Biases and bigotries

[bebotalk]

I admit I'm a human and have negative thoughts. 

So I don't really like conventionally hot women. I think they're not good people. I think generally they're bad people. They get spoilt from societal treatment and they're not very pleasant to be around. They believe the world has to look up to them. They don't get they're human like all others are, and nothing that special in the grand scheme of things.

In my apartment block, there are a couple of pretty women who live on my same floor, and apart from saying a few brief hellos I ignore them. I don't speak much with the pretty ladies at my workplace, especially those at the same level as me. I even told one of my cousin's friends whilst drunk at a party that she was a bitch since she was hot. There was a very pretty lady who was serving in Starbucks, and she had a very quiet voice and due to the loud music, I couldn't hear her. So I shouted at her to speak up. I didn't care if I embarrassed her or not, since she was attractive. She was in the wrong anyhow, since she should have used some common sense and empathy and had some accountability. People can't hear you in a loud environment, where people are buying products from you, if you don't speak up. 

I can't look at porn with super hot ladies. I usually look at milf or granny porn instead. I can't watch Miss World. 

The way I see it, people can be racist and sexist and get by, so then I can in kind. 

This is more of a statement than anything else. I just won't "accept" what pretty women think we want them to be. I wasn't raised that way. I was raised to be respectful and that we're all on an even keel in life. 

 

 

[lostingenosmaze]

10 minutes ago, bebotalk said:

This is more of a statement than anything else. I just won't "accept" what pretty women think we want them to be. I wasn't raised that way. I was raised to be respectful and that we're all on an even keel in life. 

I think jerking off to granny and milf porn is just as disrespectful to grannies and milfs as it is for super hot lady porn.

[bebotalk]

Just now, lostingenosmaze said:

I think jerking off to granny and milf porn is just as disrespectful to grannies and milfs as it is for super hot lady porn.

Why? they're producing it. people can find such women hot. they're consenting adults. i don't see the issue. i can see my question bothered you though, as does the myriad of porn tastes out there. complain somebody is calling you out, or maybe rein in the expectation that the world meets your spec. it doesn't. i'm glad i think like a man/adult and you don't, and you're wise but you apparently can't filter what you expose yourself to. 

[lostingenosmaze]

@bebotalk Don't really care what you're projecting onto me, I'm just saying the logic you're presenting doesn't follow in my mind.

[bebotalk]

Well, your response showed disgust and an expectation I have to meet your acceptability standards. no such thing ever exists. I'm amused I can't post my thoughts as all others can here. We're all people, and hold the right to use this site. You move like a teenager, who makes up rules of only "cool kids" can do x. I'm glad my "judging you" wounds you, since most adults are just chill and don't give a fuck if they're judged. you can't say why you're special, so that's a you problem. none of us are special. 

I told you, if you don't like this or others then you can ignore it. But then you're "special" and have all sorts of imaginary rules for a 'wise man'. 

[Leo Gura]

Sounds very envious and closedminded.

[bebotalk]

55 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

Sounds very envious and closedminded.

I don't envy anybody. what people get in life is often luck or innate skills. such is life. I admit it is closed-minded and bigoted. I accept i have negative traits as a human being. 

[Leo Gura]

@bebotalk The solution here is to go socialize with girls.

[bebotalk]

23 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

@bebotalk The solution here is to go socialize with girls.

I don't wish to socialise with them. Attractive women are spiteful, mean, narcissisic, cruel, and elitist. They are bullies. They're like rabid wolves, and thus best avoided. 

Though accepting people can be racist but then condemning me loool. 

Both are the same, fundamentally, 

Edited November 24, 2023 by bebotalk

[Princess Arabia]

You love them, that's why. If you didn't they wouldn't bother you. You sound exactly like like how you're describing them. You're seeing the parts of yourself you hate. It's so obvious. I bet you're a handsome guy, too. 

[Leo Gura]

2 hours ago, bebotalk said:

Attractive women are spiteful, mean, narcissisic, cruel, and elitist. They are bullies. They're like rabid wolves, and thus best avoided. 

This is just some nonsense your mind concocted.

Edited November 24, 2023 by Leo Gura

[bebotalk]

37 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

This is just some nonsense your mind concocted.

I see it as a fact and my reality. We all have mindscapes. nobody has perfect thinking and we all have negative biases.

[Princess Arabia]

8 hours ago, lostingenosmaze said:

I think jerking off to granny and milf porn is just as disrespectful to grannies and milfs as it is for super hot lady porn.

