Intimacy, Realness, Trust and Depth In Relationships

[meta_male]

@NoSelfSelf You know I do  

[Thought Art]

I think at the end of the day, being a mature man, a mature lover… someone ACTUALLY capable of real love, real mature love. Not that fake shit you buy at Costco. The good shit from the high mountains of China, that grows in fresh high mountain air, free of pesticides and influence if the fools below. That real shit. That, take care of yourself and other shit. That, love as a fountain of love shit. That’s who I am becoming. 

[Thought Art]

I know I need to date more girls. 

[mr_engineer]

If you need help being vulnerable in front of others, have you tried group therapy? 

I would go to this meetup in which we played this card-game called '100 meaningful questions'. We would just go there to be vulnerable and share ourselves with the group and they'd be present. That's what it took for me to have a breakthrough on this front. 

If you don't have some such opportunity, I'd highly recommend group therapy. 

Edited December 22, 2023 by mr_engineer

[Thought Art]

@mr_engineer I’ve been using Pace. I can be vulnerable but it’s contextual.

I almost feel impatient. I’m so used to being alone. 

[mr_engineer]

5 hours ago, Thought Art said:

@mr_engineer I’ve been using Pace. I can be vulnerable but it’s contextual.

I almost feel impatient. I’m so used to being alone. 

Doing it online is alright, it's not too bad. In order to really resolve this, though, you have to do this face-to-face. There are a couple of reasons for this. 

1. Your fight or flight response will go to a whole another level in real life, maybe because you were bullied in the past for being 'sensitive'. And you must face that. 
2. You could actually make good friends in real life by doing this in real life. Your dating-life could actually move forward by doing this.