[nofap] 25 Reasons To Do It

[Lai]

2 hours ago, Prabhaker said:

Lust for reputation points is not a worldly desire, They are real indicators of your spiritual progress. Leo should rename them into 'Enlightenment Points'.

My suggestion is we rename them hamster wheel points,

[jjer94]

Shin, you inspired me to do it. Thanks for that!

I'm currently one week in. (I had to reset last week.) Here's my symptoms:

• Flatlined. I have zero libido, but my balls feel like they're going to explode. A paradox of nature, indeed.
• More attracted to personality. My body's so accustomed to porn that it's totally confused as to what turns it on. However, I notice that I'm less concerned about girls' appearances and more about their personality.
• Desire to date. I feel more desire to ask out particular girls. Still working on the part where I actually do it... 
• Emotional turmoil. I've been using porn to self-medicate my feelings of directionlessness and worthlessness. Now they're coming to the surface. Not masturbating has forced me to face these inner demons. Not pleasant, but necessary.

Anyone else doing it? What are your experiences?

[Shin]

Week 3 almost completed, can finally see women as human being and not giant sex toys.

Will report back in 1 month sir, will do sir o7

@jjer94 Oh yes, you will want to date like you never did, but you'll quickly understand that it's just the urge that wants its fix. After 3 weeks (but I guess it depends on the individual), the desire starts to slowly fade, I don't think of it everyday now, and if I do, it's not necessarily an urge.

Edited April 14, 2017 by Shin

[blacksapp]

I am trying to do No-Fap but sometimes I just fall off track once...is it really meaningful?
It throws all that I did away?

[Posho]

my longest without fapping has been a month (32 days approximately) 

the trick is to not fantasise much and also when you indulge in things more meaningful you'll not feel like fapping...

 

and this is A FUCKING LIE!! Meaningful things bring pain and you fap so that you can avoid that pain. You fap so that you can temporarily avoid the shit you otherwise do not want to face. Yes we're all fucked up. The thing that works for me is to fantasise less, and not entertain lesbian thoughts 

[Shin]

The 4th week is a bitch, all night my dick was screaming for it, it was awful lol !

It's trickier than I thought, it can be harder the longer you do it, and sometimes it's easier than the first weeks.

 

 

This article is good:

https://www.jordangrayconsulting.com/2013/10/harness-sexual-energy-greater-clarity-contentment/

 

Edited April 18, 2017 by Shin

[oysterman]

The book 'The Way of the Superior Man' by David Deida is gold for nofap, semen retention, transcendence through mastery of sexual desire, etc.

 

[Shin]

It won't be as hard as you might think guys, because wet dreams will occur regularly.

Maybe not the first time you start, because you will be very focused on not doing it, but when you are out of the addiction, I guess your mind is open to it and will let the fluid out while having wet dreams (that's my take on it, maybe totally wrong).

Unless you're a Zen master, you'll cum anyway, so it won't be that hardcore.
At first it will be hard, because you'll have to go out of your porn and masturbation addiction, and since most guys relapse, it can take months, after that it will be easy as fuck, and at some point you won't even think of it anymore.

Don't give up though, being free of porn and the craving of masturbation is very freeing, one of the best thing that happened in my life besides stopping my identification with thoughts.

Edited April 27, 2017 by Shin

[Prabhaker]

PRACTICE OF BRAHMACHARYA (celibacy)

By

SRI SWAMI SIVANANDA

A DIVINE LIFE SOCIETY PUBLICATION

http://www.dlshq.org/download/brahma_nopic.htm

http://www.dlshq.org/download/brahmacharya.pdf

[Shin]

I stopped reading when the dude say that I should hear the voice in my head that said that sex is bad.

Sex isn't bad, it's all the bullshit in our head that makes it bad.

[Jordan wang]

the think is that: i've seen a scientific study which said that the penis is like a muscle which needs to do work in order to stay it's size. Is it true? What are the positive sides of fapping? 

I know that it makes your sperm more fit.

[Shin]

If you've succeed the first two months without fapping, and you start to have long streaks without wet dreams, allow yourself to fap (without porn or mind fantasy) the first and the 15th of the month.

You won't need to do that most of the time, but when a wet dream doesn't come for more than 2/3 weeks, your mind may starts to be filled with sexual content and you start to objectify women as sex object again (at least the ones you find very hot).

Only do that if you've succeed to stay away from fapping for at least 2 full months, and if you see yourself coming back to your old ways, next time start that after 4 months.

If you didn't start to do this, I highly recommand it, it's not just to feel a bit more manly, it changes a lot of your brain chemistry and it has amazing results (not a magic pill though, nothing is).

Edited May 17, 2017 by Shin

[Shin]

I don't think you're more depressed than before, It's just that you cannot hide these feelings with porn and self-pleasuring anymore (which clouds the mind a lot).

That's actually a good thing, inquire on why you do have these emotions

Edited May 18, 2017 by Shin

[Shin]

1 month in without any wet dream

 

Also ...

[Max_V]

@Shin That seems so far away...

I took it to 9 days but then I just couldn't take it anymore and fell for the trap :/. 

 

[LaucherJunge]

I think Nofap is very usefull but not to everyone there are exceptions and there are also life situations in which it is not that usefull.
I guess it is more of a question of what you want to achieve in life whether to go for nofap or no.
But i think for probably 90 or 95% of men it is a really beneficial thing for many even life changing.

[Shin]

3 hours ago, Max_V said:

@Shin That seems so far away...

I took it to 9 days but then I just couldn't take it anymore and fell for the trap :/. 

 

9 days is already great, just keep up improving.

What I found that works best, is to have the mindset to never do it again, then it works wonderful.
Doesn't mean you won't have any relapse, but at least that means you gave everything you got, and you tend to improve drastically.

Oh boys, my balls are on fire, I hope it will get easier in time, otherwise I'm going to get crazy at college

@Max_V Well I'm 28, so it must be way easier for me than it is for you

 

4 months without porn already

 

 

Edited August 4, 2017 by Shin

[Max_V]

@Shin I've discovered with nofap that I self pleasure primarily because I feel alone and not loved. So now that I've been doing loving kindness meditations and being compassionate with myself, there was a long while during those 9 days that I even forgot about sex and masturbation.

But ofcourse with my hormones rushing at this age, even if I solve my underlying lackings, I still get arroused very quickly. So it will just be a lot of mindfulness work that will assist me here I think.

Also, awesome  you got to one month, that's really insane! Keep up the amazing work!  

[Girzo]

Two weeks in. No masturbation, no wet dreams. I didn't even plan to do a nofap, it just came out spontanouesly as a result of physical exercising 6 times a week. No real desire to do that, but I already was clean from porn for a long time, so maybe that's why it's so easy.

I almost started to worry if I am not overtraining, but I stil wake up with a tent im my room every morning, so I guess eveything's good.

The main difference that I noticed during those two weeks is that girls started to look prettier. I won't talk about other possible benefits, because I am also cleaning up my diet and believe that factor has more impact on things like energy levels, mood, etc. So can't really judge wheter nofap affects them or not.

Edited August 5, 2017 by Girzo

[Truth Seekah]

Edited August 5, 2017 by Truth Seekah