Needy

[The Monk]

Hey Guys, I need help! I want to get into a functional relationship, but I don't want to be needy for sex, how do I get rid of this? In one of Leo's videos I recall him saying go into lots of relationships have sex and burn it out of your system.

 

But that's something I don't want to do, and can't do.

So what are your suggestions, and how do I get rid of my neediness for sex?

Thanks for your suggestions

[Shin]

Practice tantra for like 3/4 hours, if you do it right, maybe you'll stop craving  for sex.

You could also commit suicide and be reincarnate into a demisexual/asexual person.

There is enlightenement, but it could never happen, so ...

 

Have fun !

Edited April 3, 2017 by Shin

[egoeimai]

@The Monk  So there is a need for satisfaction. Ask why you want it so much,how do you feel when you have it,is there any need for other things and you tend to fill the void with sex? It could be anything. Find what causes it.

[The Monk]

@egoeimai It's just when I see attractive girls it occurs.

[egoeimai]

@The Monk Okay. Maybe you have connected these attractive images of girls,with something that you KNOW will bring satisfaction and enjoyment at the moment.Maybe If you disconnect the correlation in order to feel more powerful and not needy? 

[The Monk]

@Shin Do you no longer neediness for sex? be honest.  And if you ever did how did you get rid of it?

Edited April 3, 2017 by The Monk

[Shin]

8 minutes ago, The Monk said:

@Shin Do you no longer neediness for sex? be honest.  And if you ever did how did you get rid of it?

That depends what "neediness for sex" means for you. Most of the time, it's not just sex, it's also the feeling of being loved.

The need for sex, the craving for it, that you will always have, unless you "achieve" the 2 options above.

@The Monk I said 2 options, the suicide wasn't a serious choice.

Edited April 3, 2017 by Shin

[The Monk]

@Shin but I don't want to die.

So I should just meditate? And hope to gain enlightenment?

Also I watch porn could it be caused by that?

Also does the first option really work? @Shin

 

Edited April 3, 2017 by The Monk

[The Monk]

@egoeimai How do I do that?

[The Monk]

@egoeimai and how do I do that?

[egoeimai]

Sex is a way to withdraw your attention from something that bothers you in your life...because it brings you temporary satisfaction and relief. Its like food/drugs/alcohol etcetera.

That is why you feel needy. 

[Shin]

11 minutes ago, The Monk said:

@Shin but I don't want to die.

So I should just meditate? And hope to gain enlightenment?

Also I watch porn could it be caused by that?

Also does the first option really work? @Shin

 

Enlightenment is random, so don't count on that.

Porn is very bad for your psychee, thinking about sex too, you should only masturbate without any pictures in your mind.

The first option probably work, that's what tantra is all about, but I didn't have the experience myself though.

@The Monk It's not stupid, it's just sex, sex is sex, you have to live with it that's all.

Edited April 3, 2017 by Shin

[The Monk]

1 hour ago, Shin said:

Porn is very bad for your psychee, thinking about sex too, you should only masturbate without any pictures in your mind.

????? to realise how stupid it is?

[egoeimai]

1 minute ago, Shin said:

 you should only masturbate without any pictures in your mind.

 

Lol who said that? You? 

There's no should or shouldn't.

There's only what makes you feel good or not good.

[The Monk]

@Shin But when approach a girl I think about her body and having sex. I WANT TO GET RID OF THIS SO BADLY!

Edited April 3, 2017 by The Monk

[The Monk]

@Leo Gura I know we said I should try figure this out myself, but I can't and I really would appreciate your help.

[egoeimai]

I found this. I havent watched it but check this out and find out if it helps. I trust Esther.

[The Monk]

@egoeimai That's a great video!! Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[clytaemnestra]

1 hour ago, egoeimai said:

Sex is a way to withdraw your attention from something that bothers you in your life...because it brings you temporary satisfaction and relief. Its like food/drugs/alcohol etcetera.

Why's wrong to relax sometimes? Same like with the food, to prepare yourself delicious dinner once per week and enjoy it and have a chilly and nice evening? 

If he's obsessed, that's different thing, but I don't see any reason sometimes not to enjoy in a satisfaction and relief sex, food, nice conversations, hobbies whatever can bring to you.

[egoeimai]

22 minutes ago, clytaemnestra said:

Why's wrong to relax sometimes? Same like with the food, to prepare yourself delicious dinner once per week and enjoy it and have a chilly and nice evening? 

If he's obsessed, that's different thing, but I don't see any reason sometimes not to enjoy in a satisfaction and relief sex, food, nice conversations, hobbies whatever can bring to you.

Yeah. Im talking about obsession.