Chives99

stop thinking about sex and just focus on talking and relating

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You don't need to disclose you 'body count' with your new partner its a stupid arbitrary modern day obsession that makes guys feel worthless for not having lots of it and makes guys really desperate to be 'good enough' and 'acceptable'. Let me tell you this NOW!!!!! YOU ARE ALREADY GOOD ENOUGH JUST AS YOU ARE, YOU ARE PERFECT. DONT LET ANYONE ELSE TELL YOU OTHERWISE. so talk to women dont make it about sex, just relate, and talk and have fun , make jokes, get on with them shit talk, tease, dance with them, get to know the, ask her for a drink to get to know her better, dont focus on the sex or the relationship just enjoy the two of you falling for each other, it will happen like magic and when it feels right after x amount of dates or whatever invite her back to your place and let the magic happen. Dont put any pressure on yourself. YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH ALREADY NO MATTER WHAT ANYONE SAYS. just enjoy falling for her and let her fall for you its like billions have done before who have lived and loved. YOU ARE PERFECT JUST REALISE THAT.


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Keep fooling yourself. 

Its for the SEX..

SEX..SEX..SEX.

Men think with their dicks not their brains .


my mind is gone to a better place.  I'm elevated ..going out of space . And I'm gone .

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just love yourself and love others and sex will happen your brain and body will no what to do, trust the universe


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14 minutes ago, Someone here said:

Keep fooling yourself. 

Its for the SEX..

SEX..SEX..SEX.

Men think with their dicks not their brains .

sure guys love sex but love at the same time even if you're not having it


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@UnbornTao thank you i clicked on the wrong one


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10 minutes ago, Chives99 said:

sure guys love sex but love at the same time even if you're not having it

How ? I can't "love " a girl unless I fuck her brains out first . Otherwise I am not invested in her .


my mind is gone to a better place.  I'm elevated ..going out of space . And I'm gone .

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6 minutes ago, Someone here said:

How ? I can't "love " a girl unless I fuck her brains out first . Otherwise I am not invested in her .

Love her for the beautiful creature that she is, her personality, charisma, charm, beauty, her laugh, her humour, her soul.  Theres a reason why women dont just jump into bed with any random guy  if asks her for sex, she needs to feel his connection and charm and personality and humour and laugh and kindness and LOVE. you cant love another until you truly love yourself no matter what.

 

sex is a celebration of the love already inside, you are giving to the woman not taking it from her, why do you think women love foreplay because its all about the sensual connection not just ' fucking her brains out"

 

 

so go and that person you like, but dont have any expectation 

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I want to disclose my body count

I slept just with 4 women 

I consider myself to be a high-value man 

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3 minutes ago, Chives99 said:

Love her for the beautiful creature that she is, her personality, charisma, charm, beauty, her laugh, her humour, her soul.  Theres a reason why women dont just jump into bed with any random guy and if asks her for sex, she needs to feel his connection and charm and personality and humour and laugh and kindness and LOVE. you cant love another until you truly love yourself no matter what.

 

sex is a celebration of the love already inside, you are giving to the woman not taking it from her, why do you think women love foreplay because its all about the sensual connection not just ' fucking her brains out"

 

 

so go and that person you like, but dont have any expectation 

Cute but sorry you are not being honest. When I personally see a girl ..I screen her for her sexual appeal . Her physical appearance is the number 1# priority(no need to mention tits and ass etc I think it's obvious what men are attracted to).

There is of course some truth in what you're saying . But I have a sense that you are just using this narrative to cope with the fact that you can't get sex . So let me ask you if you don't mind ..do you have a girlfriend? 


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No, but maybe im just not so shallow to only care about sex


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2 minutes ago, Someone here said:

no need to mention tits and ass

I'm not attracted to ass

I need tits 

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i doubt you can truly love someone and be happy and only care about sex keep lying to yourself, , call me weak, gay , nice guy , whatever i know what love is, i dont need you to tell me otherwise


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@TheGod i dont deny that tits are very nice yuss sir


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@UnbornTao  sorry for being heated but I just want people to see the love that is inside of them and they dont need to be having sex to see it, in actual fact if you want the best loving sex, you have to get rid of NEEDING IT TO BE COMPLETE, you are already complete regardless of whether  you're having it or not


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1 hour ago, Chives99 said:

@UnbornTao  sorry for being heated but I just want people to see the love that is inside of them and they dont need to be having sex to see it, in actual fact if you want the best loving sex, you have to get rid of NEEDING IT TO BE COMPLETE, you are already complete regardless of whether  you're having it or not

Fair.

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3 hours ago, Someone here said:

Keep fooling yourself. 

Its for the SEX..

SEX..SEX..SEX.

Men think with their dicks not their brains .

It's not for the sex. Sex is the tool you're using for what you seek. That's why you keep wanting more, and more, and more because you'll never find it. So, you'll keep going until your dick shrivels up. Then you'll use viagra, and you'll be wanting it even more, and more and more till you have a heart attack and go home to find what you were seeking. So, you might as well just save the agony that you're causing yourself in-between not getting any and just go home now. Then you'll be having the best sex ever with no one.


 

 

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20 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

It's not for the sex. Sex is the tool you're using for what you seek. That's why you keep wanting more, and more, and more because you'll never find it. So, you'll keep going until your dick shrivels up. Then you'll use viagra, and you'll be wanting it even more, and more and more till you have a heart attack and go home to find what you were seeking. So, you might as well just save the agony that you're causing yourself in-between not getting any and just go home now. Then you'll be having the best sex ever with no one.

I can confirm. The best sex I ever had was with my right hand or sometimes left :D

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On 2023/11/5 at 8:54 AM, Chives99 said:

@UnbornTao  sorry for being heated but I just want people to see the love that is inside of them and they dont need to be having sex to see it, in actual fact if you want the best loving sex, you have to get rid of NEEDING IT TO BE COMPLETE, you are already complete regardless of whether  you're having it or not

I totally agree with your post and your responses in this thread. Just ignore the other guy, I wonder if he has a girlfriend. If he's ever gotten a hot chick girlfriend before, maybe he would realize eventually that sex alone doesn't cut it.

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