Don't make the mistake of thinking that getting physically tough will get rid of fear

[Razard86]

Many people as they go through life come up with strategies to increase their psychological toughness. For a lot of people, one avenue will be physical fitness. Now physical fitness can improve some psychological issues such as the ability to deal with physical pain and fatigue, and the ability to stick to a strict routine. But some people believe that if they gain the ability to bash someone's head in that will help them overcome things like interpersonal skills or their fear of being in crowds. It won't. Things like that are stuff you will just have to continually face and deal with. Dealing with people can be difficult if you like to feel in control, the cause of all conflict is a desire for control and a difference in interpretation of communication. There are different forms of strength, some are great at hitting people, while others are great at negotiation. But don't ever think that physical strength will ever solve your fear of dealing with people, fear goes much deeper than that. 

This fighter's fear of people comes from good intentions. He clearly avoids people because he knows he struggles to deal with them and would be tempted to harm them as an easy solution. So his strategy is to avoid contact as much as possible to protect them from him. But the problem is no matter how much he tries, he will still have to deal with people on some level. 

 

[Inliytened1]

@Razard86  power is held within the mind - not the body.

Edited October 9, 2023 by Inliytened1

[AerisVahnEphelia]

@Inliytened1 well I can definitely tell you that depending how your body is in shape or not, everything else will be a result of being healthy or not.
in fact if a psychedelics allow people to think "deeply" or melt into reality it's only because of the pure orgasm that your body start to be in, to the point of loosing sense of being within a body.

Every ailment just isn't here anymore to impend your ways.

being fearless will makes you able to entertain thoughts and ideas that are way more dangerous than people who don't have the body for it.

I would even say, that everything is body, and mind is a pure product of the body.

 Even if the body is a mystery.

almost 99% of humanity on a strong dose of mdma will not have anymore the concept of "social fear" for instance.

Edited October 9, 2023 by AerisVahnEphelia

[Inliytened1]

10 minutes ago, AerisVahnEphelia said:

@Inliytened1 well I can definitely tell you that depending how your body is in shape or not,

Whether the body is in shape or not depends on the mind.

[Breakingthewall]

Not all the figthers are the same, brock was a kind of Nazi, but others use the fight are self improvement, this one for example . He was a brave guy

 

Edited October 9, 2023 by Breakingthewall

[AerisVahnEphelia]

 

37 minutes ago, Inliytened1 said:

Whether the body is in shape or not depends on the mind.

@Inliytened1 alright I might agree with this statement.

Would be awesome if you defined more what you mean by that, even if I have my own idea of it.

 

[Yimpa]

@AerisVahnEphelia There is a condition called BDD (Body dysmorphic disorder). I have it to various intensity levels. This is a good example, since I can look at something and see a body part that looks completely wrong or disgusting, whereas someone without BDD would look at it and probably not even notice anything wrong until I pointed it out. And even then, they would not even see it as a big deal.

This goes to show that it’s not the body that’s the issue, but how you interpret it.

[Princess Arabia]

3 hours ago, Razard86 said:

Many people as they go through life come up with strategies to increase their psychological toughness. For a lot of people, one avenue will be physical fitness. Now physical fitness can improve some psychological issues such as the ability to deal with physical pain and fatigue, and the ability to stick to a strict routine. But some people believe that if they gain the ability to bash someone's head in that will help them overcome things like interpersonal skills or their fear of being in crowds. It won't. Things like that are stuff you will just have to continually face and deal with. Dealing with people can be difficult if you like to feel in control, the cause of all conflict is a desire for control and a difference in interpretation of communication. There are different forms of strength, some are great at hitting people, while others are great at negotiation. But don't ever think that physical strength will ever solve your fear of dealing with people, fear goes much deeper than that. 

This fighter's fear of people comes from good intentions. He clearly avoids people because he knows he struggles to deal with them and would be tempted to harm them as an easy solution. So his strategy is to avoid contact as much as possible to protect them from him. But the problem is no matter how much he tries, he will still have to deal with people on some level. 

 

He says beating people up makes him happy. Seems like he was bullied, and this is his payback. One of my gfs, who is a body builder, turned working out into an obsession because her father told her as a child she was fat and not so many other nice things. Her tits were very flat, and she had very short hair. Now she has implants, extensions like Diana Ross's hair and works out excessively, enough to turn her into a body builder which started out to prove her dad wrong and because what he said hurt her as a child.

People are a certain way because of hurtful things done to them as a child. Saying he's happy to beat people up says a lot about this.

[Razard86]

7 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

@Razard86  power is held within the mind - not the body.

Yep but of course we knew you knew that LOL.

 

4 hours ago, Princess Arabia said:

He says beating people up makes him happy. Seems like he was bullied, and this is his payback. One of my gfs, who is a body builder, turned working out into an obsession because her father told her as a child she was fat and not so many other nice things. Her tits were very flat, and she had very short hair. Now she has implants, extensions like Diana Ross's hair and works out excessively, enough to turn her into a body builder which started out to prove her dad wrong and because what he said hurt her as a child.

People are a certain way because of hurtful things done to them as a child. Saying he's happy to beat people up says a lot about this.

Yep so true.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/actualized-quotes-047

This blog post adds to this thread. 

[Carl-Richard]

12 hours ago, Inliytened1 said:

Whether the body is in shape or not depends on the mind.

The arrow of causality definitely goes both ways.

[An young being]

13 hours ago, AerisVahnEphelia said:

@Inliytened1
in fact if a psychedelics allow people to think "deeply" or melt into reality it's only because of the pure orgasm that your body start to be in, to the point of loosing sense of being within a body.

Every ailment just isn't here anymore to impend your ways.

being fearless will makes you able to entertain thoughts and ideas that are way more dangerous than people who don't have the body for it.

Being always healthy can boost your ego multifold though. It can delude me to thinking I can never be harmed by anyone or anything.