I Regret Paying For Escort Girls & Strippers

[MrTelepath]

I don’t know how else to say this but looking back this past year I’m ashamed I had to pay women for sex. I even lost my virginity to an Escort Girl. I have very little experience outside of Escort Girls and Strippers. Truth is I was looking for an easy alternative! One that doesn’t involve me putting myself in a position where I’m going to get rejected or hurt by a girl. At the same time, I’m disappointed in myself for not having enough balls to approach. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with Escort Girls and Strippers, particularly, but in this case I did it for the wrong reasons.

Looking back at it I should’ve valued my virginity a lot more. I felt violated the first time I had sex even though it was my choice to go through with it. I hold myself accountable for that and don’t blame the woman. Still it would’ve been nice to lose it to a girl I had an emotional connection with. I don’t know what to make of it now.

[Princess Arabia]

51 minutes ago, Shrooms_Alvarez said:

I don’t know how else to say this but looking back this past year I’m ashamed I had to pay women for sex. I even lost my virginity to an Escort Girl. I have very little experience outside of Escort Girls and Strippers. Truth is I was looking for an easy alternative! One that doesn’t involve me putting myself in a position where I’m going to get rejected or hurt by a girl. At the same time, I’m disappointed in myself for not having enough balls to approach. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with Escort Girls and Strippers, particularly, but in this case I did it for the wrong reasons.

Looking back at it I should’ve valued my virginity a lot more. I felt violated the first time I had sex even though it was my choice to go through with it. I hold myself accountable for that and don’t blame the woman. Still it would’ve been nice to lose it to a girl I had an emotional connection with. I don’t know what to make of it now.

Oh my. These are the sorts of things the mind comes up with to create problems out of thin air. The mind is always seeking out problems to solve, just be aware of that.

[MrTelepath]

17 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Oh my. These are the sorts of things the mind comes up with to create problems out of thin air. The mind is always seeking out problems to solve, just be aware of that.

I mean yeah maybe. Perhaps, it’s nothing to be ashamed of but it’s not exactly how I expected things to turn out for me. I feel pretty low paying Escort Girls and Strippers for their time.

I wasn’t ashamed of it, at first. But then I began talking to a few people about it and they advised me to keep that part of my life a secret. They told me people (especially women) don’t respect that. One of them thought that it was kind of weird to lose your virginity to an escort girl.

[Leo Gura]

Don't worry about it. Just start approaching. You can play around with strippers and escorts on the side, just don't make it your main pursuit. Your virginity is irrelevant.

Edited November 23, 2023 by Leo Gura

[Princess Arabia]

1 hour ago, Shrooms_Alvarez said:

I mean yeah maybe. Perhaps, it’s nothing to be ashamed of but it’s not exactly how I expected things to turn out for me. I feel pretty low paying Escort Girls and Strippers for their time.

I wasn’t ashamed of it, at first. But then I began talking to a few people about it and they advised me to keep that part of my life a secret. They told me people (especially women) don’t respect that. One of them thought that it was kind of weird to lose your virginity to an escort girl.

I'm not here trying to convince you of anything nor trying to tell you how to feel, but just remember, just about everybody have skeletons in their closet. Don't listen to people about moral issues. They have probably done worse things than you paying someone for sex. 

We tend to look at society's standards for what we think morality should be when the people making the rules are committing worse crimes and being more immoral. This is all relative stuff and at the end of the day, if you were really aware of the things you were unknowlingly contributing to by using your dollars, you would puke. 

Ever consider that everything in life has a cost and just because you're paying a stranger for sex, it doesn't mean someone who doesn't, is more caring or loving or less manipulative. A guy who lies to a girl just to get laid is no more or less any worse than someone paying for it. In, fact, to me it's worse. People use sex for their own pleasure all the time without regard for the other's feelings. At least, it was consensual, and both didn't expect any more or any less from each other. 

Don't be ashamed of anything you have done in life. Own up to it, admit it was wrong and you made a mistake, and try your very best to not repeat it, and in this case,.only if you feel it was wrong,.but not because some other person says so. 

[Yimpa]

17 hours ago, Shrooms_Alvarez said:

it’s not exactly how I expected things to turn out for me.

That’s completely normal, and if anything, will make you much more relatable and authentic in your future relationships. 

[Thought Art]

Hell, I regret not giving them a try when I was living in Amsterdam. But, I can understand how you feel. Don’t worry too much about it.

Ive had lots of sex. You don’t need to worry about it. When you do it and have the emotional connection it will be great. 

Edited November 24, 2023 by Thought Art

[Parallax Mind]

I've got a long list of regrets too, it's apart of life. The more spiritual you get the less important regrets, sex, and virginity becomes, or at least it has in my case. 

Edited November 24, 2023 by Parallax Mind

[OBEler]

@Shrooms_Alvarez Was it at least a good experience/fun to have sex with them? 

[MrTelepath]

11 minutes ago, OBEler said:

@Shrooms_Alvarez Was it at least a good experience/fun to have sex with them? 

