How do I stay consistent in transforming my life?

[MattHulmes]

Hey, everyone. This is my first time posting in here. 

I recently came to the conclusion that I'm lying to myself. 

I use to believe I would do anything to change my life, but I'm not. I'm not doing the work I think I have to do to achieve the goals I want. 

Really, all I want is to date someone. Someone beautiful that I care about and if I expect so much from someone, I need to also put in my own work. 

But how do I let go of the negative emotions I feel, the enormous resistance to putting in consistent work that will eventually get me to the point that I want to date someone I care about? The two main goals I feel I really want to accomplish is bettering my income and bettering my physical appearance. I think I feel angry because I have to let go of the idea or goal of attaining a girlfriend very quickly and it's painful. I think there are a lot of complicated emotions I have to let go. 

Is it just a matter of doing the Sedona method each day? 

There's also this nagging feeling of, am I doing the right things everyday or not? How do I let go of that voice and just trust that as long as I'm doing something productive, reading, creating, lifting weight, eating right, that's good as opposed to bad habits, playing video games, watching tv, watching porn? 

[ted73104]

Life is a struggle. If you want to let go of that voice nagging you constantly, you probably have to give up getting your dream girl. However that's not what you want right? So your subconscious mind is pushing you to achieve your goal, but your body is reluctant to budge due to enormous amount of work that is required.

I think you should clarify what you really want first, are you looking to satisfy your desire of lust or are you really looking for true love? Obtaining a higher income or improving your looks may not be the most straightforward way to achieve either case. Perhaps you could get a dating coach to help you?

[CARDOZZO]

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Edited November 21, 2023 by CARDOZZO