Having high standards

[StarStruck]

I feel like I have high standards of myself and I'm happy with that but I notice that I'm expecting the same of others which is unreasonable. Nobody is obliged to walk the path that I'm walking. I've tried to accept this but it is kind of difficult. Sub consciously there is still disappointment and disdain.  Probably because I have suffered a lot at the hands of uncultivated people. 

[Princess Arabia]

This happens as a result of judgement, judgement of yourself and others.  When I say certain things, it's because i can sometimes see the bigger picture. What the results will be. A lot of times it's unknowable in the moment, but I know the result will not be satisfactory because of the structure. 

So, the results will be difficulty in certain aspects of your life, disappointments and disdain, just as you stated. And to address your last statement, the result of all that will be blame. Now you're blaming what you call uncultivated people for your suffering - which is a judgement to call them uncultivated.

I'm not trying to come down on you, I'm trying to let you see you can't win when it's not love. If it's not love, it's fear. Judging people isn't loving people, accepting people or exercising empathy towards them. Those qualities are God's qualities. We are far from becoming the Godhead, but moving away from it will not sustain itself. Those negative qualities will need other negative qualities for anchors which will eventually lead to a crashing down of the whole structure. 

Having high standards is great, but are they coming from a place of superficiality and materialism or high standards for quality interactions with people and the outside world, quality way of being, qualities for expressions of love and creativity. If those high standards are for pretty women, fancy cars, nice clothes, expensive this and expensive that, those standards will not create in you a sense of worth, peace and contentment for long because it is not who you are at your core.

You will start to notice that no matter what you do and what you try to achieve materially, you will feel as if you've not really achieved what you really want and that is to feel loved, at peace and filled with joy and contentment. 

This is why I said when we judge others, we are only judging ourselves because now we have set a bar that becomes higher than what we are judging, that we have to live up to and beyond, so we can feel worthy enough to continue judging others and now the internal competition begins with ourselves and when we are unable to live up to those bars we feel disappointment and disdain for others when in truth we are only disappointed in ourselves. It's a cycle. 

A good rule of thumb is to forgive yourself for your own self-judgements and to understand that people are where they're at in their own unique journey and that environment plays a role in how one is developed and that's sometimes out of one's control. Everything we give out comes back to us 10 folds. Learn the art of understanding yourself and others and why they are the way they are instead of judging them for being a certain way because circumstances and environments produced what you are seeing and observing. You are judging your ideas of them and not who they truly are. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited December 5, 2023 by Princess Arabia

[StarStruck]

@Princess Arabia  great points. 

Currently I’m not trying to judge my judgement. And understand my judgemental attitude comes from conditioning. 

And that conditioning was not from love but from fear.  Yesterday somebody told me I was fearful about something and in the beginning I denied it but when I contemplated it I saw what she meant. 

Fear of death and dying without achieving my ideals is a huge fear. But fear is not a good fuel for success. 

[Princess Arabia]

1 minute ago, StarStruck said:

@Princess Arabia  great points. 

Currently I’m not trying to judge my judgement. And understand my judgemental attitude comes from conditioning. 

And that conditioning was not from love but from fear.  Yesterday somebody told me I was fearful about something and in the beginning I denied it but when I contemplated it I saw what she meant. 

Fear of death and dying without achieving my ideals is a huge fear. But fear is not a good fuel for success. 

At least you didn't try to fight me this time. Fear of being broke can make you strive for financial success, and you may get it yes, but it will come at a cost. Love for feeling abundant carries a different energy and that's more sustainable. Love trumps fear. Focus on what you love over what you fear because love is all there is. Fear is an illusion that exists in the mind and will destroy you if you let it.