Girls Want To Date You, But You Don't Want To Date Them!

[Mesopotamian]

In our youthful years, we often lack finesse in reading social cues, approaching dating with undue seriousness. Yet, dating should be about enjoyment and shared experiences rather than a strategic pursuit of physical intimacy.

A few days ago, I found myself seated on a bench at night, immersed in my own world of TikToks and chat. Suddenly, an African lady joined me at the other end of the bench. We sat independently for about half an hour, engrossed in our respective activities. However, her occasional glances and subtle mimicry of my actions were unmistakable signals that she desired conversation.

Summoning my courage, I initiated a discussion by asking about the name of our surroundings. This marked the beginning of a prolonged conversation and a leisurely hour-long walk.

My approach was simple: be genuine, be affectionate, enjoy the moment, and create a pleasant experience for her. We continued our interaction until the night air became too chilly. She suggested we head home and recommended bringing a coat next time. As we bid farewell, I expressed a wish to meet again if fate allowed. Surprisingly, no exchange of contact information occurred – neither did it seem necessary.

No hidden agendas were present on either side, just two individuals appreciating a spontaneous connection.

 

[Israfil]

6 hours ago, Mesopotamian said:

In our youthful years, we often lack finesse in reading social cues, approaching dating with undue seriousness. Yet, dating should be about enjoyment and shared experiences rather than a strategic pursuit of physical intimacy.

A few days ago, I found myself seated on a bench at night, immersed in my own world of TikToks and chat. Suddenly, an African lady joined me at the other end of the bench. We sat independently for about half an hour, engrossed in our respective activities. However, her occasional glances and subtle mimicry of my actions were unmistakable signals that she desired conversation.

Summoning my courage, I initiated a discussion by asking about the name of our surroundings. This marked the beginning of a prolonged conversation and a leisurely hour-long walk.

My approach was simple: be genuine, be affectionate, enjoy the moment, and create a pleasant experience for her. We continued our interaction until the night air became too chilly. She suggested we head home and recommended bringing a coat next time. As we bid farewell, I expressed a wish to meet again if fate allowed. Surprisingly, no exchange of contact information occurred – neither did it seem necessary.

No hidden agendas were present on either side, just two individuals appreciating a spontaneous connection.

 

That's the place to be! Great times of presence and openness. 

[Princess Arabia]

I don't see the connection of your story with the title. 

[Yimpa]

9 hours ago, Mesopotamian said:

She suggested we head home and recommended bringing a coat next time.

No need for a coat when your presence has brought all the warmth necessary 

@Sugarcoat

Edited December 20, 2023 by Yimpa

[Yimpa]

42 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

I don't see the connection of your story with the title. 

It’s like a door that is calling for you to open it. The further away you are from the door, the less significant it appears to be. However, by not opening that door, you have rejected the possibility of connection and locked yourself back into your own bubble.

 

[Sugarcoat]

40 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

No need for a coat when your presence has brought all the warmth necessary 

@Sugarcoat

Ok this made me laugh a little

[Mesopotamian]

On 12/20/2023 at 9:31 PM, Yimpa said:

No need for a coat when your presence has brought all the warmth necessary 

@Sugarcoat

That would've been a really nice reply!

23 hours ago, Yimpa said:

It’s like a door that is calling for you to open it. The further away you are from the door, the less significant it appears to be. However, by not opening that door, you have rejected the possibility of connection and locked yourself back into your own bubble.

and thanks for explaining have a great day!

 

[Mesopotamian]

On 12/20/2023 at 6:15 PM, Israfil said:

That's the place to be! Great times of presence and openness. 

True! no hidden motives!

[Yimpa]

I keep asking attractive girls out, yet it ends up bittersweet. Turns out it’s not my fault for all the rejections. My specialist told me last week that I have severe allergy to dates. 

[Schizophonia]

On 20/12/2023 at 5:50 PM, Princess Arabia said:

I don't see the connection of your story with the title. 

This means that he found the woman attractive enough to fuck her, but that he was not attracted by the whole thing (character, hobbies, skin color, etc.) to risk getting bogged down in a relationship. with her just out of madness of a possible deflowering.
So he unconsciously managed to keep it a quick and friendly encounter, and nothing else.
The title is more honest and vigilant than the rest of what he says which is @Sugarcoat (lolol) by his libido, including the euphoria of ego inflation that comes from having spoken to a girl.

[Schizophonia]

On 20/12/2023 at 6:31 PM, Yimpa said:

No need for a coat when your presence has brought all the warmth necessary 

@Sugarcoat

I'm the only one who has permission to make jokes about nicknames
Especially the bad ones, obviously

[Israfil]

6 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I'm the only one who has permission to make jokes about nicknames
Especially the bad ones, obviously

Should change your name to Narcisophonia after that one. hahahahahaha

Edited December 22, 2023 by Israfil

[Yimpa]

Work on your character now so you can be attractive well into your 70s and 80s 

 

[Princess Arabia]

5 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

This means that he found the woman attractive enough to fuck her, but that he was not attracted by the whole thing (character, hobbies, skin color, etc.) to risk getting bogged down in a relationship. with her just out of madness of a possible deflowering.
So he unconsciously managed to keep it a quick and friendly encounter, and nothing else.
The title is more honest and vigilant than the rest of what he says which is @Sugarcoat (lolol) by his libido, including the euphoria of ego inflation that comes from having spoken to a girl.

