How To Solve That Problem

[Miguel1]

5 minutes ago, Spiritual Warrior said:

I appreciate that man, I think there's a lot that I need to work on and Im sure you could help me out, just not sure where to start.. maybe I'll send you a message when I'm ready to talk about it. 

Yeah, feel free to whenever.

I'm done here with this guy. Wasting time on such a case is just sheer stupidity. I had hoped it was just a troll. But 800 posts here and hasn't been kicked out? Probably not.

[28 cm unbuffed]

10 minutes ago, Migue Lonas said:

Yeah, feel free to whenever.

I'm done here with this guy. Wasting time on such a case is just sheer stupidity. I had hoped it was just a troll. But 800 posts here and hasn't been kicked out? Probably not.

The only one trolling and not answering my question, acting like a real man is you, go chase some more pussy you monkey 🤤

And flex on some poor virgin guy who doesn't know the reality of the world and women yet.

Go show him, 10 years of experience being a chasing pussy loser, must be a great portfolio 🤩

Edited November 16, 2023 by 28 cm unbuffed

[The0Self]

On 11/13/2023 at 3:30 PM, 28 cm unbuffed said:

I have a nagging problem with getting laid.

I don't want a girlfriend, in fact - I don't like women

They attract me sexually, but I don't like them!

(And the exact opposite towards men)

What is my solution to this problem? I want to pursue my life purpose and do my work, but I can't because I'm getting too horny and I can't focus!

What a fucked up, sociopathic design this is? You have a dick that is telling you to fuck, but to do that, you have to deal with women, that you don't even fucking like.

Please help me, I can't struggle with this any longer...

Thanks.

 

To answer your questions in advance about finding a source of my not liking women - psychopathic narcissist mother, tons of failed relationships that proved to me over and over again it's not worth it (but my dick thought otherwise), women are mostly dumb, childish, too emotional, most of them are low value doing some bullshit activities, living in their delusional bubble, I really don't care, it's not worth it

I will answer your question, despite your seeming non-receptivity in late comments, but I know that’s just pain talking so let’s put those aside.

Be a good respectful guy with assertiveness and strength, and have boundaries (be true to your word).

Anything you do in the hopes of winning points with a girl, will make you lose points. Do not think of points — assume you already got the girl, until proven otherwise in cases where she doesn’t want to have sex with you for whatever reason none of which have any impact on your value as a man.

You have to embody confidence and value. Do not try to win the girl over. You need to come from the frame that you get girls like her all the time, and you don’t worry about the possibility of her not liking you.

She will not escalate, that’s your job. Speak to her with no special importance placed on the conversation by virtue of her being a hot girl. Meaning, talk to her like she’s your dad or friend, with one difference: flirtation. Have multiple conversation threads running (rather than talking about one thing and then concluding that topic by starting a second one and so on… don’t do that) — each time you say something that comes to mind it’s a potential new conversation thread, and you should drop threads that get bad reactions and continue the ones getting good reactions (same with sex — stay away from positions/actions that get negative responses and do more of what gets good pleasure responses). Say whatever comes to mind in a reasonably socially calibrated manner yet with no thought of her not liking something you say, so be ballsy in that you are sexualizing, but of course not in the sense that you say things that are over-the-top sexual or rude.

Don’t try to impress her, but do present the best version of yourself — you need to think you’re super awesome in spite of results, and then the confidence will become more solid and real as you get results. And when you’re rejected, which will be most of the time even when you’re very advanced and have an over-abundance of sexual options, you need to keep your dignity at all costs and treat it like what it is, nothing.

Hope that answers as much as you need to decide whether this is something you think you’re ready for.

Edited November 16, 2023 by The0Self

[28 cm unbuffed]

3 minutes ago, The0Self said:

I will answer your question, despite your seeming non-receptivity in late comments, but I know that’s just pain talking so let’s put those aside.

Be a good respectful guy with assertiveness and strength, and have boundaries (be true to your word).

Anything you do in the hopes of winning points with a girl, will make you lose points. Do not think of points — assume you already got the girl, until proven otherwise in cases where she doesn’t want to have sex with you for whatever reason none of which have any impact on your value as a man.

You have to embody confidence and value. Do not try to win the girl over. You need to come from the frame that you get girls like her all the time, and you don’t worry about the possibility of her not liking you.

She will not escalate, that’s your job. Speak to her with no special importance placed on the conversation by virtue of her being a hot girl. Meaning, talk to her like she’s your dad or friend, with one difference: flirtation. Say whatever comes to mind in a reasonably socially calibrated manner yet with no thought of her not liking something you say, so be ballsy in that you are sexualizing, but of course not in the sense that you say things that are over-the-top sexual or rude.