Yeah, it was. Honestly, I can’t see myself having relationships outside of hooking up with Strippers and Escort Girls. That’s what really disappoints me! It’s a limiting belief, yes, but I don’t have my life put together very well, at the moment. I’m pretty young and I’m far from having a stable future. Work in progress! Also, as I mentioned above it’s much easier to pay for sex than to put myself out there and socialize. Putting myself in uncomfortable situations feels nearly impossible. I start to shake and my hands get sweaty. My heart starts to beat rapidly. I get racing thoughts and stutter as I talk. The thing I’ve learned about myself is that I won’t do something unless I know 100% that the outcome will be positive. Doing things like going to public places, night clubs or any type of social gathering seems a bit out of character for me. I’m very introverted and spend most if not all of my time at home. I was able to do hookups and go to the strip club cause I was working at the time and I knew it didn’t require much effort on my part to get laid through paying. I’m temporarily unemployed, right now. But I won’t lie. I am somewhat tempted to go back to sex workers cause it’s fun. Deep down I know it’s not what I want, really. 

[Emotionalmosquito]

How do you find escorts? I want one but I’m worried about it being a sting op. And I just don’t know how to find one at all 

[Dioxide2533]

Who cares. Forget about idealised visions of how your love life should develop because reality rarely fits that.

The only problem with escorts is that they are prohibitely expensive for most of us if we want some frequency.

[MrTelepath]

45 minutes ago, Dioxide2533 said:

Who cares. Forget about idealised visions of how your love life should develop because reality rarely fits that.

The only problem with escorts is that they are prohibitely expensive for most of us if we want some frequency.

Tell me about it! Some of the girls I saw charged fairly for the hour. One of the girls charged me $120 for only 15 minutes which is a little pricy compared to the others I saw. The only reason I haven’t been seeing more girls is because I’m currently unemployed.

When I get my new job I might want to resume seeing Escorts and Strippers because like I said it’s easier than putting myself in situations where I set myself up for rejection, embarrassment or humiliation. I’m ashamed but at the same time it’s so fun.

9 hours ago, Emotionalmosquito said:

How do you find escorts? I want one but I’m worried about it being a sting op. And I just don’t know how to find one at all 

I use a few sites online to get girls but I don’t know if I’m allowed to share here or through PM.

Edited November 26, 2023 by Shrooms_Alvarez

[Javfly33]

You are Lucky. I Lost my virginity to a hooker but couldnt even get properly hard. Actually i wonder if that would count as losing virginity lmao. 

I find surprising that you have all this nerviousness outside meanwhile with scorts you are fine.

[MrTelepath]

19 minutes ago, Javfly33 said:

You are Lucky. I Lost my virginity to a hooker but couldnt even get properly hard. Actually i wonder if that would count as losing virginity lmao. 

I find surprising that you have all this nerviousness outside meanwhile with scorts you are fine.

It’s because Escorts and Strippers don’t require much effort to sleep with. I still get anxious around Escorts and Strippers an example being the first time I went to the strip club. However, I don’t get anywhere near as nervous as if I were to approach regular women. 
 

Edit: It’s an easy alternative in that I don’t have to put myself in situations where I’m going to get rejected or humiliated.

Edited November 26, 2023 by Shrooms_Alvarez

[PurpleTree]

40 minutes ago, Javfly33 said:

You are Lucky. I Lost my virginity to a hooker but couldnt even get properly hard. Actually i wonder if that would count as losing virginity lmao. 

I find surprising that you have all this nerviousness outside meanwhile with scorts you are fine.

Well it‘s escorts job to sleep with you. They‘ll sleep with anybody. And there is no rejection. But yea i get op it’s also legal here i‘ve used their services often.  It can be fun if you have the money but can also be limiting.

[MrTelepath]

3 minutes ago, PurpleTree said:

Well it‘s escorts job to sleep with you. They‘ll sleep with anybody. And there is no rejection.

Exactly my point!!! Thank You.

[Kalki Avatar]

@Leo Gura Exactly. I don’t even remember with whom I lost my virginity lmao 

[Princess Arabia]

35 minutes ago, PurpleTree said:

Well it‘s escorts job to sleep with you. They‘ll sleep with anybody. And there is no rejection. But yea i get op it’s also legal here i‘ve used their services often.  It can be fun if you have the money but can also be limiting.

That's your P.O.V. Not every escort will sleep with anybody and there have been times when they have chosen not to be with a particular person for various reasons. 

Street hookers doing it for Crack or drugs might fall under that category of sleeping with anybody but I'm not referring to them. 

[PurpleTree]

9 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

That's your P.O.V. Not every escort will sleep with anybody and there have been times when they have chosen not to be with a particular person for various reasons. 

Street hookers doing it for Crack or drugs might fall under that category of sleeping with anybody but I'm not referring to them. 

Sure if the guy is too drunk, too high, argues about money, unhygienic etc he could be rejected