[nofap] 25 Reasons To Do It

[Akhil George]

On 13/04/2017 at 7:29 PM, Lai said:

"c" is for... cunnilingus?

And there is also "nosex" - expect rigor mortis without foreplay.

No "c" stands for clitoris.

[Shin]

On 03/10/2017 at 8:10 PM, Heart of Space said:

That is just psychotic in it's approach to this.  

Here's how you deal with wet dreams the healthy way:

Step 1:  You have a wet dream

Step 2:  You move on with you life, it makes almost no difference at all

 

No fap can be a good thing, but man ya'll have to curb your crazy neurotic approach to this.  It's unhealthy.  

It was more about seeing how much energy you could gather rather than absolutely having to do it.

 

So guys, any updates ?

Edited November 12, 2017 by Shin

[Max_V]

@Shin I’ve been really working on it. Remember when I couldn’t even make 10 days? Well now I made the 15 day mark 3 times already  

I’m currently doing a november challenge I set up for myself. See if full months will be my next step. 

Also, a lot of those previous 15 day streaks went wrong because I was practising solo tantra but ejaculated on accident a couple times. That felt really shitty haha. 

[stevegan928]

@Shin congrats I read your post and deleted my porn folder. It's huge to and there was other porn scattered across all kinds of files, I might even have more to go. I haven't been fapping for a while now, at least a week at this point, but it's just been one of those very very rare periods of time where I just haven't felt like it. Probably because I've been meditating more.  

[Shroomdoctor]

11 hours ago, Max_V said:

@Shin I’ve been really working on it. Remember when I couldn’t even make 10 days? Well now I made the 15 day mark 3 times already  

I’m currently doing a november challenge I set up for myself. See if full months will be my next step. 

Also, a lot of those previous 15 day streaks went wrong because I was practising solo tantra but ejaculated on accident a couple times. That felt really shitty haha. 

I am at 54 days now. I would recommend the following tactics. When urges arise, do one of the following:

-go to the gym
-go outside and try to talk to real girls
-contemplate your desire in contrast with your goals

or all of the above.Positive side effect: You get muscle and talk to girls  

[Max_V]

@Marco_the_Ape A lot of anxiety has been surfacing recently. Even though I know I should go and talk to girls I am too afraid to. 

 

Edited November 15, 2017 by Max_V

[Shin]

2 hours ago, Max_V said:

@Marco_the_Ape A lot of anxiety has been surfacing recently. Even though I know I should go and talk to girls I am too afraid to. 

 

Then inquire why.

[Max_V]

@Shin I’m experiencing a flatline. Currently at 17 days but I stopped having sexual arrousal whatsoever.

Also my energy is really low. I used to be able to stay awake very long but now I just get very tired really fast.

btw, I haven’t had a wet dream either.

Do you have experience with this? This low energy is not nice because I like to do most of my reading and self inquiring in the evening.

[Santiago]

I just posted this: 

So I am signing up now, let's see if nofap can bring me back to life...

PD: I never really had that much of a PORN addiction, but I do have masturbation addiction, and I even masturbate just because.. to avoid pain and distract myself for a moment.. I think this could have ruined my brain chemistry and that's why I feel like an empty robot...

[stevegan928]

On 4/4/2017 at 8:55 AM, Shin said:

Quit objectifying women, start seeing them as human beings.

I'm more than a week in now, when can I start expecting this? I just want to fuck anything that walks. Maybe It's because today I was deleting porn from my folder so I had to look at it? It was difficult, when I deleted most of my porn at first I did it really quickly and didn't look much at it, but today I found another file full of porn and I found myself scrolling through the file looking at all my old saved pictures and gifs. 

Also is meaningless sex not in true nofap spirit? Many people have called it mutual masturbation for a reason. There's been plenty of times, in fact maybe most of the sex I've ever head felt no different than a fap in the end. 

[Morten]

I just finished 76 days of No Fap. It was an interesting experience.

