[nofap] 25 Reasons To Do It

[abgespaced]

7 minutes ago, Max_V said:

No I mean if I am not exploring my own sexuality anymore, how will I be able to make a girl feel good? 

She has a sexuality of her own. What are some ways you could make her feel good independently of your own sexuality?
 

7 minutes ago, Max_V said:

because I become so sensitive to touch, will I not ejaculate prematurely? 

It's possible. What are some ways you could enjoy the build up to the moment that you/she touches your genitals?

Edited November 25, 2017 by abgespaced

[Shroomdoctor]

12 minutes ago, Max_V said:

@abgespaced No I mean if I am not exploring my own sexuality anymore, how will I be able to make a girl feel good? And because I become so sensitive to touch, will I not ejaculate prematurely? 

Dude, if you were on NoFap for a few months, just wait 10 minutes and you are good to go again 

[Max_V]

@Marco_the_Ape lol never thought about it like that hahaha. Ye I'm quite insecure about this topic, that's why I wanted some light shone on it

Edited November 25, 2017 by Max_V

[Shroomdoctor]

@Max_V If you have a good girl with you, she won't care if you ejaculate too soon. You will have a laugh about it and go for it again. And also, its not like there are no other ways to please a girl, besides your dick. If she already came a few times, she won't care at all 

[Shin]

2 hours ago, Max_V said:

@Marco_the_Ape lol never thought about it like that hahaha. Ye I'm quite insecure about this topic, that's why I wanted some light shone on it

If you tell the girl you're doing nofap she will be surprised and have a lot of respect (unless she's stupid as fuck).

And it doesn't matter, you can still fuck her 10 minutes after, hell you can even continue to fuck her without stopping after your ejaculation.

[pluto]

Ejaculation is 90% mind 10% body IMO.

[ProblemSolving]

On 25.11.2017 at 11:24 AM, Shin said:

If you tell the girl you're doing nofap she will be surprised and have a lot of respect (unless she's stupid as fuck).

And it doesn't matter, you can still fuck her 10 minutes after, hell you can even continue to fuck her without stopping after your ejaculation.

I can confirm some of that. Made the girl curious when telling her about my awesome nofap streak. She probably felt very honored when I decided to have sex with her. We had sex for many many hours. Then I kinda came a little and kept going. But I didnt cum properly, so in the night I woke up and had this terrible pain in my balls. In the morning I decided to get my proper "release". It didnt feel as great as everything that happened before ;D Long story short, I am getting back to nofap. It is not the solution to everything but it is a great step towards changing your life in pretty much every aspect.

[Richard Alpert]

On 25.11.2017 at 3:20 PM, pluto said:

Ejaculation is 90% mind 10% body IMO.

Intresting. Any insights or facts with this? I think each body is unique and works its own way. I am sure its mind a lot, but 90% souns quite high number

[pluto]

1 hour ago, Richard Alpert said:

Intresting. Any insights or facts with this? I think each body is unique and works its own way. I am sure its mind a lot, but 90% souns quite high number

Just from what i have observed overtime. There were times when i haven't in a while and was more in a balanced-mind state, i did more meditation and spiritual work and i was living more in the moment i could last as long as i wished compared to other times when i allowed more thought into my field and my life was more mainstream-oriented so naturally sex is seen everywhere and i realized it was more the thought that lead to quick rise to ejaculation/orgasm compared to when i was more in-tune with myself.

Yes it can feel much better when you don't have sex for a while but i believe it has much more to do with the mind than the body. I also believe if you distance from all sexual things long enough we can reach this balance again because eventually you see it as a sacred art form and more as love instead of sex.

Edited November 28, 2017 by pluto

[LaucherJunge]

A week ago I watched a recent video of Teal Swan and she was talking about channeling sexual energy, So I just tried it out, everytime I had an erection I would imagine the energy flowing back to the body and it really worked instantly every time, I didn't actually have an intention on doing nofap but at the second day I noticed "I didn't even watch porn today" in fact I wasn't really horny at all aside from getting a few erections during meditations for literally not even 10 seconds because of this technique. Now I am at 6 Days NoFap and see how effortless this is with that technique. The benefits are very subtle so far but noticeable, the confidence in social interaction was already there for me before this but it kind of has become unshakeable now. I am now able to show my happy inner world way more on the outside, enjoy interactions on a deeper level than before. I also feel like I have become way more authentic than before. I also feel like I am finally able to stay in a self-remembering state for 24/7 when before I think horny thoughts and watching porn distracted me from it.
My main intention for keeping it up is also because I think it will let deeply supressed feelings come up and let me do some really effective shadow work once again, before I wasn't really able to find anything to work on anymore, everything seemed resolved already. This opens up a new realm of healing for me.

