How real Is no fap? What is addiction to porn?

[Schizophonia]

I'm still torn because the cumulative sexual excitement encourages people to make bad relational choices and waste time.

[Agrande]

Some people unfortunately suffer from POIS (post orgasmic illness syndrome) and lots of people use PMO as escapism from their current situations and all the BS festering up inside of them. This noFap thing has gotten out of hand and has genuinely sexually healthy people repressing their sexuality for 'super powers'. I only support NoFap as a catalyst for major changes in your life + dealing with POIS and to wean off porn addiction. 

At some point, people realize that jerking off and porn doesn't satisfy their inner need for intimacy and connection to another woman that's why so many people feel empty after 'doing the deed'.

[Yimpa]

For me, my “addiction” to porn and masturbation actually stems from repressing my sexuality for over a decade. I’ve had to leave religion and family structures (stuff forced upon me) to finally be more authentic with myself.

Being inauthentic with yourself can surely lead you down unhealthy paths. 

[Yimpa]

45 minutes ago, Schizophonia said:

I'm still torn because the cumulative sexual excitement encourages people to make bad relational choices and waste time.

Just like with managing finances and a business, there are healthy and unhealthy ways to express sexuality. 

Also, what  is considered “healthy” and “unhealthy” is dependent on the structures you are identified with. For example, being LGBT is seen as evil in the lens of hardcore Catholics, but that is not the case from a modern, scientific lens.

[ZenSwift]

Just do Nofap for a month to create a contrast of direct experience and that will give you a lot of clarity on how much it impacts you in your personal day to day life. 

I personally changed my life with a 180 day no fap to completely cut out a very difficult addiction of mine.

But even today I have chosen to do No Fap November just to see if I could still do it. And I can definitely say that I'm experiencing Clarity of how much it is a part of my life and how much it impacts my life. 

Like what am I supposed to do with this newfound freetime? 

[Dauntment]

 

[Holymoly]

I think its good and benifits are immense, it make sense to me that the level of pleasure it creates comes at a cost of some kind. But the cost of nofap is that you don’t get to have sex so… It depends what you want, somehow I don’t think Jesus or Buddha would have been jerking off much  

[TheGod]

Don't listen to anyone on this forum or elsewhere. Just try it and see what happens. Stick to your direct experience. 

I've been practising no-fap from time to time for the last 4 years. 

Here's how it affects me : 

Prons: 

- Boost in confidence that begin to seem too direct or even slightly aggressive. I've been doing a lot of psychotherapy on myself (I'm psychologist) and when I started combing this with no-fap the results are insanely good. I feel at ease when expressing my thoughts, I'm not pleasing people in order to get their approval. I talk my thoughts when I feel like doing so (maybe even when it's not that appropriate). I'm better at keeping my boundaries with others in general.  

- Increased feminine energy. This one is a mind fuck, because I didn't hear anyone reporting this (maybe it's just for me). I become more sensitive, emphatic. Things can make me cry very easily. I can see a beautiful flower on a street and a tear will go down my cheeks, or it could be a cute kitten that I saw on YouTube, or someone's suffering or pain. 

- Negativity and depression cease to be. I feel very happy and my sense of well-being is enhanced. I feel very happy from small things (talking to a friend, dancing at a night club, talking to people, drinking coffee, listening to music, going to gym).

 

Cons: 

There is only one con that become unbearable after day 5 for me - horniness. 

It just drives me insane. I begin to feel some sort of a pain. This pain is very strong and you can't distract yourself. It's as though every cell of your body is asking you to fuck.  If I eat I want to fuck, If I read a book I want to fuck, If I talk about news I want to fuck. Desire to fuck becomes your default state of consciousness. Therefore, it's difficult to keep going. I never did more than 15 days. 

 

[Yimpa]

You can get to a point where your love  surpasses any kind of porn you can find on the internet. No amount of porn can equate to this love I speak of.

Why? Because it’s Alien Love.

[Princess Arabia]

23 minutes ago, Yimpa said:

You can get to a point where your love  surpasses any kind of porn you can find on the internet. No amount of porn can equate to this love I speak of.

Why? Because it’s Alien Love.

Hush

[Salvijus]

11 hours ago, Dauntment said:

 

[Display_Name]

I feel absolutely both physically and energetically drained after watching porn.

[Yimpa]

37 minutes ago, Display_Name said:

I feel absolutely both physically and energetically drained after watching porn.

It could be because you’re consuming porn without actually being in touch with why you’re doing it.

Could it be that there‘s conflict within you for consuming porn in the first place?

Having a clear understanding of your intentions here is vital. Make a distinction between enjoying porn because you love porn for what it is vs. perpetuating a fantasy, despite you actually longing for an intimate relationship.

In other words, by perpetuating a fantasy, you’re using porn as an escape, or denying yourself the opportunity to create an intimate relationship because you’re afraid it.

[CARDOZZO]

If you don't have high testosterone levels, porn makes you complacent and you'll not pursue real woman.

[CARDOZZO]

What you really want is not porn.

What you want is deep connection, seduction, warm, touch, feeling powerful, aliveness, romance.

[Yimpa]

5 minutes ago, CARDOZZO said:

What you really want is not porn.

What you want is deep connection, seduction, warm, touch, feeling powerful, aliveness, romance.

Porn can give you all that, but it’ll be in a much different context. 

[CARDOZZO]

@Yimpa I don't think so.

Porn tends to be superficial.

Nothing better than touching a soft skin and hearing a soft moaning on your ear calling you daddy.

Edited November 20, 2023 by CARDOZZO

[Yimpa]

@CARDOZZO you touch yourself when watching porn. But you can also watch it mindlessly and not be aware of that.

[CARDOZZO]

@Yimpa I love real woman. Period.

I think men should only have real sex with real woman.

The rest is just coping mechanism.

Be a Monk or Be a Player.

[FourCrossedWands]

I am now 2+ years on no fap. It becomes very easy once you pass a certain point. The first month was the most difficult.