so I text my buddy and tell him "I'm not feeling it, I'm sorry"

2 minutes later, My work friend at the host stand asks me what I would like my life to look like in a few years

Wow.. I think to myself.. what timing

I smile and then tell him that the main thing that I want is an abundance of women, I want to be able to have options, many options

We both laugh about it

 

I decide that this is a sign that I should go out tonight, this kid just reminded me of my greater vision

I check my phone and I see that the message didn't actually send.. I don't redeliver it and instead say something like "Yo, we still going out tonight??" and I make sure this one delivers

I love coincidences like this, it feels as if God is gently guiding me down the path that my character would like to go down

You can't make this stuff up

 

I get out of work early, shower and head to the dance studio to pick up my friend

He is chipper and full of energy as he always is

I am quiet but fully present while he talks

 

We get to the salsa dancing place and I'm not nervous but my energy levels are not high

As soon as you walk in, there is a dance floor, its not very crowded tonight

My friend and I bounce up and down a bit and then he spots a couple of ladies in the corner

We walk over to them and ask them to dance with us, with a smile they politely say no and that they don't know how to dance

 

My buddy tells me to approach another woman across the dance floor thats standing alone

I really need this push because I am not feeling very confident right now

I approach the woman with a smile and ask her for a dance

She happily agrees and we start dancing the salsa

 

I initiate the basic salsa step

Her frame and hands are soft and easy to move

She is responsive and fully surrenders to my lead

I lead her in a few moves but I realize that I don't have the masculine energy inside of me right now to lead an engaging dance

I don't understand why this is, but I trudge on, leading her in underarm turns, cross body leads and side basics

 

In order to lead a good dance, a man needs to have a masculine presence, in which he is confident and assertive in his moves and decision making

I have none of this right now, and as a matter of fact, in the head space that I'm in right now, I'd much rather surrender and not have to make any decisions at all

This is what makes a woman a good dancer, she needs to be able to surrender to the masculine's lead and be receptive to his signals

 

We men can't be masculine all of the time.. and thats okay. 

 

The woman thanks me for the dance and walks away

So that I don't lose my momentum, I immediately approach another woman

She is much older than me and has a more dominating presence

I attempt to lead her in a salsa, but she is doing her own thing

She's moving her feet back and forth in a way that is a combination of a bachata and a merengue

She is gripping my hands in a way that is suffocating, I can't move them

I attempt to turn her but she doesn't listen, then she decides its time and turns herself

She tells me that I am off beat but I don't even know what dance that we're doing and truthfully I don't think there's a name for it

Despite all of this, I am still enjoying myself

This lasts a few minutes and then she leaves

 

I will never end a dance, I always wait for the girl to end it

I do this because I've had a history of bailing on things once the going gets tough

By doing this, I am steering away from the path of least resistance

 

After this, I decide that I genuinely do not want to dance anymore tonight, I just don't have it in me

I head to the bar so that I can sit down

My new role is to sit here until my friend wants to leave, allow him to have his fun

I sit there for a solid hour and drink two beers

I have two brief conversations with a man and a woman within this time period and of course my buddy checks in on me periodically

I am content

 

Its almost midnight and my buddy finally comes over to me and sits down

I spot a cute girl across the bar and I ask him if he wants to approach her and her friend with me

I walk over there with a smile, my buddy right behind me

The girl sneezes as soon as I get over there and I say bless you lol 

I ask her a few basic questions and she answers them in an uninteresting manner

After just a couple of minutes, I don't want to talk anymore

My buddy continues to talk to the other girl because he thinks he needs to keep her occupied, but I really just want to leave

I just don't have the masculine energy in me right now to lead anyone in anything, dance, social conversation, whatever it may be

And again, thats okay

 

I still came out and I approached 3 girls to dance with me and I approached 1 girl in a conversational manner

Until next time...

Edited January 5 by Spiritual Warrior

[Yimpa]

4 minutes ago, Spiritual Warrior said:

You can't make this stuff up

Paradoxically you also can make this stuff up, and that’s what makes life magical.

