Meditation on Masculinity: The Masculine’s Dependence on The Feminine.

[HMD]

Masculinity is commonly associated with order. This concept, as expounded by Jordan Peterson and others, extends beyond a single thinker and is a prevailing cultural theme. In contrast, femininity is often linked with chaos or embodies it in some cases. While this is a duality, it is perhaps the most fundamental and central one to explore. Thus, let's avoid approaching it from an absolutist standpoint for now.

When a man predominantly embodies masculinity, he tends to gravitate toward constructing and safeguarding existing structures. He values stability, routine, and discipline, characteristics that might resonate with what's referred to as "stage blue masculinity" (an aspect to be addressed later). The masculine essence aims to bring some semblance of order to the natural world, be it through physical or mental means. It strives to impose order on the inherent chaos of the infinite and establish predictability in the midst of unpredictability.

The masculine perspective embraces this worldview and inherently requires a dose of chaos or femininity. Without it, excessive order emerges, resulting in suffering – a theme evident in various aspects of life. Overly stringent order can lead to tyranny and dictatorships, manifest as boredom, passivity, and stultification.

In practice, very few individuals are purely masculine; such imbalances usually self-correct. Most masculine men naturally find themselves drawn to feminine women, and the polarity between them fosters attraction. The emotional depth found in the feminine psyche, along with other qualities, often introduces a degree of chaos that the masculine can then shape into order or use to balance his inherent masculinity. Contemporary women have increasingly embraced their masculine energy, making it somewhat challenging for men to maintain their masculine energy around them (which translates to performing specific behavioral patterns). Nevertheless, many genuinely feminine women still exist, though it may require additional effort to find them.

Returning to the core idea, searching for femininity externally can become a trap because it ultimately fails to provide fulfillment. The masculine psyche need not seek external chaos and femininity since what it perceives in others exists within itself. Others merely act as stimuli to trigger the inherent chaos or femininity.

Our journey should involve developing our own masculinity and femininity and learning to harmonize the two. Balancing these polarities is one of the most vital tasks that can lead to a fulfilling life. The analogy of balancing the oil in your spoon (masculinity) while enjoying the view (femininity), as presented in a Paulo Coelho story, provides a practical model to ground this concept and apply it to our lives.

Moreover, cultivating the flexibility to shift between these poles is crucial, as each offers distinct benefits that can be harnessed for various purposes. This adaptability can only be nurtured by transcending both and viewing them from a meta perspective

Edited October 30, 2023 by HMD

[Razard86]

Great Academic Paper.

[Princess Arabia]

Good read.