Career coach recommendations

[trenton]

I'm looking for help on an issue that causes me a lot of anxiety everyday. I need to develop some kind of work outside of chess because chess doesn't make enough money. I have a lot of options so I typed out a paper detailing my interests, stengths, and weaknesses. I'm unsure of how to build a viable career outside of engineering which I otherwise have no interest in.

I hope to find a career coach to help me through this issue.

[universe]

You have to decide what you want. Do you want to have a career or a purpose.

Thinking that there is not enough money in chess is a limiting belief.

You can find out where your interests, strength and weaknesses combine best for a career or purpose with enough experience working different jobs/internships or talking/reading/listening to people who did.

You got this!

 

[Miguel1]

14 hours ago, universe said:

Thinking that there is not enough money in chess is a limiting belief.

Keep in mind that there are healthy limiting beliefs. Knowing your limits is very important, so you don't end up chasing unicorns.

[Nilsi]

How much money are you willing to invest in a quality coach?

 

[trenton]

I recently hired a career coach for 605 dollars.

So far I'm disappointed with the results because we made the distinction between personal values and career values. Out of the list of careers we looked at, nothing really appealed to me. I'll take a second look and consider social work.

I have been working on a book about emotional mastery. I'm almost done with chapter 2 but I might move stuff around. I wish practical psychology were taught in schools, but I don't know how to change the system. I'll share this project with my coach and see how she reacts.

so far the lesson I'm getting time and time again is that I need to stop dreaming. All of my dreams start making me miserable when they seem unachievable. I started shifting away from chess by focusing on a new goal that seemed important to me. If I have to give up this too then it looks like I'm going to wind up becoming an engineer after all just to have a decent paying job.

My over arching purpose is that I want to improve people's lives by sharing knowledge wisdom and research. I've turned people's lives around before, but I am failing to create a job like this. I could do this in many fields like psychology, politics, philosophy, or maybe something else.

It's so frustrating to have passion leading me to dead ends. I don't know how to live a meaningful life outside of a career that aligns with my top values and makes me feel like my work is meaningful. If I have to give up a meaningful career for making money for money's sake, then not much else in life is meaningful to me.

[universe]

On 21/12/2023 at 3:00 AM, trenton said:

If I have to give up a meaningful career for making money for money's sake, then not much else in life is meaningful to me.

It is really time to stop dreaming.

What would you do if there were no other people?

[trenton]

@universe Good question. I never thought of this before because I try to find meaning through other people.

I could only play chess against myself or a computer. If I had no job, then I would be free to do whatever I want. I would not need to become a published author and worry about finding a good career.

I don't know what I would do if there were no other people. I'll keep thinking.

Maybe I would still explore psychology in the hopes of alleviating my OCD and depression. Maybe I would try to contact aliens or spirits. Maybe I would go on hikes and explore different forests and mountains.

I would still want to try psychedelics. If there were no people, then there would be no social stigma, therefore I would be free to pursue God consciousness. God consciousness might be the key to discovering true happiness and peace. Because there are people, I am prevented from pursuing this because of legal troubles for example. I would probably do a lot of meditation because there isn't anything that needs to be accomplished.

I would struggle to feed myself if there were no people because nobody would be working the farm land. I would need to learn to hunt and forage. I would need to learn to get clean water.

If there were no people then I would not care so much about purpose. Nothing needs to be done, therefore I don't need to worry about it. This would free me from a lot of anxiety, depression, rumination, hatred, and judgement. I would be much more peaceful.

[hyruga]

Linda Raynier is pretty good if you are going for interviews and looking to advance in your career.

Edited December 27, 2023 by hyruga