Bullying and its influence in one's life trauma

[Javfly33]

Can bullying create trauma strong enough to condition feelings of unworthiness, humiliation, etc...for the following years?

Contemplating about my past I can remember a year in school when I was 14 years old and this guy bullied me through the whole year. I remember some days having fear of what would happen every day, although thinking about it he didn't bullied me most of the days. 

I believe this bullying might have traumatised me because the previous years I was a normal kid and I hang out with people just fine. Yet the next years after this year with the bully, I started to be very secluded and not go out almost at all. From that a lot of years of self-development and healing and whatever have passed, with some success here and there but not really solving anything in terms of feeling quite right within.

The thing is I´m not clear of how much do I remember about this guy. I don't know if nothing much happened or on the other hand my mind might have 'forgotten' certain memories as a defence mechanism for the trauma. Who knows. 

[Hojo]

yea you gotta go back and think about all these things it happens with everyone even teachers and friends. they are all tiny trauma that make you act and think the way you act and think

[Schizophonia]

All traumas can really alienate relationships with others.

I would say that the most likely in most people is either submissive behavior (shyness), or on the contrary psychotic relaxation depending on the situation, because of the need for control.
 

Edited November 2, 2023 by Schizophonia

[Jacob Morres]

I def think so. It can hav the potential to shape your personality and identity. Though, I also think you can gradually  heal and grow out of those traumas 

Edited November 2, 2023 by Jacob Morres

[Dear me]

@Javfly33 You can’t neglect the effect of a word on us whether it’s positive or negative . Sometimes a ridiculed comment or judgment by someone can make us feel really ashamed for long periods of time . Wht if all these judgments come from a bullier ? The effect would be damaging to the subconscious. So now I suggest that you specify wht are the things you’re insecure about due to the bullies u are traumatized by . Face all the fears that hidden behind such insecurities and work on each area that you find yourself weak at . You may need a coach or a very deep contemplation sessions to understand the effect and learn about the insecurities you have ! 

Good luck 🙏🏻

[Francis777]

You’ve got to investigate what kind of emotions came up when he bullied you and ask whether or not the trauma was there before and he just brought it to light, or whether he affirmed a new unworthy reality for you and you accepted it.

Figure out which it was and then you can work on undoing/releasing it.