How to find gay men who are not just looking for a hookup?

[jdc7733]

I met some guy who was cute, we spoke for a while, we started kissing, we went to the bedroom, I couldn’t “finish”, then, he just made some excuse to get rid of me. We were talking fine before that. It’s not that I’m against having sex it’s just that I want the relationship the focus on sex to relationship to be 1:1, or, at least like someone who wants to get more of a full friendship or romantic relationship out of it, rather than just about sex. The thing is, usually people are looking for sex or a relationship to begin with and I kinda want some experience of both. I want to have 2 types of cake and to eat them both, so to speak. There are literally no other guys like this, unless they’re like closeted friends that were friends to begin with. I just thought, I should probably be focusing on things other than dating rn, my mind just kinda hops from one thing to another, but, I feel like there’s always going to be something going on in my life that’s strange or bad, so, like, I should just go ahead with dating. What do you think?

[Emotionalmosquito]

I would say go on grindr and put “looking for more than just hookups” or something of the like in ur bio. But idk know much about Grindr so that might not be the nature of the community but could be worth a try, who knows 

[Buck Edwards]

Look for spiritual people 

Edited October 9, 2023 by Buck Edwards