What does it mean to be 'ready for a relationship' as a man?

[mr_engineer]

Here's my answer - it's when you figure out what you uniquely have to offer to women. This will be your competitive edge against other men when it comes to getting hot women. 

The advantage of figuring this out is that you can edge out the white-knights and simps. You can use some brute-force and edge of personality to accomplish this, if you know what you have to offer to women. You will be confident with women and in dealing with simps, especially, if you base it on this. 

The simps are the crabs in the bucket when it comes to improving your game/being yourself with women. They try to set the rules of the dating-game for you. They're not playing by the rules, they try to undercut the genuine, authentic guys in various kinds of underhanded sneaky ways. For example, being male feminists, having positions of power that they use to favor women over men, etc. This is how you successfully deal with them. 

[Princess Arabia]

You place too much emphasis on the "outside world". Even a post that's directed to you and about you, you're concentrating on some outside force. What are you hiding from that's within you. While you're talking about the simps and trying to use logic as to what they're doing, they're out having hot sex with hot women. The simps don't have time to be on forums trying to decipher and figure out women and trying to defeat imaginary rules, they're just out there doing their thing while you're here using logic and calling them crabs in a bucket. Well, that bucket is filled with hot women as you so desire, and the simps are feasting on them with beer and clams on the side with a splash of creme-de-la-creme on top.

[Thought Art]

1. Focus on getting experience 

[Consept]

1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said:

You place too much emphasis on the "outside world". Even a post that's directed to you and about you, you're concentrating on some outside force. What are you hiding from that's within you. While you're talking about the simps and trying to use logic as to what they're doing, they're out having hot sex with hot women. The simps don't have time to be on forums trying to decipher and figure out women and trying to defeat imaginary rules, they're just out there doing their thing while you're here using logic and calling them crabs in a bucket. Well, that bucket is filled with hot women as you so desire, and the simps are feasting on them with beer and clams on the side with a splash of creme-de-la-creme on top.

I think what happens is that males have a tendency to go overboard with logic, so sometimes you can fall into the trap of the logic actually preventin you from taking any action. For example, a guy could 'logically' work out what he understands to be a females nature just from youtube or others experience and then come to some kind of conclusion like 'women dont like it when youre nice to them so im not even going to bother talking to them unless they talk to me'. This may make sense within the constructed logic and so it gives them an excuse not to be social or talk to women. 

What we need to do is build up social understanding from our own experience ie getting out and talking to people. Really the issue is simple there is fear holding you back, work with that fear and go and socialise, learn as you go, build up confidence etc. If you think about it this is literally how you learn anything, like if you want to learn guitar the best way is to start playing it, if someone constantly talks about how to play guitar and the mechanics of it but theyve never picked up a guitar because of fear then you just wouldnt take that person seriously. 

[UnbornTao]

That you're willing and committed to undertake such an adventure sounds like a good first step.

[mr_engineer]

2 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

You place too much emphasis on the "outside world". Even a post that's directed to you and about you, you're concentrating on some outside force. 

What's wrong with wanting to solve external problems? 

2 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

What are you hiding from that's within you.

If you can see that I'm hiding from something and that something is 'within me', you might as well just tell me what that 'something' is. 

2 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

While you're talking about the simps and trying to use logic as to what they're doing, they're out having hot sex with hot women. The simps don't have time to be on forums trying to decipher and figure out women and trying to defeat imaginary rules, they're just out there doing their thing while you're here using logic and calling them crabs in a bucket. Well, that bucket is filled with hot women as you so desire, and the simps are feasting on them with beer and clams on the side with a splash of creme-de-la-creme on top.

This is the biggest pile of bullshit I've ever seen in my entire life. If they were living the life that you're describing, they would not be liking posts of Instagram-models and commenting needy comments there. Do you know how much money OnlyFans girls make from simps?! 

On a serious note, why do you want to commodify women? You talk about women as if they're food items. Why enable this mentality?! 

Edited December 15, 2023 by mr_engineer

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, mr_engineer said:

What's wrong with wanting to solve external problems? 

You are your world. There's no world apart from you. You don't live inside a Universe the Universe lives inside of you. Would you like me to repeat that. 

 

1 hour ago, mr_engineer said:

If you can see that I'm hiding from something and that something is 'within me', you might as well just tell me what that 'something' is.

I don't know what your thought patterns are. I can't tell exactly what it is, but it's evident that you are because you every time you speak it is always someone or some circumstance to blame, never something within you. Always the other person. That is a sign that you don't look within, you're looking to change Infinity when all you have to do is move to the part of it you would like to see. But you would call that woo woo and passive behavior. You want to fight the world and face it like a man, meantime the world is leaving you by, going around in a circle and you'd be right back where you started just like these never ending "solution posts" you keep making that leads you nowhere, because if they were, you'd be posting results instead of imaginary problems to solve about women who are only existing in your mind.

 

1 hour ago, mr_engineer said:

This is the biggest pile of bullshit I've ever seen in my entire life. If they were living the life that you're describing, they would not be liking posts of Instagram-models and commenting needy comments there. Do you know how much money OnlyFans girls make from simps?! 

On a serious note, why do you want to commodify women? You talk about women as if they're food items. Why enable this mentality?! 

You just called simps crabs in a bucket. Isn't that a food item. I'm just suggesting things to go with those crabs. Beer and clams go well with crabs and whip cream on top of a nipple would be nice.

