Hopeless incels support group

[Emotionalmosquito]

Those of you who are at the lowest point of your entire life, anyone who gets chewed up and spit out by the ruthlessness of human nature at every single attempt to acquire a girl, anyone who feels absolutely destroyed far beyond any possible hope of repair due to your crippling inability to gain any dating experience, get in here and tell me your story. Feel free to get angry and blow off some of that steam you have bursting at the seams.

We need to remind each other we’re not alone.

People often tell me they’ve been where I’m at; that they’ve faced the same challenges I’m facing. Perhaps they have, but one look at just how bleak my situation is gives me serious doubts.

Have you guys who’ve “been there” really ever fallen this far into the pits of mental hell? Have you felt like every last ounce of good vibe or positivity has been sucked out of you every time you come home from a night out, or spent most of your time feeling that way even without going out? Have you ever been to the point where the happiest thoughts you can think is for women and happy couples to be brought to the same level of misery as you? Because I’m there now.

I love this scene from Hereditary 

Always brings a tear to my eye. This is the best depiction I’ve ever seen of the inner agony of being a hard stuck incel. Of course I’ve never lost a child so it may not be identically the same, but it’s damn close. I know that feeling when I see it, especially when it’s done this well.

Just throw in some rage of a thousand gods of chaos in addition to the devastating sadness and there you have it.

Edited January 1 by Emotionalmosquito

[Someone here]

You don't need a girlfriend to be happy and satisfied in life. 

Are you open to this possibility? 

[Miguel1]

Tbh, you sound depressed. Have you looked into this?

I can almost guarantee you, that if you just go out to socialize, and take small steps (30-60 mins per night at first), you will slowly learn to enjoy socializing a lot. It will get to a point where it gives you a ton of joy.

Most of my nights are so fun that a lot of times, I would rather take the 3 hours of fun socializing vs going home with a girl and having sex with her for 30 minutes.

Now of course, if you live in a small populated area (which I know you do), then you are fairly limited. But even, then you can put yourself out there and learn to enjoy socializing. Also, you can work on moving to a bigger populated area.

This is very learnable and doable, but of course it requires work. 

[mr_engineer]

I've had my low points. But this->

1 hour ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

Have you ever been to the point where the happiest thoughts you can think is for women and happy couples to be brought to the same level of misery as you? Because I’m there now.

This is not supposed to happen. 

If you're living alone, I'd rather you live with your mom than be thinking these thoughts. I don't care how toxic/dysfunctional that relationship is. I'd rather you give up the battle to make it on your own, admit defeat and live with your mom, than be in a state where you're so stuck that the only relief you see is to do something heinous. 

If you're stuck, take a step back. 

[Jannes]

@Miguel1 Thats very inspiring and somehow touches brief chapters in my past where it was similar to me.  (not with sex though) thanks for sharing!

@Emotionalmosquito I am not sure what you are doing but night game can be pretty harsh. Are you doing some other social activities? Some kind of sport or club can be good to be social and it's not overly demanding. You dont need to be a party maker to be a part of the group there. 

[Ulax]

@Emotionalmosquito Have you looked into complex ptsd mate?

[Thought Art]

Why are you an incel?

[tenfo]

I know where you coming from and I'm in a similar situation, living in a small area where meeting new people on a daily basis is not an option. I personally haven't ever been so 'low' because of it, and even if I did and I shared my story that you can relate to - what good would this bring you? This would be like making a pity party that can maybe offer you some temporary relief, but in the long run it would keep you exactly where you're at.

Try to work on some other things in your life like building a business, for me personally this takes so much time that I barely even have any left to think about girls (this can also be a problem so don't take it too far).. Build other non-romantic relationships with people, and if you already have friends - spend more time with them.

One more thing which you might or might not be open to - look into escorts, it can release some of the pressure/sexual frustration. But at the same time work on moving to a larger populated city where you can meet girls by approaching.

