My advice for myself and guys in their 20s here

[Someone here]

I realized life is a tough learning field . The more I grow up I discover how life is not meant to be easy or straightforward.  All your childhood fairy tales dissolve as you get older . You must work hard if you want improvements in your life . And so for any guy here struggling with getting their life together..or simply lacks experience and maturity in life you should (and me as well ) take a break from distractions.  Do a dopamine fast ..

Put the phone down after you read this.

Get off the couch.

Take a sheet of paper and write down top 3 things you want to have in your life. 

Every morning ask yourself what are you going to do today to get closer to your dreams.

Every evening..ask yourself if you've done what you promised yourself.

That's it. If you do the above your life will change.

The key to any change is action.

Edited December 13, 2023 by Someone here

[Tboy]

this is awesome man! Great stuff

Edited December 13, 2023 by Tboy

[Someone here]

@Tboy thanks. 

If you have any questions please feel free. 

[caspex]

Using the internet since I was 10(now 19), and being young, it has now fried my brain with all the dopamine and stuff. I quit the internet for the most part two days ago, I feel like I can focus now, and it has only been two days. If I open up a YouTube video, I can quite literally feel being sucked into that dopamine trap. It's really fucked me up and I am not planning to go back. 

 

I am sure this is a new gen problem. Mind you, I never even watched shorts or tiktoks since they came out. I fear what the internet will do to Gen Alpha, being handed phones at 2 years old.

[Charlotte]

@Someone here 🙏🏻♥️

[Someone here]

9 hours ago, Swarnim said:

Using the internet since I was 10(now 19), and being young, it has now fried my brain with all the dopamine and stuff. I quit the internet for the most part two days ago, I feel like I can focus now, and it has only been two days. If I open up a YouTube video, I can quite literally feel being sucked into that dopamine trap. It's really fucked me up and I am not planning to go back. 

 

I am sure this is a new gen problem. Mind you, I never even watched shorts or tiktoks since they came out. I fear what the internet will do to Gen Alpha, being handed phones at 2 years old.

You are still pretty young . You have all the time in the world ahead of you to change Internet addiction. 

I think one of the things that might  help you is using an addiction journal (I use one for my smoking addiction). 

 When you’re using the internet..take a moment to write down how you feel in the moment. When you’re not using it..but are craving the internet..write down how you feel in that moment. 

Do you feel smarter..wittier..and more confident online than you do in real life?

Do you feel depressed.. isolated, and anxious when you’re not on the internet?

Our brains naturally rewire themselves when we do dopamine fast . You will start to appreciate food and the sun and the birds more.  So your baseline for enjoying things will shift from highly stimulating stuff like maybe porn or the internet in general to more mundane things .

Good luck

👍

@Charlotte🙏

Edited December 14, 2023 by Someone here

[An young being]

20 hours ago, Someone here said:

Every morning ask yourself what are you going to do today to get closer to your dreams.

Every evening..ask yourself if you've done what you promised yourself.

And keep 5 to 10 alarms every morning and evening to remind you to do that.

[Someone here]

Just now, An young being said:

And keep 5 to 10 alarms every morning and evening to remind you to do that.

Could be helpful bonus