Female attraction explained

[Butters]

Let me attempt to explain and please add if you have any interesting insights. 

Imagine you're a teenager in high school and you're taking to a friendly jock guy who's a little older. He's friendly and has incredible confidence. You feel safe and protected around his energy but it's mysterious where he gets the confidence from. You're not sure how serious he is because seriousness and light play are intertwined, but you wanna be around him as much as possible, you love that energy. 

Now make a tiny switch and imagine you could use your sexuality to have this guy come even closer to you and there you have it. 

Note that I made the jock friendly on purpose because if I made him a dick you, as a guy, would not be attracted to his energy. However women's emotions are way more complex so they like "assholes" too. But you shouldn't "play" an asshole, but be one to HER when it's appropriate. That's flirting or non-sexual foreplay. Being an asshole you make her feel emotions, so you are inside of her without physically being inside of her. 

Another word for being an asshole is just being yourself, non reactive to her emotions. You are the ultimate and only authority over YOURSELF and by IMPLICATION over others. That's what Owen calls having a strong frame. 

You know that moment a woman does something that gives you a slight disgusting feeling in your gut? THAT'S when you should be an asshole. If you let her walk over you right there you've lost. But choose your own moments, it also works to get initial attraction if you're perceived as low status on appearance. 

This is probably incomplete but women are really a mystery to me and vice versa. 

Edited November 4, 2023 by Butters

[NoSelfSelf]

Asshole is someone who doesnt care about a woman ,only if she does something that he likes, so he will automatically reject her misbehaviour and everything he doesnt like,since its not serving him,meanwhile adding value from everything that he is,he doesnt need her,that's why you cant be an asshole you care about a woman,want for her to like you,worshiping her looks and all other bs so you will act in all ways unattractive...

 

Edited November 4, 2023 by NoSelfSelf

[Butters]

27 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Asshole is someone who doesnt care about a woman ,only if she does something that he likes, so he will automatically reject her misbehaviour and everything he doesnt like,since its not serving him,meanwhile adding value from everything that he is,he doesnt need her,that's why you cant be an asshole you care about a woman,want for her to like you,worshiping her looks and all other bs so you will act in all ways unattractive...

 

By being an asshole at times, you care about women. You got it backwards. 

Having a strict frame that YOU decide AND enforce as a man you make her feel safe. Deep down you know what is best for yourself, for her and your tribe. 

Edited November 4, 2023 by Butters

[NoSelfSelf]

@Butters Then you are not an asshole that women love but hate they love ,you are good guy that uses asshole traits to make things go smoother...

Edited November 4, 2023 by NoSelfSelf

[Butters]

2 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Butters Then you are not an asshole that women love but hate they love ,you are good guy that uses asshole traits to make things go smoother...

Sure, but be careful here. From the outside the entire game looks like a nascicstic things, only you know what you're doing and your intentions. 

[NoSelfSelf]

@Butters Women can see what you are doing from miles away, they have decade experience so you need to stand on who you are no matter the woman you do what you would do if shes not there,yeah its narcissistic but minus self sabotage,control,insecurity they show and women will always benefit 1000 more from a self centered guy than someone who cares about her dont tell her that its a secret 🤫...

[Butters]

@NoSelfSelf you care about her by not caring. You can take care of her, that's different. 

Edited November 4, 2023 by Butters

[NoSelfSelf]

@Butters That's what you do not caring to care thats manipulation..

Taking care of her on steroids(like a biggest simp😂)when she shows she is worthy yes...

[Schizophonia]

Women are like customers in a cinema, they are not supposed to make the film.

I attract women the most when I'm deep/sincere, and playful, , in short when I fill them with sexual energy.

The more things are forced for whatever reason, the more potentially needy I am, automatically.

[Butters]

1 minute ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Butters That's what you do not caring to care thats manipulation..

Taking care of her on steroids(like a biggest simp😂)when she shows she is worthy yes...

No. You want to genuinely not care. If she walks she walks, you have to be able to take a loss at any moment. 

You seem lost in concepts. 

[Schizophonia]

I'm sure that cult leaders and students from major business schools are very good with women. 🤔

[NoSelfSelf]

@Butters Im not lost in anything,yeah you have no bullshit attitude willing to lose her in any moment without blinking...

[Butters]

5 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Butters

5 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Butters

[Butters]

@NoSelfSelf you seem to have an interest in getting emotionally entangled with women's emotions, and you can get over this with experience. Those are women's emotions and seperate from yours. It's not your business. If you respect her as an autonomous being who is very different from you on this earthly plane. 

And I don't mean emotions like fear, love whatever. What I'm saying is there's difference. Leaders and followers. Reactive and not reactive.  

Edited November 4, 2023 by Butters

[NoSelfSelf]

@Butters You are projecting i dont want to get entangled in womens emotions that would be a losing game since she is better at emotions than me,respecting only if she deserves it like i said not disrespecting since not caring is involved...

[petar8p]

3 hours ago, Butters said:

Let me attempt to explain and please add if you have any interesting insights. 

Imagine you're a teenager in high school and you're taking to a friendly jock guy who's a little older. He's friendly and has incredible confidence. You feel safe and protected around his energy but it's mysterious where he gets the confidence from. You're not sure how serious he is because seriousness and light play are intertwined, but you wanna be around him as much as possible, you love that energy. 

Now make a tiny switch and imagine you could use your sexuality to have this guy come even closer to you and there you have it. 

Note that I made the jock friendly on purpose because if I made him a dick you, as a guy, would not be attracted to his energy. However women's emotions are way more complex so they like "assholes" too. But you shouldn't "play" an asshole, but be one to HER when it's appropriate. That's flirting or non-sexual foreplay. Being an asshole you make her feel emotions, so you are inside of her without physically being inside of her. 

Another word for being an asshole is just being yourself, non reactive to her emotions. You are the ultimate and only authority over YOURSELF and by IMPLICATION over others. That's what Owen calls having a strong frame. 

You know that moment a woman does something that gives you a slight disgusting feeling in your gut? THAT'S when you should be an asshole. If you let her walk over you right there you've lost. But choose your own moments, it also works to get initial attraction if you're perceived as low status on appearance. 

This is probably incomplete but women are really a mystery to me and vice versa. 

Yeah bro that's pretty much it. 

I also read this at the time I really need it, so thank you!