Edited January 1 by tenfo

[Princess Arabia]

All this is doing is re-enforcing this identity. You will forever be powerless in this arena. You are unaware of who you are. You are shining your light and keeping your Awareness on something that is not serving you. You as God created this monstrosity of an experience for yourself. You have created this with your inner power and now you ae recreating it in every single moment you put your focus on it. You are dropping pebbles in the ocean and creating a ripple effect each time you keep recreating these scenes within your Awareness.

It's one thing to have challenges in life. It's another to hold unto them by creating a space where you just jeep remembering and remembering and remembering them by making threads about them without trying to come up with solutions to the challenge. You are not realizing what you are doing by creating a space for this. This is how powerful you are, so much so that you have created a space within you and a container that will keep this is your psyche until you've decided to let go of this incel identity that you've kept alive with your continuous focus and attention on this type of energy. This is INSANITY and unconsciousness. 

Edited January 1 by Princess Arabia

[Yimpa]

2 hours ago, Someone here said:

You don't need a girlfriend to be happy and satisfied in life. 

Are you open to this possibility? 

Wise… Looks like you finally got some sleep 

[Princess Arabia]

5 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

Wise… Looks like you finally got some sleep 

No, he's waking up.

[Tenebroso]

I am where you are. I cut out numbing distractions like porn, alcohol etc in 2023. It gives you great clarity but that clarity only makes your despair more painful. I take it day by day, hour by hour for example today about 4 films I love were on television unexpectedly, it took me out of my dark stupor for half of the day.

My birthday is just before Christmas and as usual I spent my birthday, Christmas and new years alone apart from some volunteering. Life isn't fair while we live quiet lives of desperation another guy has more friends and women than you can imagine it's not because we are horrible, terrible people it's just the randomness of life. My Father was a violent, abusive man and ended up with 7 children that we know of from multiple women. I try to find joy in small things but deep down I wish I had never been born, progressing spiritually doesn't mask the inherent nastiness of this world, it's just another cope.

[Someone here]

2 hours ago, Yimpa said:

Wise… Looks like you finally got some sleep 

Did I sound wasted yesterday having not slept in  a while ?

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, Tenebroso said:

I am where you are. I cut out numbing distractions like porn, alcohol etc in 2023. It gives you great clarity but that clarity only makes your despair more painful. I take it day by day, hour by hour for example today about 4 films I love were on television unexpectedly, it took me out of my dark stupor for half of the day.

My birthday is just before Christmas and as usual I spent my birthday, Christmas and new years alone apart from some volunteering. Life isn't fair while we live quiet lives of desperation another guy has more friends and women than you can imagine it's not because we are horrible, terrible people it's just the randomness of life. My Father was a violent, abusive man and ended up with 7 children that we know of from multiple women. I try to find joy in small things but deep down I wish I had never been born, progressing spiritually doesn't mask the inherent nastiness of this world, it's just another cope.

Ok God! Declare away.

[Majed]

@Emotionalmosquito look buddy you're either gonna change your mindset or i recommend you get banned.

when was the last time you went to the club and talked to girls ? even if you don't get laid, just seeing girls reacting to your approaches positively will change your mindset. 

[Miguel1]

1 hour ago, Majed said:

even if you don't get laid, just seeing girls reacting to your approaches positively will change your mindset. 

With his emotional negativity and attitude atm, he will most likely just get negative reactions and hard blowouts by girls. Which leads to even worse negativity.

It's a self-fulfilling prophecy and a negative loop.

He needs to work a bit on his negativity first before going out, because otherwise it will be a nightmare with his negativity. Why would girls want to be around such energy?

[Miguel1]

4 minutes ago, Squeekytoy said:

Negativity can be a bullshit-burning inferno.

Also the best way to run away from the work.

[Thought Art]

7 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

The government needs to erect a national support hotties line for lonely people. Let’s make our taxpayer money work even harder.

That number would be 6969. It’s easy to remember.

Please don't be a troll or you will receive warning points.

 

[Yimpa]

1 minute ago, Thought Art said:

Please don't be a troll or you will receive warning points.

Will do

[SeaMonster]

It already exists -- it's called Black Pill.

Won't make your life better, but if anything misery loves company .

Maybe changing one thing about your life would be a good start towards hope.