Books on setting boundaries?

[Tboy]

Anyone know any good books that they've used to become better at setting boundaries? By setting boundaries I mean not letting people disrespect you in conversation or manipulate you and take up your time/energy.

[Yimpa]

3 minutes ago, Tboy said:

By setting boundaries I mean not letting people disrespect you in conversation or manipulate you and take up your time/energy.

People are allowed to do all of those things. It’s a matter of how you respond to that which makes all the difference.

5 minutes ago, Tboy said:

Anyone know any good books that they've used to become better at setting boundaries? 

I honestly don’t read books, so I couldn’t tell you. 

[HMD]

@Tboy Read Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene  

[Tboy]

1 hour ago, Yimpa said:

People are allowed to do all of those things. It’s a matter of how you respond to that which makes all the difference.

I honestly don’t read books, so I couldn’t tell you. 

right, that's what I mean yeah, learning how to respond by setting healthy boundaries

Edited November 12, 2023 by Tboy

[koops]

Don't know about books on this topic, but check this clip:

 

[Tboy]

Thank you, this is the kind of thing I was talking about ^

[Razard86]

3 hours ago, Tboy said:

right, that's what I mean yeah, learning how to respond by setting healthy boundaries

You gonna be setting boundaries for the rest of your life. LOL. You don't even control your response. When it is cold do you control your shivers? When something is too hot do you control your reaction to remove your hand? LOL.

Just learn to accept what is happening and realize its temporary. Majority of the events that happen in your life you don't even remember. The shorter your memory the less you suffer the past.

[Tboy]

I'm not sure you understand me, I'm talking about not being a doormat, Leo refers to this in his Gaslighting video.  

[Thought Art]

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[UnbornTao]

Radical honesty, but mostly rather than just reading books practice it and pay attention in your experience at what you do and don't. What allows for that problem for you to occur? Maybe instead of acting in an assertive way at the beginning, you wait until it's late or difficult to change the way others respond to your behavior.