[Princess Arabia]

2 hours ago, Consept said:

I think what happens is that males have a tendency to go overboard with logic, so sometimes you can fall into the trap of the logic actually preventin you from taking any action. For example, a guy could 'logically' work out what he understands to be a females nature just from youtube or others experience and then come to some kind of conclusion like 'women dont like it when youre nice to them so im not even going to bother talking to them unless they talk to me'. This may make sense within the constructed logic and so it gives them an excuse not to be social or talk to women. 

What we need to do is build up social understanding from our own experience ie getting out and talking to people. Really the issue is simple there is fear holding you back, work with that fear and go and socialise, learn as you go, build up confidence etc. If you think about it this is literally how you learn anything, like if you want to learn guitar the best way is to start playing it, if someone constantly talks about how to play guitar and the mechanics of it but theyve never picked up a guitar because of fear then you just wouldnt take that person seriously. 

Kudos. Perfectly said. But Mr Engineer here wants to engineer this part of life to fit into his world not realizing he is constructing it but he just can't find the particular brick he needs to make it fit into the hole that is there and the bricks that he needs to make his sweet little house liveable and comfy. So now he's fighting with the manufacturer who made the bricks to develop some new bricks out of thin air when all he has to do is tear down those existing brick walls and start anew.

[Rafael Thundercat]

2 hours ago, mr_engineer said:

What's wrong with wanting to solve external problems? 

If you can see that I'm hiding from something and that something is 'within me', you might as well just tell me what that 'something' is. 

This is the biggest pile of bullshit I've ever seen in my entire life. If they were living the life that you're describing, they would not be liking posts of Instagram-models and commenting needy comments there. Do you know how much money OnlyFans girls make from simps?! 

On a serious note, why do you want to commodify women? You talk about women as if they're food items. Why enable this mentality?! 

Truly man, if you would be actually making it, actually dating hot women and having all the goodies, you would not even post stuff like this here. When you are having great time you dont even have time to comment about it or documenting. Sometimes I have such great social moments and I realize I didnt even took pictures or made videos of it. There is simply no space to stop the joy to make memories of it. Go, make it happen and then come here tell the great adventure of love romance and bliss you had. 

[mr_engineer]

56 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

I don't know what your thought patterns are. I can't tell exactly what it is, but it's evident that you are because you every time you speak it is always someone or some circumstance to blame, never something within you. Always the other person. That is a sign that you don't look within, you're looking to change Infinity when all you have to do is move to the part of it you would like to see.

No, that's not a sign that I don't look within. I don't have to believe that the entire outside world is perfect to 'look within'. In fact, you have to know the problems with the world to know what to adapt to and what impact to have. 

58 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

But you would call that woo woo and passive behavior. You want to fight the world and face it like a man, meantime the world is leaving you by, going around in a circle and you'd be right back where you started just like these never ending "solution posts" you keep making that leads you nowhere, because if they were, you'd be posting results instead of imaginary problems to solve about women who are only existing in your mind.

Fine, I'm the biggest loser on the planet. Not only am I a loser, I'm insane and I'm making everything up, I'm essentially lying. You happy now?! 

1 hour ago, Princess Arabia said:

You just called simps crabs in a bucket. Isn't that a food item. I'm just suggesting things to go with those crabs. Beer and clams go well with crabs and whip cream on top of a nipple would be nice.

A 'crab' is food for meat-eaters, not for everyone. 

Also, 'crab in a bucket', metaphorically means, naysayers. People telling you to not be yourself because 'women don't like that'. 

[mr_engineer]

5 minutes ago, Rafael Thundercat said:

Truly man, if you would be actually making it, actually dating hot women and having all the goodies, you would not even post stuff like this here. When you are having great time you dont even have time to comment about it or documenting. Sometimes I have such great social moments and I realize I didnt even took pictures or made videos of it. There is simply no space to stop the joy to make memories of it. Go, make it happen and then come here tell the great adventure of love romance and bliss you had. 

The fact that you're posting here, refutes your own logic. 

[Princess Arabia]

3 minutes ago, mr_engineer said:

A 'crab' is food for meat-eaters, not for everyone. 

Also, 'crab in a bucket', metaphorically means, naysayers. People telling you to not be yourself because 'women don't like that'. 

 

[Rafael Thundercat]

1 minute ago, mr_engineer said:

The fact that you're posting here, refutes your own logic. 

I am not posting stupid stuff about women. I guess many guys that post here have active lifes with women. I cant prove to you that that is my case and I dont need to do it. My interaction with women are sane, loving and I am very satisfied with all the beautifull moments I enjoy with them. 

[Princess Arabia]

3 minutes ago, mr_engineer said:

The fact that you're posting here, refutes your own logic. 

He's not posting about being in hell with women, though. You are. And then you post your own solutions. Einstein said you cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it. That's what you're doing. Maybe try going meta-opposite, instead of meta-male.

[Yimpa]

When you stop bullshitting yourself.

[mr_engineer]

39 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

He's not posting about being in hell with women, though. You are. And then you post your own solutions. Einstein said you cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it. That's what you're doing. Maybe try going meta-opposite, instead of meta-male.

Fine, all of you are perfect, I'm a piece of shit. You happy now? 

[Yimpa]

 

[Whitney Edwards]

You're ready for a relationship when you abide by all the social rules of a relationship. 

 

[something_else]

19 hours ago, mr_engineer said:

white-knights and simps

How dare you swear like that! Watch your language

 

[Yimpa]

6 hours ago, Rafael Thundercat said:

My interaction with women are sane, loving and I am very satisfied with all the beautifull moments I enjoy with them. 

Insane interactions are also real fun.

One time I told a woman that she is a hot, fiery goddess licking a super sweet lollipop, who happens to be me.

Of course, this kind of interaction only really  works with those who are already intimate with you to begin with.