Interesting how the urge rose when I was feeling bored, try to feel the need as much as possible, compare it to your goal of no fap.

If you have a clear vision why you do it, when urge rises you will easily beat it. You simply place priorities and you will not easily

For me first couple of weeks were hardest, I used to cheat and not experience the desire fully, but find some thing to keep me busy and move my thoughts from the desire.

After 2 weeks passed, I was ruled by the principle: "Man you did so much, if you quit now, it will take a lot of time just to catch up"

Basicly once you managed to initially move the boulder, then it keep rolling on its own and easyly pushed me through the next 2 months.

I did not feel any special increase in energy levels. I discovered that I had more free time for other things, developed new habits which is a great plus.

In the end I consciously decided to stop because I want to practice Taoist principle of orgasm without ejaculation. It allows you to chanel sexual energy through your body which can then later on be used for great many purposes and ofc last much longer in bed.

When you tap yourself on back and say "Wow I already did xx days of no fap, awesome" do not ask yourself "Who is this "I" who did not fap?" It is a mood killer

[Shin]

On 16/11/2017 at 7:41 AM, Max_V said:

@Shin I’m experiencing a flatline. Currently at 17 days but I stopped having sexual arrousal whatsoever.

Also my energy is really low. I used to be able to stay awake very long but now I just get very tired really fast.

btw, I haven’t had a wet dream either.

Do you have experience with this? This low energy is not nice because I like to do most of my reading and self inquiring in the evening.

Doesn't make sense, you're not supposed to have less energy, maybe not much more, but not less.

It's possible though, everything is possible, but you should think about what other things could be related to this, it's much more likely to be linked to something that happened in this last 2 weeks rather than that.

[Max_V]

@Shin I don't eat any junkfood. The only thing that I can't get out of my diet atm is wheat. Of course that makes you sleepy and groggy I am aware, but I have always eaten this and before when I just started nofap I had a huge amount of energy. I'm planning to cut this out of my diet eventually but right it's quite a hassle with school and all.

These last two weeks a lot of things have been surfacing in psychotherapy which I am working on right now, and I have been talking to strangers and girls in school. There is always this inner critic which really drains my mental energy and makes me overanalyse every situation. 

So all in all, I think I found what the cause might be. It's weird though, how much mental stuff can exhaust the body.

[Shin]

It's the principal source of exhaustion.

There is so much space once the mind gets quiet.

Edited November 18, 2017 by Shin

[Viking]

not masturbating makes me distracted and objectifying women even more, does it go away ?

[Max_V]

@Ilya Yes I’m on a 20 day streak now. In the beginning you have this. But as you get further and further you start being able to see women from Being perception rather than deficieny perception.

[Richard Alpert]

Here is the most important thing for all you non-fappers (i try to be one too):

You cant switch that addiction to some other addiction and reap many benefits.

If you are constantly using coffee, weed, alcohol, electronics dont expect too much benefits.

Im sure many of you also have some anxietys, the key is not to do nofap but withdraw from all addictive behavior. Any addictive behavior can/will cause some anxiety.

[Max_V]

@Shin I’m at day 24 now. Determined to complete my november challenge.

The only thing that can make me relapse now is this thought or belief “ If I stop masturbating all together, how will I be able to please a girl, and will I not cum prematurely?” 

If you could shine some light on this I would be ever grateful to you. I love nofap and the ability it gives me to explore my inautheticity deeper but this belief I have really fucks with my head. 

[abgespaced]

6 minutes ago, Max_V said:

@Shin I’m at day 24 now. Determined to complete my november challenge.

The only thing that can make me relapse now is this thought or belief “ If I stop masturbating all together, how will I be able to please a girl, and will I not cum prematurely?” 

So, you're saying that the only way to please a girl is with timing the release of your ejaculate?

[Max_V]

@abgespaced No I mean if I am not exploring my own sexuality anymore, how will I be able to make a girl feel good? And because I become so sensitive to touch, will I not ejaculate prematurely?