Don’t try to impress her, but do present the best version of yourself — you need to think you’re super awesome in spite of results, and then the confidence will become more solid and real as you get results. And when you’re rejected, which will be most of the time even when you’re very advanced and have an over-abundance of sexual options, you need to keep your dignity at all costs and treat it like what it is, nothing.

Another guy not answering my question, I'm done.

Please close the topic, thank you for your "help" guys, bye 🫡🙏

[The0Self]

2 minutes ago, 28 cm unbuffed said:

Another guy not answering my question, I'm done.

Please close the topic, thank you for your "help" guys, bye 🫡🙏

Dude I know your question is what do I do to solve the problem of disliking women while wanting sex with them. I’m saying the way to solve that is to actually get intimate with them until you no longer dislike them. Because that’s what will happen.

If you don’t actually want the problem solved, fine.

[28 cm unbuffed]

@The0Self

I want to solve the problem, but not by getting along with the problem

(I said that in my previous responses too)

If that's the only genius idea that you guys have, I'll just stick to my way of living, I prefer it that way

[The0Self]

1 minute ago, 28 cm unbuffed said:

@The0Self

I want to solve the problem, but not by getting along with the problem

(I said that in my previous responses too)

If that's the only genius idea that you guys have, I'll just stick to my way of living, I prefer it that way

I don’t have time to read all of them though I read some.

It’s not just getting along with the problem, it’s correcting a delusional belief cluster you have about women. The real character of a good woman is just waiting for you to see them and you’re stuck thinking that there’s just shit underneath her clothes hiding her appearance from you, when she’s actually awesome and you’d think the same if you thought you were awesome too.

Yeah it’s understandable to not want to make that big of a change.

[UnbornTao]

7 hours ago, 28 cm unbuffed said:

Maybe, for now I simply don't want to

If you're unwilling to relate to others authentically then why are you asking?

Learn and practice to be present with another, not your traumas, ideas, etc., that you have about them. Arguably your traumas might still be there but when relating they're irrelevant and get in the way. This is easier said than done.

Figure out the how for yourself, make up exercises aligned with that. For example, consider where's another? Where is your pain and expectations? And notice that's not an experience nor presence of another.

Edited November 17, 2023 by UnbornTao

[petar8p]

1 man vs. a thousand. 

Gotta be right

[28 cm unbuffed]

8 hours ago, UnbornTao said:

If you're unwilling to relate to others authentically then why are you asking?

Because you all keep on giving me advice on some questions that you want to answer, not mine!

6 hours ago, petar8p said:

1 man vs. a thousand. 

Gotta be right

I'm not saying you're all wrong and I'm right, I'm just saying "That's not what I asked for"

 

🎯 Setting the Record Straight: Growing up with a psychopathic narcissistic mother and no father figure, I was pulled towards darker energies while trying to play the 'nice guy' role—a recipe for disaster due to the lack of a strong, positive male role model. 🌪️

 

💔 In my relationships, I often ended up hurt, especially by a woman who wasn't what she seemed. She appeared caring and genuine, but her true colors pushed me to a breaking point, sparking a spiritual awakening and severe PTSD. This betrayal made me retreat from the world. 🌧️

 

📈 Progress Made: Despite these setbacks, I've made significant strides. I'm now dedicated to working hard, staying fit 🏋️‍♂️, reading 📚, learning 🧠, and expanding my social circle. 🤝

 

🚫 What I'm Clear About: I'm determined not to fall back into those harmful patterns. I don't need advice that doesn't align with my personal growth and aspirations. 🛑

 

❓ My Question: I aim to maintain my fulfilling life, steering clear of the drama from past relationships, whether with 'bad' or 'good' girls. I'm exploring ways to manage my desires without resorting to casual flings (fwb), losing my dignity (hookers), or depleting my energy (masturbation). 💭

 

🔄 Once again - entering a relationship isn't for me; it would be uncomfortable for both me and the girl. 🙅‍♂️

 

🙉 Off-Limits Advice: I'm not open to hearing how wonderful girls can be or how rewarding a relationship is. I've tried enough and am no longer interested. 🚫

 

🙏 Keep that advice to yourself, please. Thank you! 🤗

 

🫡👉 What approach can I take from here? 👈🤔

 

(Maybe now, after pointing that all out you idiots will understand my fucking question 🤗🙄)

Edited November 17, 2023 by 28 cm unbuffed

[meta_male]

16 hours ago, 28 cm unbuffed said:

@meta_male Thanks for your advice, sounds like you know your shit!

Still learning. But I know when someone emulates their narcissistic, psychopathic parent.