Stories. Stories. Stories about what happened and your interpretation.

If you notice in the second to last paragraph he said he expressed a wish to meet again, if fate allowed. To his surprise no exchange of contact information occurred. 

I don't need to interpret that. The sentence spoke for itself. He wanted a number and she didn't give it. Self explanatory. 

So your stories about wanting to fuck her and wasn't attracted by the whole thing (character, hobbies, skin color blah blah, are your stories and ideas about what happened), none of this was said in the OP.

Goes to show, this is how we live our whole lives, interpreting and inventing stories that we have to keep building on about people and our ideas about what happened. Another reminder here for me. I see it everyday in myself and others. That's how the ego gets constructed. I'm on the look-out, believe me. All these things I'm being taught. I have to confirm for myself,most of them, and I'm seeing through most of them by just being aware and through observation.

Now c'mon with your rebuttal. I even observed myself expecting a rebuttal, which I'll get just from expecting it. Hehe.

 

[Schizophonia]

13 minutes ago, Israfil said:

Should change your name to Narcisophonia after that one. hahahahahaha

Fake, I'm the most egoless person in the world, everyone knows that, obviously (☞ﾟヮﾟ)☞

4 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

Work on your character now so you can be attractive well into your 70s and 80s 

 

It looks like he has Parkinson's.

[Yimpa]

4 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

I don't need to interpret that. The sentence spoke for itself. He wanted a number and she didn't give it. Self explanatory. 

There can also be many different reasons why contact info is not exchanged. It’s not just because of rejection or simply not being interested in taking it further. It could also be due to doubt and hesitation. 

There have been times I assumed the other person was disinterested in me, only to find out later that they were actually still interested in me after we wound up reconnecting. Life has its way.

[Schizophonia]

14 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Stories. Stories. Stories about what happened and your interpretation.

If you notice in the second to last paragraph he said he expressed a wish to meet again, if fate allowed. To his surprise no exchange of contact information occurred. 

I don't need to interpret that. The sentence spoke for itself. He wanted a number and she didn't give it. Self explanatory. 

So your stories about wanting to fuck her and wasn't attracted by the whole thing (character, hobbies, skin color blah blah, are your stories and ideas about what happened), none of this was said in the OP.

Goes to show, this is how we live our whole lives, interpreting and inventing stories that we have to keep building on about people and our ideas about what happened. Another reminder here for me. I see it everyday in myself and others. That's how the ego gets constructed. I'm on the look-out, believe me. All these things I'm being taught. I have to confirm for myself,most of them, and I'm seeing through most of them by just being aware and through observation.

Now c'mon with your rebuttal. I even observed myself expecting a rebuttal, which I'll get just from expecting it. Hehe.

 

This is not my interpretation, I am only explaining what happened behind the scenes. Whether you trust me or not doesn't matter, besides why are you so concerned about interpretations.
My ego accepts that, it likes it even though it concerns me and I find it objectively useful.

On 20/12/2023 at 8:38 AM, Mesopotamian said:

 

No hidden agendas were present on either side, just two individuals appreciating a spontaneous connection.

 

The fourth word in the title is literally date, you literally said that your meeting was motivated by the fact that she was looking at you (was attracted to you and vice versa).
This doesn't mean that the goal of "just having fun" is false, just that it serves as a camouflage for another reality.

That said, ultimately the title is true and honest. 

Edited December 22, 2023 by Schizophonia

[Princess Arabia]

4 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

There can also be many different reasons why contact info is not exchanged. It’s not just because of rejection or simply not being interested in taking it further. It could also be due to doubt and hesitation. 

There have been times I assumed the other person was disinterested in me, only to find out later that they were actually still interested in me after we wound up reconnecting. Life has its way.

Thanks for proving my point even more. I never said she rejected him, nor did I say she wasn't intetested. He asked for contact info and none was given. THAT'S IT. Anything else we say after that is all stories, ideas about what happened and interpretations. 

 

 

 

[Princess Arabia]

19 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

This is not my interpretation, I am only explaining what happened behind the scenes. Whether you trust me or not doesn't matter, besides why are you so concerned about interpretations.
My ego accepts that, it likes it even though it concerns me and I find it objectively useful.

The fourth word in the title is literally date, you literally said that your meeting was motivated by the fact that she was looking at you (was attracted to you and vice versa).
This doesn't mean that the goal of "just having fun" is false, just that it serves as a camouflage for another reality.

How the hell do you know what happened behind the scenes. We're you there? Trust? Where did that come from. You're sounding like you are the OP himself..lol.

I'm concerned with interpretations because it has caused me suffering no matter how small. Just like I see on this forum day in and day out, in my personal interactions with others and on the internet. It's like a plague. I don't sit around and wait to be magically free from mental slavery. I take responsibility and work to free myself from the bondage of the mind and interpretations are just that interpretations. I'm not interested in living interpretations. I'm interested in being  present. 

 

 

Edited December 22, 2023 by Princess Arabia

[Yimpa]

A relationship without stories is a ship under water.