How To Solve That Problem

[The0Self]

1 hour ago, 28 cm unbuffed said:

@flowboy

This is what I wrote in my first post before I asked a question about what should I do:

All of the advice was like: "There's something wrong with you, you should like them", and here's what you can do with that: (...)

Fuck your musts and shoulds, I'm not convinced. 

 

If everyone else jumped off a bridge, would you?

 

Yeah they were calling out bigotry, and in a very walking-on-eggshells manner I might add. Btw, a mother’s interaction with their son is one main training ground for how the kid will view women when he grows up — it’s not the only training ground but it is one and generally if you have some kind of aberrant view of women there is a reason for it.

For instance a man who was emasculated by the mother as a kid may grow up to become sexually submissive, but if that same boy with the same mother behavior instead preserved his manhood (bullying makes or breaks) then he may grow up to be a womanizer who only uses women for sex.

[28 cm unbuffed]

@The0Self 

What would be your judgment when it comes to my "polygon" results?

A reminder: my mother was a narcissist, probably high psychopathic spectrum, she left my father when I was like 4, father-in-law didn't give a single fuck about me.

I am afraid of cold-approaching women, I think they are delusional when it comes to their standards and they have way too fucking high self-worth, probably created by social media approval. That makes me sick and don't want to even interact with them, as I would feel like I'm kissing their asses just for the pussy. And I don't want to do that and lose my dignity for that.

That's why I act like a meme-like sigma male grindset guy, that's just on his grind and never makes any moves and wants them to do anything

No, just accept the fact, that they should be worshipped, approached, provided, they should be complimented, god knows what else, just because they fucking exist.

That's the sad reality.

And that's the realtity that I don't want to accept.

[The0Self]

3 hours ago, 28 cm unbuffed said:

@The0Self 

What would be your judgment when it comes to my "polygon" results?

A reminder: my mother was a narcissist, probably high psychopathic spectrum, she left my father when I was like 4, father-in-law didn't give a single fuck about me.

I am afraid of cold-approaching women, I think they are delusional when it comes to their standards and they have way too fucking high self-worth, probably created by social media approval. That makes me sick and don't want to even interact with them, as I would feel like I'm kissing their asses just for the pussy. And I don't want to do that and lose my dignity for that.

That's why I act like a meme-like sigma male grindset guy, that's just on his grind and never makes any moves and wants them to do anything

No, just accept the fact, that they should be worshipped, approached, provided, they should be complimented, god knows what else, just because they fucking exist.

That's the sad reality.

And that's the realtity that I don't want to accept.

The reality you don’t want to accept is not all women are like your mother was. And no you don’t need to worship women… do you worship men? Don’t treat women any different.

I don’t like mentioning your mother btw. I was giving a generalization based upon what I’ve seen in people and then you indicated that you indeed have that exact issue that I’ve seen in others. That’s all. I hope you find peace with all this stuff. Regardless of the issue, the solution is usually way simpler than you think.

Edited November 25, 2023 by The0Self

[The0Self]

33 minutes ago, Squeekytoy said:

@28 cm unbuffed Didn't read thread. Short answer: Sex doll, VR porn + haptics, take your pick or take 'em all. (Assuming you don't have money to burn on escorts.)

Any of those can in fact be very therapeutic.

Now I’m even starting to see OP’s point.

How does that answer his question about reconciling wanting sex with not liking women?  Or maybe it does and I’m just not seeing it.

[28 cm unbuffed]

My problem is multilayered and I'm trying to hit it from different angles (just like your moms 👉👌)

I'm understanding myself more and more, but I am sure that I don't want to end up with escorts, VR, or sex toys @Squeekytoy - thank you for your advice 🤗

 

My current reality is that girls act arrogant and have ridiculous standards and I'm not sure what more I can do tbh. I'm not going to simp for them or whatever they want, I'm not going to lose my dignity for pussy.

They don't want me, I accept that. I go on a one-year semen retention journey, we'll see what happens.

I'm already on one month or something (I'm doing NNN and I started a couple of days before November).

 

On a side note, this is an observation that I made:

1. Most men are single

2. Most women aren't single

How is that possible and what's happening here? Is that possible that they are all fucking the guys at the top, but act like they are such good, innocent souls, that they are taken and have boyfriends? 🤔

Because they can't have boyfriends, as there are no boyfriends having them, most men are fucking single, math.

Hmm... 🤨😐😑

Edited November 26, 2023 by 28 cm unbuffed

[28 cm unbuffed]

@Squeekytoy

I already am not able to sleep properly because of the urges.

I filled my schedule with work, gym, stretching, sauna, reading, and university. Will add YouTube to all of that soon.

I added semen retention for one year on top of that.

If these will not force me to change something, nothing else ever will. 🤷‍♂️

Edited November 26, 2023 by 28 cm unbuffed

[flowboy]

On 25/11/2023 at 6:27 PM, 28 cm unbuffed said:

Please help me, I can't struggle with this any longer...

Apparently you can, because admitting that you might be wrong and your belief system might have to be overhauled to get rid of this pain, was just too high a price to pay.

Humility? Fuck you. Give me a solution that requires no emotional or physical labour and makes me right about everything.

Most people want to be right, more than they want to be happy.

You are no exception.

Hope you enjoy stewing in your own emotional filth, I’m done taking pity on your self chosen insanity. Cheers 🍻 

Edited November 27, 2023 by flowboy

[something_else]

On 26/11/2023 at 7:04 AM, 28 cm unbuffed said:

 

On a side note, this is an observation that I made:

1. Most men are single

2. Most women aren't single

How is that possible and what's happening here? Is that possible that they are all fucking the guys at the top, but act like they are such good, innocent souls, that they are taken and have boyfriends? 🤔

Because they can't have boyfriends, as there are no boyfriends having them, most men are fucking single, math.

"most men are single and most women aren't single" is not statistically true if you account for all ages, in that case it ends up being around 30% of both genders are single. The "most men are single and most women are not single" stat only holds true if you look at ages 18-29, in which case 51% of men are single and 30% of women are single.

Worth noting this only applies in the US as well, where the situation is one of the worst in the world. 

One way to explain part of this is that men are typically in relationships with younger women e.g. lots of the 25+ women in the the 18-29 category are probably in relationships with men in the lower ages of the 30-49 category which will affect this stat significantly.

Women also feel strong societal pressure to 'report as not being single' once they hit mid twenties, which will affect the results a lot too.

To be clear I'm not saying this isn't indicative of a societal issue, it is, just that it might not be as severe as it's made out to be online. Certainly I held a lot of these same ideas you do now before I started being much more sociable, and then I realised that a lot of these blackpill/redpill issues you read about online don't seem to play out in the real world anywhere near as severely.

Edited November 27, 2023 by something_else