Choosing a wife.

[BassamMo]

When I started doing pickup/getting better with women. I was going for looks more than anything else and at some point I've had my first girlfriend who was a 10 we stayed together for two years but we outgrew each other so it was a mutual decision to breakup but when I think about it now I can't really imagine her being my wife. Her best value was her looks and I felt that I got used to it with couple of months and I started checking other women again. But now in my next girlfriend I'm looking to make her my wife but she has to have a progressive mind and have a similar mindset even if she's not that hot. My question is. Am I looking at this from a good point of view? Is it really smart to look for mindset in a woman rather than her looks only?

[LastThursday]

The smart thing to do is to take in the whole person. You should do it actively not passively. That means instead of someone just fitting what you want, that you encourage each other to open up, and you mould yourselves to each other over time. People change over time, and your perception of them changes too.

[Tanz]

Find a woman who was not raised in a western country if so then go to a country like Portugal where the people are very family oriented still.  

[VictorB02]

On 9/20/2023 at 4:40 AM, BassamMo said:

When I started doing pickup/getting better with women. I was going for looks more than anything else and at some point I've had my first girlfriend who was a 10 we stayed together for two years but we outgrew each other so it was a mutual decision to breakup but when I think about it now I can't really imagine her being my wife. Her best value was her looks and I felt that I got used to it with couple of months and I started checking other women again. But now in my next girlfriend I'm looking to make her my wife but she has to have a progressive mind and have a similar mindset even if she's not that hot. My question is. Am I looking at this from a good point of view? Is it really smart to look for mindset in a woman rather than her looks only?

Yeah this is the natural evolution man. You got what every guy fantasizes about: getting it on with a 10, and you realized it doesn't quite do it for you, so you've raised your standards for what it means to date. This is extremely attractive - especially if you come into contact with a 10 and don't chase like every other guy would, or better yet - you turn down a 10 because you know its a dead end.

There is nothing more attractive than that. That's when you're at your peak "value." Because you've set the precedent that just because they look good, doesn't mean you will pick them. They have to actually prove themselves and their worth to you now.

Choice is power. And women love a powerful man. Especially if their beauty doesn't blind you and turn you into a drooling dog like it does for the other 99% of the dating pool.

Edited September 21, 2023 by VictorB02

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