Are there any dangers for the sexual health if you don't have any sexual interaction at all for months or even years?

[Richard Alpert]

20 hours ago, pluto said:

Just from what i have observed overtime. There were times when i haven't in a while and was more in a balanced-mind state, i did more meditation and spiritual work and i was living more in the moment i could last as long as i wished compared to other times when i allowed more thought into my field and my life was more mainstream-oriented so naturally sex is seen everywhere and i realized it was more the thought that lead to quick rise to ejaculation/orgasm compared to when i was more in-tune with myself.

Yes it can feel much better when you don't have sex for a while but i believe it has much more to do with the mind than the body. I also believe if you distance from all sexual things long enough we can reach this balance again because eventually you see it as a sacred art form and more as love instead of sex.

Thanks, good answer

[Max_V]

And we made it boys, Nofapvember has been completed. I am now on a 30 day streak.

This feels fucking awesome

[Shroomdoctor]

@Max_V I am at 72! Lets go for the 90!

@Clint Eastwood No, its exactly the point.

[ProblemSolving]

@Clint Eastwood I had a dozen wet dreams throughout the last 13 years. And only the last one (which is like 3-4 months ago) it was without actually dreaming of something sexual. I was on my nofap streak somewhere between week 2-3 when it happened. 

What you experience is good. You cant control your dreams completely. You can lucid dream and control your dreams to a certain point but I think the beauty of dreaming is to just let go and enjoy the ride. Because dreams can tell interesting new things about you. Nofap most of all is about letting go of external stimulation like porn and/or excessive masturbation. So I dont see anything bad that you experience while dreaming. 

[Shroomdoctor]

@Clint Eastwood You do won't to be able to control your desires. Having a wet dream is something that is totally out of your control and a natural reaction that you would have had ages ago if you did not masturbate a hundred million times a day, which makes it a good sign of progress  

I haven't had one ever, before doing Nofap. I thought they were a myth.

[ppfeiff]

Can someone be so kind and explain this point to me? I don't understand it.

Don't you lose all the benefits of nofap as soon as you have sex with a girl?

It's just confusing because many who spout nofap cite meeting more girls and having sex with them as a benefit.

Honestly, in my experience, over indulging in masturbation is equivalent to over indulging in sex (if you're ejaculating that is). They're both draining in excess.

And actually I've found it even easier to over indulge in sex because it is so pleasurable and "real" over masturbation, if you have the right partner (or wrong lol) that is.

I agree that there are some benefits to nofap, it's just the logic of the above benefit makes no sense from my perspective.

If you really want the long-term benefits of "no-fap," isn't it a bit clever to conveniently allow sex in this picture? You're still ejaculating either way (assuming you ejaculate whenever you have sex). IMO, if you really want the benefits, it need not stop at masturbation no? What about celibacy?

Cheers.

Edited December 2, 2017 by ppfeiff

[LaucherJunge]

@Marco_the_Ape
The interesting thing is that I had a wet dream today and I actually said no to it and stopped it inside the dream. Going strong on 9 days. What I now begin to notice is how shiny it makes your eyes, how the circles under your eyes dissapear and how powerful your facial expression becomes.
Also having a headache literally all day.
@ppfeiff
If we are talking about channeling your sexual energy then yes, it probably wastes energy to have sex. I never really got deep into that subject but I also see the possibility that sex will be merely a fusion of energy instead of wastage so in that case it would be productive actually.
I think sex without ejaculation might be very powerful actually.

Edited December 2, 2017 by LaucherJunge

[ProblemSolving]

@ppfeiff I think that every person on their own have to figure out what they really want from nofap.

I know for sure that nofap gave me a tunnel vision. It really was easier to talk to girls. Simply because I was totally horny. Long story short, because of nofap I had the realisation that prioritising is important in my life. Pretty much everything in life drains my energy. But it is my prioritising that decides where I put my energy in. As a consequence I dropped video games, movies, weird people etc.

Nofap can be a huge topic. I wont go into much detail now. I think that most people who do nofap have the goal to have more real sex. But the real growth happens not when having sex but the whole journey that involves you changing.

[Viking]

Didnt fap for 2 weeks, failed a few days ago, and I dont feel like anything changed. Same energy, same procrastination, same mood, same relationships, only a few less random erections.

Should I try for a longer period? how much time? I felt like I could go on for eternity but I didnt find the reason to.

[ProblemSolving]

@Ilya What reason did you have to try nofap? If you wanna change your energy, procrastination, mood, relationships and stuff then obviously just doing nofap for 2 weeks is not going to change your life. I was able to use it as a first step to get closer to girls, nothing more. If you search for easy solutions then nofap is not the answer. It requires a little more than that. Nofap is just a little piece in a very big puzzle. But it can change everything if you have the right realizations.