its ok to feel bad for how unfair the world is.

[mmmjjj]

i have seen a few posts on here always trying to paint things in a light that people who have advantages are somehow cursed with it. i dont think that is a good way to deal with your emotions. it only makes your hatred for them grow and your compassion to disadvantaged people and yourself shrink. it is ok to feel bad. the world is not fair in pretty much everything. this is not just about the posts on hot women and the leo bulldoze through the pain and take initiative and it is your fault post. it is also just a general sense of acceptance that is lacking. sure you can spend hours trying to pick up women or whatever but your emotions about why you have to do all this and they dont are not going to go away. none of your cope phrases like they will be ugly at 40 or whatever is going to numb them. i assure you an average 45 year old women will have more options than you will ever dream of. but she has probably satisfied her casual sex itch and is looking for something better unlike you. you all sound like a disabled person saying able bodied people are taking their able bodies for granted and somehow that makes them the real advantaged person here. sometimes i doubt you guys are real people. how have you not had a pleasant conversation with handsome/pretty people? or just an average women your age that has 5 cool guys reacting to her ig stories?  it is better to have more options period. that is why everyone wants to look better. and sometimes some people are so ugly that they spend all their lives alone. no amount of "oh but beauty is temporary" will fill their void. be compassionate with yourself it is ok to feel sad that you are not a pretty woman, or a women in that matter. yes it is easier to be a women, in this aspect, because they are the ones who pick.

now there are obviously bad things about being a women but definitely not their options: like sexual harassment and feeling unsafe, losing years taking care of kids plus labor, not being taken seriously and always trying to prove yourself, or god forbid you live in a 3rd world country you are basically property. but you guys don't care about any of this because it doesn't have the emotional impact that like denying that their attractiveness is working in their favor and saying they are lesser people because of it.

have compassion for yourself first then fix yourself up and take action. and do not do anything you would be ashamed to tell your kid to do if he was in your position.

[tenfo]

It's okay to feel bad about anything but the questions is for how long? Because this feeling will over time turn into depression and resentment that builds up will make you turn to toxic ideologies. Nothing good about that will come about!

I'm sure you also have some unfair advantages compared to other people, use them for your and other people benefit. It will make you feel good and most people will appreciate it..

You have to change your mindset, otherwise even if you do start getting results with girls not a thing will change about your overall wellbeing.

I understand your POV and it's easier said than done, but look at these hurdles with a "challenge accepted" mindset.