2nd lesson I learnt from Jada Smith (Deep) PART II.

[koops]

Here is the first lesson:

I found this one belongs in this section of the forum.
 

This 2nd lesson is about DEEP RELATIONSHIPS.

Not just relationships. About what I named: DEEP ’30-YEAR-POST-DEATH LOVE LETTER'  RELATIONSHIP.
 

Let me explain.

I was writing my post about ‘Integrating Purple’, quitting social media addiction and actually going deep with your tribe.

Then I stumble with this Jada Smith podcast.

And it hit me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FRP1q1Jj-7o&ab_channel=JayShettyPodcast

I was neglecting deep friendships. I was neglecting deep relationships aside from my loving relationship.

I hit me specially when he talks about the letter 2Pac send her.

30 years have passed. And she stills remembers it. She still feels it deeply. She stills cries over it.

Luckily I have sent and received love letters from my girlfriend; and some texts from a close friend who, sadly, passed.

And I keep those deep in my heart. And in a special drawer. I will be 60 and still get emotional rereading them.

So my point is:

When was the last time you STOPPED the cycle of day to day distraction in order to go deep into your feelings for THAT person?

Yes, that one you are thinking about.

And actually invest the time, energy, focus and emotional labour to put into paper your feelings for them.

Writing something tangible, real, that will stand the test of time.

Something that will deepen your most cherished relationships.
 

When was the last time you wrote a love letter?

Not just a love letter, I mean:

A deep ’30 year-post-death’ love letter that brings you (and your recipient) to tears.

The kind of letter that if you die today; your girlfriend/ son /father/ friend/ mentor/ mentee would still cry full of joy, sadness, melancholy 30 years later reading it.

Or viceversa:

The kind of letter that if your girlfriend/ son /father/ friend/ mentor/ mentee die today; you still will cry full of joy, sadness, melancholy 30 years later reading it.

 

It doesn't have to be a letter.

It can also be:

-a poem

-a photo printed (with a dedication in the back)

-a painting (titanic style)

-a special book with a personal dedication

-a significant gift

Or a combination of these.

 

Something TANGIBLE.

That you/they can touch.

Smell.

Feel.

Sense.

Something real.

Something that ages, that deteriorates with time, like your body.

Something impregnated with love.

Something that merges life and death. 

 

Doing spiritual practices, contemplation, meditation or introspection, is great. 

Being alone is great. 

Solitude is great.

I can't understand life without these practices.

BUT.

What is the point of life without a few deep ’30 year-post-death love letter’ relationships?

Break the cycle of unconsciousness.

Stop.

Think of the people you love.

Sit down with a candle and a piece of paper.

And write (you can get ideas in these articles: https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/advice/the-art-of-letter-writing/)

Make life worth remembering.

Imagine how the face of your loved ones would bright when they receive your letter.

 

Take your time. Go deep into your feelings.

You will be glad you did it.

Today, and 30 years from now.

 

 

Much love

-k

 

Edited November 13, 2023 by koops