I´m freaking done with dating advice, this game can't be won

[meta_male]

@The0Self Your spidey sense is on point.

[Jacquelope]

Women my age always icked me tf out until I hit my 30s. They were dumb, highly immature, too hooked on pop culture and conformity, and dating dudes who were the same. My sad reality was dating them, destroying my anime collection to fit in*, suffering soulless LTRs, breaking up, and reminding myself what I really wanted was an older (30something) woman. That in turn left me dodging women with mountains of emotional baggage, single moms, etc. Basically I had to thread the eye of a needle with a freight train. OMFG it was not easy.

Then one day, Steve Harvey came along and said, "Don't hate the player, CHANGE THE GAME."

This one statement TRANSFORMED me. I literally saw the light.

I quickly worked it out in my head that I needed to NICHEMAXX. I couldn't find any women anime fans that didn't stick me in the LJBF jail, but I did run into women who were into younger men, sexual roleplay (dom and sub alike), interracial relationships, etc. That was potentially equally problematic, and was still a big case of needle-threading, but they weren't younger stupid women, so now I was occasionally bringing home LTRs from the metaphorical JC Penney's and Macy's rather than raiding the trash bin behind Dollar General like I was before.

So if you're goth, a music nerd, etc., and dating is a desert for you, try nichemaxx'ing as one way to change the game entirely.

Eventually in my early 30s I met and married a woman who knew hilariously more about Marvel Comics than I did, and caught onto anime and gaming like a bird to flight. But now I have a son whose voice has started cracking and I lose literal sleep wondering how he is going to navigate the dating scene. I feel like the door is slamming shut and if he even does make it, it'll be him scraping himself barely getting in for the last scraps of desirable LTRs. ONS is totally out and a non-starter for 80% of men, that era is over, kinda like home ownership lol. By the time my grandsons come along, 60% of men will be virgins at 20 and marriages will be 7 year contracts unless you plan on having kids, and then it'll be ~18 year contracts. I guarantee you this will be culturally set-in by 2060. There'll be so many wizards out there the US Army will have its own Arcane Battle Corps lol.

* In my early 20s, friends over-reacted with shocking hostility when they merely saw my "Nausicaa" VHS tape on a book shelf, calling me a perv and all that crap. It took until decades later to find out from one buddy that they had associated anime with pedo porn (like "Wandering Kid", etc). Kinda makes sense, really.