Incels - pity over mockery?

[bebotalk]

Most instances of sex are not reproductive, even in relationships or marriages. The two are not the same imho. 

 

[WritingHands]

On 1/5/2024 at 9:15 PM, Hojo said:

@bebotalk without sex there is no one to drink water.

True

I go on days starving, watching hentai and allat

On 12/27/2023 at 7:51 PM, Emotionalmosquito said:

Sex is a need, a very strong one. It may not kill you quickly like going without food but it does kill you slowly and more painfully of self destruction 

This tbh

[hoodrow trillson]

I can't hate on incels.

I'm a "hot" guy and I have maybe two friends that would be considered "incels" (but not the internet definition where they are assholes) -- they just get no ass, ever lol.  I've known them since we were kids and we played in the neighborhood as children but they moved away but we stayed in touch and eventually they moved back close to where I live, so I see them much more regularly now.  So there's that bond, even though our dating and sex prospects are vastly different.  They're the homies, I love 'em.

My biggest observation, is their lack of experience with talking to girls (shooting the shit, trolling her playfully, being in the moment, talking about what the fuck ever without being nervous) is like some type of foreign language to them.  Also (the biggie) is LOOKS.  Hate to say it but some got it and some don't.  You can fix some things about yourself but your face and height are God/Universe given things that are very difficult to change unless you do some super risky procedures that would never be worth it.  So with this in mind, I've noticed they choose the WRONG girls to go after.  Party girls, girl's that show their titties in tiny clothing, girls that smoke weed and drink, super "neurotypical" etc -- are not the demographic that these guys should go for but they do.  And they get shut down.  Many times very badly.  This makes them reluctant to even try again.  They never go for the homely looking chill girl.  And if they do, they fuck it up because of lack of experience to shoot the shit.  It's a never ending cycle.

It's a crazy weird cycle that I've tried to break with them and have come close at times but it always ends up being some sort of self-sabatoge.  Which sucks ass so much because ultimately these guys are so cool and generally very sweet.  I don't know if it's a catch-22 or something.

Personally, I don't know how it would be remedied other than practicing being in the PRESENT MOMENT as much as possible because people can (ugh I hate these words) feel your presence, aura, vibe IN REAL LIFE.  Typing on a computer screen =/= IRL human interactions and it never was.  Too much monkey mind, not enough letting authentic string of events unfold.