[Yimpa]

7 minutes ago, Spiritual Warrior said:

I decide that this is a sign that I should go out tonight, this kid just reminded me of my greater vision

 

 

[Israfil]

7 minutes ago, Spiritual Warrior said:

I'm hosting at a restaurant, planning on going out salsa dancing afterwards

Halfway through the shift, I decide that I'm not feeling up to going out, so I text my buddy and tell him "I'm not feeling it, I'm sorry"

2 minutes later, My work friend at the host stand asks me what I would like my life to look like in a few years

Wow.. I think to myself.. what timing

I smile and then tell him that the main thing that I want is an abundance of women, I want to be able to have options, many options

We both laugh about it

 

I decide that this is a sign that I should go out tonight, this kid just reminded me of my greater vision

I check my phone and I see that the message didn't actually send.. I don't redeliver it and instead say something like "Yo, we still going out tonight??" and I make sure this one delivers

I love coincidences like this, it feels as if God is gently guiding me down the path that my character would like to go down

You can't make this stuff up

 

I get out of work early, shower and head to the dance studio to pick up my friend

He is chipper and full of energy as he always is

I am quiet but fully present while he talks

 

We get to the salsa dancing place and I'm not nervous but my energy levels are not high

As soon as you walk in, there is a dance floor, its not very crowded tonight

My friend and I bounce up and down a bit and then he spots a couple of ladies in the corner

We walk over to them and ask them to dance with us, with a smile they politely say no and that they don't know how to dance

 

My buddy tells me to approach another woman across the dance floor thats standing alone

I really need this push because I am not feeling very confident right now

I approach the woman with a smile and ask her for a dance

She happily agrees and we start dancing the salsa

 

I initiate the basic salsa step

Her frame and hands are soft and easy to move

She is responsive and fully surrenders to my lead

I lead her in a few moves but I realize that I don't have the masculine energy inside of me right now to lead an engaging dance

I don't understand why this is, but I trudge on, leading her in underarm turns, cross body leads and side basics

 

In order to lead a good dance, a man needs to have a masculine presence, in which he is confident and assertive in his moves and decision making

I have none of this right now, and as a matter of fact, in the head space that I'm in right now, I'd much rather surrender and not have to make any decisions at all

This is what makes a woman a good dancer, she needs to be able to surrender to the masculine's lead and be receptive to his signals

 

We men can't be masculine all of the time.. and thats okay. 

 

The woman thanks me for the dance and walks away

So that I don't lose my momentum, I immediately approach another woman

She is much older than me and has a more dominating presence

I attempt to lead her in a salsa, but she is doing her own thing

She's moving her feet back and forth in a way that is a combination of a bachata and a merengue

She is gripping my hands in a way that is suffocating, I can't move them

I attempt to turn her but she doesn't listen, then she decides its time and turns herself

She tells me that I am off beat but I don't even know what dance that we're doing and truthfully I don't think there's a name for it

Despite all of this, I am still enjoying myself

This lasts a few minutes and then she leaves

 

I will never end a dance, I always wait for the girl to end it

I do this because I've had a history of bailing on things once the going gets tough

By doing this, I am steering away from the path of least resistance

 

After this, I decide that I genuinely do not want to dance anymore tonight, I just don't have it in me

I head to the bar so that I can sit down

My new role is to sit here until my friend wants to leave, allow him to have his fun

I sit there for a solid hour and drink two beers

I have two brief conversations with a man and a woman within this time period and of course my buddy checks in on me periodically

I am content

 

Its almost midnight and my buddy finally comes over to me and sits down

I spot a cute girl across the bar and I ask him if he wants to approach her and her friend with me

I walk over there with a smile, my buddy right behind me

The girl sneezes as soon as I get over there and I say bless you lol 

I ask her a few basic questions and she answers them in an uninteresting manner

After just a couple of minutes, I don't want to talk anymore

My buddy continues to talk to the other girl because he thinks he needs to keep her occupied, but I really just want to leave

I just don't have the masculine energy in me right now to lead anyone in anything, dance, social conversation, whatever it may be

And again, thats okay

 

I still came out and I approached 3 girls to dance with me and I approached 1 girl in a conversational manner, which I've only done a handful of times in my life

Until next time...

That was great, man. You're getting good at it! 

[Raze]

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