[28 cm unbuffed]

@meta_male

🙈😜😇

[Loveeee]

 

[28 cm unbuffed]

@Loveeee

...

another loser

[flowboy]

On 13/11/2023 at 9:30 PM, 28 cm unbuffed said:

To answer your questions in advance about finding a source of my not liking women - psychopathic narcissist mother, tons of failed relationships that proved to me over and over again it's not worth it (but my dick thought otherwise), women are mostly dumb, childish, too emotional, most of them are low value doing some bullshit activities, living in their delusional bubble, I really don't care, it's not worth it

@28 cm unbuffed I sympathize, sometimes I go through a phase where I just dislike women and how they work. But for me at least, it passes.

So the answer to how to solve that problem:

1. Heal your childhood trauma (can take years, but it will also make you a happier person)
2. Doing this will give you more nuance and be less attached to these black and white beliefs about women that you got from your psychopathic mother.
3. Doing this will make you emotionally healthy, which makes you attractive to & gives you access to a whole new class of women: those who are not dumb, childish, too emotional, or doing bullshit. They are there, but they can't see you and you can't see them at the moment. This is because of the perception bubble caused by unresolved childhood trauma.

I know you probably don't want to hear this, but hey... it's the truth as I have lived it.

[28 cm unbuffed]

So you're all saying that there is no workaround for that or nobody invented it yet?
And that I'm doomed to accept women as they are. find myself one, be okay with how fucked up she is (by default) and I can't do anything about it?

What a great world 🫡🤩😁

 

Maybe at least AI androids with big tits will become a reality someday... 🤤🥰🥲

Edited November 17, 2023 by 28 cm unbuffed

[NoSelfSelf]

@28 cm unbuffed 

What you call fucked up by default is product of all the guys she hanged around with, guys like you who are damaged,cant take accountability and become a man, you care about women,want her to be a certen way, because you dont want to learn game and you becoming someone of value that will impact her to change her ways to fit your standard(oh wait you dont have standards,rules,structure program for her to fit in? Oh well i dont know who is in wrong here?) ,women are reflection of you if you ignore this then there is no help...

So you tell me she acts fucked up just because ,then why are you not getting rid of her and find someone who will follow you? but first you dont have nothing to offer her so wtf we talking here?since you dont believe in yourself and red pill content rot your mind why would she be good to you? 

This is simple mathematics...

Be a man=you bring a caring  woman 

You dont like her behaviour=get rid of her

You understand that men with game cant get rid of a woman coming to their home to cook,clean and whatever to just be with them 😅(they need to make 100 excuses to get rid of her) wake up but you dont want to easier to call them damaged and stupid by default...

 

[28 cm unbuffed]

@NoSelfSelf

You're partly right. I agree when it comes to leadership, being an example, and good man in general. 
What I don't agree with is putting that in such a context that someone would think, that women don't have their brains (hmm, maybe you're right on that 🤔) or free will and are just unconscious puppets, and if they're behaving wrong, it's all man's fault.

Give me a break.

I'm a high-value guy - I know that sounds cringe, but with all the things that I'm doing and the qualities that I bring to the table, I think that's true.

It doesn't change the fact, that women are just women, and as I said in the first post of mine - I don't like that shit. 

It's stupid, childish, emotional, manipulative behavior that you have to tell a bitch over and over again to fix, and act like a normal human being, not like a stupid animal. And that's the case for 99, I'M SORRY - 100% of them. It's a pain in the asssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss, because they can't just act like conscious, smart, normal people themselves and of course, I forgot - it's men's fault 🥲

Eat a dick with that kind of approach and advice bro

Edited November 17, 2023 by 28 cm unbuffed

[NoSelfSelf]

@28 cm unbuffed Its all your fault mister high value guy because you allow the behaviour number 1 number 2 when she sees you are of value she will change her ways to keep you but wont for a guy who judges them 😂

You just dont get where im coming from...

You are lost cause just leave them alone 👍

 

[The0Self]

22 minutes ago, 28 cm unbuffed said:

they can't just act like conscious, smart, normal people themselves

They do it all the time so clearly you haven’t been around them as much as you could.

We are trying to help you. If no one here is directly answering your question despite trying to, maybe it has something to do with you or the way you worded your question — at least that’s what I’d tentatively assume if I were you and I was taking full responsibility for my actions. Maybe you already did that and the question still wasn’t getting answered, but at that point, anger and name calling is probably not the best course to get your question answered.

Yeah women have a completely different mating strategy and setup, but they’re still capable of being fully conscious, understanding, kind people.

Edited November 17, 2023 by The0Self