You call jerking off to pixels on a screen disrespectful? Lol

[bebotalk]

15 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

You love them, that's why. If you didn't they wouldn't bother you. You sound exactly like like how you're describing them. You're seeing the parts of yourself you hate. It's so obvious. I bet you're a handsome guy, too. 

I don't love them at all. why must I? I respect your view but the idea that people who dislike others merely reflect internal states imho is false. It suggests that there is a perfect state of being or that all actions in life are noble. I think some things or people can be bad. This can either be by design or experience. Even "good people" can have dark traits. "bad people" can have good traits. Putin is a bad person for invading Ukraine, but he clearly has ambition, determination, and other positive traits. Biden might be "good" but I doubt he's an angel. Parents are not responsible for their children's conduct, especially as adults, but sometimes children who are wayward act that way due to parental guidance. Who is to say this isn't true with Hunter Biden?

I don't say my views to be edgy. I just think people should be honest in the good or bad traits they have. Humans are a complex mix on a spectrum of conduct and thought. 

 

[An young being]

22 hours ago, bebotalk said:

I admit I'm a human and have negative thoughts. 

So I don't really like conventionally hot women. I think they're not good people. I think generally they're bad people. They get spoilt from societal treatment and they're not very pleasant to be around. They believe the world has to look up to them. They don't get they're human like all others are, and nothing that special in the grand scheme of things.

In my apartment block, there are a couple of pretty women who live on my same floor, and apart from saying a few brief hellos I ignore them. I don't speak much with the pretty ladies at my workplace, especially those at the same level as me. I even told one of my cousin's friends whilst drunk at a party that she was a bitch since she was hot. There was a very pretty lady who was serving in Starbucks, and she had a very quiet voice and due to the loud music, I couldn't hear her. So I shouted at her to speak up. I didn't care if I embarrassed her or not, since she was attractive. She was in the wrong anyhow, since she should have used some common sense and empathy and had some accountability. People can't hear you in a loud environment, where people are buying products from you, if you don't speak up. 

I can't look at porn with super hot ladies. I usually look at milf or granny porn instead. I can't watch Miss World. 

The way I see it, people can be racist and sexist and get by, so then I can in kind. 

This is more of a statement than anything else. I just won't "accept" what pretty women think we want them to be. I wasn't raised that way. I was raised to be respectful and that we're all on an even keel in life. 

 

 

You don't have to respect the attractive girls more simply because they are beautiful and sexy. In the same way, you don't have to respect them less simply because they are getting unfair advantage. Instead, you can give more respect to those whom you think are not sexy and beautiful. Even if they behave rude, be compassionate with those sexy girls for they may not responsible for their biases as much they are not responsible for their body.

[The Renaissance Man]

14 hours ago, bebotalk said:

I see it as a fact and my reality. We all have mindscapes. nobody has perfect thinking and we all have negative biases.

If it doesn't correspond to actual reality it will backfire in all sorts of ways. Nobody has perfect thinking but if the point of self-improvement is to improve (how crazy).

Also, what's the point in making this post? To preach?

[bebotalk]

8 minutes ago, The Renaissance Man said:

If it doesn't correspond to actual reality it will backfire in all sorts of ways. Nobody has perfect thinking but if the point of self-improvement is to improve (how crazy).

Also, what's the point in making this post? To preach?

The point was to annoy you. Or more I see self-improvement as self-acceptance in part. And don't lecture what I say or how I or when I can express myself. I don't need to preach to random strangers. 

Edited November 25, 2023 by bebotalk

[bebotalk]

37 minutes ago, An young being said:

You don't have to respect the attractive girls more simply because they are beautiful and sexy. In the same way, you don't have to respect them less simply because they are getting unfair advantage. Instead, you can give more respect to those whom you think are not sexy and beautiful. Even if they behave rude, be compassionate with those sexy girls for they may not responsible for their biases as much they are not responsible for their body.

Why must one respect less pretty women more? they're human as much as anybody else.  Conventionally hot women are inherently rude, so I dismiss them accordingly. Nobody has to be exposed to negative stimuli or experiences.

 

Edited November 25, 2023 by bebotalk

[An young being]

51 minutes ago, bebotalk said:

Why must one respect less pretty women more? they're human as much as anybody else.  Conventionally hot women are inherently rude, so I dismiss them accordingly. Nobody has to be exposed to negative stimuli or experiences.

 

That bias is the reason why. If you ignore them, it's not an issue. But if you give them less respect, you are forgetting that they are humans too.

[Salvijus]

Holding grudges is just unwillingness release to the pain. Whatever hurt you experienced this far, the solution, the release and the healing is waiting for you on the other shore. Where judgements are layed aside. And the ancient song of the heart resounds again. 

Edited November 25, 2023 by Salvijus