Why do we men feel worse after masturbation/sex?

[mr_engineer]

On 11/22/2023 at 2:40 AM, The0Self said:

I’ve sometimes noticed the same with porn, but with the highlight reel or fantasizing (masturbation without porn), if anything it raises the mood in a similar albeit lesser fashion as sex. Makes me think porn might not be a great thing for men, so I avoid it for the most part.

That's because porn conditions you to be the watcher, whereas the highlight reel makes you feel like she's seducing you directly, so it makes your ego feel better to get off to that. 

On 11/21/2023 at 11:30 PM, ShardMare said:

We crave women, sex all the time. But after we get it there are feelings of anxiety and depression.

Is it just simple neurology? This is how our brain and dopamine works? 

So should we use sex just for making children? 

This is a simple question but I masturbate really rarely but its always the same cycle. Its a craving and after its done the mood drops a lot.

This can happen when you're only caring about your pleasure/you're not caring about her pleasure. Aka, if you're objectifying the women you're getting off to. 

Sexualization is not the same as objectification. It's the decision to sexualize a woman only based on looks - that's objectification. So, if you are also looking at her personality/what she's into, you're checking for compatibility and you're consciously choosing to sexualize women based on that, it can elevate the level of consciousness of your sex. Then I think you'll be fine. 

Edited November 23, 2023 by mr_engineer