Boyfriend being too cheap

[AndylizedAAY]

On 05/01/2024 at 2:47 AM, Leo Gura said:

@Squeekytoy Don't be a jerk.

https://media.tenor.com/osCPfu60X2MAAAAM/dont-be-a-jerk-jimmy-valmer.gif

[PurpleTree]

On 3.1.2024 at 0:30 PM, Barbella said:

I saw he has some chocolate and I asked him if I can have it, and he told me no because it's too expensive and that I can have cheaper one. I was honestly so hurt by that. (chocolate is like 4$)

😂

[Yimpa]

A lover I met recently during a trip is so attracted to me that they would spend all their time and money just to see me again (about a 2 hr drive). They also happen to be in a very vulnerable and difficult place in their life. The mature thing for me to do is to not let them see me for free; to slow down our relationship - taking a scenic route instead of a highway to hell. 

[Schizophonia]

9 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

A lover I met recently during a trip is so attracted to me that they would spend all their time and money just to see me again (about a 2 hr drive). They also happen to be in a very vulnerable and difficult place in their life. The mature thing for me to do is to not let them see me for free; to slow down our relationship - taking a scenic route instead of a highway to hell. 

They ? 

Edited January 7 by Schizophonia

[Lyubov]

He’s free to be who he is. It is not your job to change him. Be open and honest an discuss it with him, understand and have a genuine conversation. If you don’t see yourself on the same page with him after, then accept him for who he is and continue the relationship or leave him. It’s not that complicated, jsut open and honest communication to see if you can come to terms with each other. 

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Lyubov said:

He’s free to be who he is. It is not your job to change him. Be open and honest an discuss it with him, understand and have a genuine conversation. If you don’t see yourself on the same page with him after, then accept him for who he is and continue the relationship or leave him. It’s not that complicated, jsut open and honest communication to see if you can come to terms with each other. 

It's not that complicated for him to share with her either. He's not free to be who he is when he took it upon himself to have a girlfriend. Don't tell this lady it's not that complicated. You don't know the feelings she has for him. Easy for you to say. 

[Yimpa]

10 hours ago, Schizophonia said:

They ? 

Yes, I’ve been attracting many people lately who don’t strictly identify as either male or female. Humans are fascinating creatures 

[Schizophonia]

2 hours ago, Yimpa said:

Yes, I’ve been attracting many people lately who don’t strictly identify as either male or female. Humans are fascinating creatures 

This dichotomy is just a way of classifying people according to their genitals and what results from them (endocrine, physical profile, etc.). I don't understand this authentication thing. Maybe inside you are more “feminine” than most men but who cares? It's just energy.

 

I play vinegar preservative, but I believe that any form of identification is a trap at one point or another, and basically an ego-enhancing game. From nationalism to gender theory.

 

I hope I'm stupid and don't understand something somewhere 👍

[Lyubov]

8 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

It's not that complicated for him to share with her either. He's not free to be who he is when he took it upon himself to have a girlfriend. Don't tell this lady it's not that complicated. You don't know the feelings she has for him. Easy for you to say. 

That’s not under her control though. She can only accept him for who he is or choose to leave him, or have a conversation with him and see if he changes. This is the process of dating and relating to people. It’s entirely her choice to stay with him or leave, and make the choice best for her. She isn’t a victim here. She will be fine either way. 

Edited January 8 by Lyubov

[Princess Arabia]

4 hours ago, Lyubov said:

That’s not under her control though. She can only accept him for who he is or choose to leave him, or have a conversation with him and see if he changes. This is the process of dating and relating to people. It’s entirely her choice to stay with him or leave, and make the choice best for her. She isn’t a victim here. She will be fine either way. 

That's sounds a lot better than, it's not complicated. It might not be in certain cases; but since we don't know the entire details of their relationship, it's not up to us to say whether it's complicated or not. Some people invest in their relationships in various ways; and even though we have to walk away from certain things in life, it's not up to us on the outside looking in to just blatantly say it's not that complicated. Not everyone treats their relationships in a way where walking away is that easy.

 

[Yimpa]

A free, 1 hour video call with your lover is worth 1 million bucks 

[Schizophonia]

1 hour ago, Yimpa said:

A free, 1 hour video call with your lover is worth 1 million bucks 

Yimpa is happy these times, lol. 

[Recursoinominado]

Man, this seems extremely unattractive.

[Yimpa]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

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A free, 1 hour video call with your lover is worth 1 million bucks

Yimpa is happy these times, lol. 

Yes, but this ain’t no Rocky movie. Working on building a relationship with your lover won’t happen in a single two hour timeframe. It’ll take multiple rounds of lovin 

 

 

Edited January 9 by Yimpa

[Princess Arabia]

3 hours ago, Squeekytoy said:

@Barbella So I've given this some thought, and it occurred to me that this is about feeling taken care of and feeling like he wants to share his life with you.

If that sounds about right then you might want to tell him that too.

If I was insensitive before, I apologize. I promise you I'm a teddy bear at heart. Or a rubber ducky I guess 😊

She hasn't even replied to any responses and has abandoned her post so it doesn't even matter. Don't want to judge and i dont know the circumstances why, but when I say what we put out to the Universe is what we get back, this is one example. Figure out what I'm saying. I won't get too detailed about it as it's coming from a place of not knowing the details.

[Princess Arabia]

8 minutes ago, Squeekytoy said:

About what? 

About her situation. She hasn't been back to her post but we're here commenting and giving advice and apologizing to a ghost. Who knows, her bf probably choked her to death for eating his chocolate.

[Princess Arabia]

10 minutes ago, Squeekytoy said:

About what? 

I'm saying it's insensitive to make a post asking for advice and abandon it and maybe that's why she attracted an insensitive bf because she is. Just saying.

[Schizophonia]

4 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

I'm saying it's insensitive to make a post asking for advice and abandon it and maybe that's why she attracted an insensitive bf because she is. Just saying.

No.
She's a little low on energy and used to going with the flow, even going out with a guy like that.
As not much matters in this energy system, this topic was basically made to "furnish" and try to remind herself that it exists, basically to feed her ego.
Look closely, there is no real question even conveyed tacitly, or at least the answers to possible questions are quite obvious, it is just a matter of explaining a crazy personal situation and letting the egos of others react.
Now she just doesn't really know what to do with her topic (because the fundamental goal was not to have answers or to discuss a problem that she doesn't really understand!).

Edited January 9 by Schizophonia

[Schizophonia]

Btw, this is not important, because the vast majority of exchanges have the fundamental purpose of feeding the ego. (including this one, of course).
We are full of poop. 

 

Edited January 9 by Schizophonia

[Israfil]

1 hour ago, Schizophonia said:

We are full of poop. 

 

Just took a shit.

Speak for yourself, egocentric boy.