When should one get married?

[Someone here]

How long do you think that a couple should be together before getting married? I am thinking as to the time when you would think that the marriage was a sensible well thought out decision .. and not a too quick and frivolous choice.

The question is for both guys and girls on here .

[Sabth]

When you've found the right person. Don't wait too long. And when you're ready to have child. Marriage = children. 

[Someone here]

17 minutes ago, Sabth said:

When you've found the right person

The proplem is I fall in love with every attractive girl I see or interact with .one girl is not enough for me . I like variety. That's why I have so much porn on my phone lol.

18 minutes ago, Sabth said:

And when you're ready to have child. Marriage = children. 

I will NEVER EVER  bring a child to this world .for ethical reasons. 

[Sabth]

3 minutes ago, Someone here said:

The proplem is I fall in love with every attractive girl I see or interact with .one girl is not enough for me . I like variety. That's why I have so much porn on my phone lol.

I will NEVER EVER  bring a child to this world .for ethical reasons. 

Then marriage is not for you. ~

[Someone here]

1 minute ago, Sabth said:

Then marriage is not for you. ~

Yup .that's my current stance at least.  Perhaps as I grow older my perspective will change. Who knows 

[NoSelfSelf]

You first need to fix the mess that you are before even thinking about this topic...

[Raze]

At least 4 years, most relationships only last under 2 years.

[Someone here]

@NoSelfSelf why you Mad bro ?

Edited September 19, 2023 by Someone here

[Someone here]

17 minutes ago, Raze said:

At least 4 years, most relationships only last under 2 years.

What ?! 4 years before deciding to get married from a girl ? I will already be bored of her and hitting on other girls ? 

[NoSelfSelf]

@Someone here  what is there to be mad about im reading the post and responding to it...

[Someone here]

2 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Someone here  what is there to be mad about im reading the post and responding to it...

You are always angsty with me ..that's something I've noticed over the months ..at first you were responding to my threads in this section and we had a lot of fun conversations..but since I posted that thread about me falling in love with a pornstar you just ignored me ..I thought you've put me on ignore list but I'm happy that that's not the case ?. 

So ...what exactly do you mean by fixing the mess that I am ?

[NoSelfSelf]

@Someone here Well i lost hope in even saying anything to the threads you are posting they are low self esteem,low self worth ones ,this one has little something to add...

How do i know? Well nobody who loves himself would say i fall in love with every attractive woman i see, thats something really messed up whats going on and you know it,but since its influence its so strong you compensate by putting on a mask " im the shit " kind of guy wich even more hurts you to grow.. im pointing the bs and would appreciate the same from others to point mine...

[Someone here]

3 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Someone here Well i lost hope in even saying anything to the threads you are posting they are low self esteem,low self worth ones ,this one has little something to add...

How do i know? Well nobody who loves himself would say i fall in love with every attractive woman i see, thats something really messed up whats going on and you know it,but since its influence its so strong you compensate by putting on a mask " im the shit " kind of guy wich even more hurts you to grow.. im pointing the bs and would appreciate the same from others to point mine...

There is something true about what you are saying.

Desperation arises when i start to prioritise the perception of significant other over my own life.

I will be 100% open about it . I'm like a horny desperate dog . Dunno why maybe I have abnormal levels of Testosterone in my body ..but I get aroused easily and quickly when I see an attractive girl . I'm also addicted to pornography. I'm working on correcting that .

Thanks for being blunt and honest with me. 

[NoSelfSelf]

@Someone here No problem, but you dont realise that you need to fix that every woman will realize your desperation and will use it againts you and since you follow your emotions she wont follow you which= no respect...

[Someone here]

1 minute ago, NoSelfSelf said:

@Someone here No problem, but you dont realise that you need to fix that every woman will realize your desperation and will use it againts you and since you follow your emotions she wont follow you which= no respect...

Would you believe that girls feel exactly the same way ?

They are concerned about how to find and  meet guys. They are concerned about their first kiss. They are concerned about whether some guy likes them..how to stop feeling awkward around guys. Etc

So i must acknowledge that im  being "normal". And learn to accept myself as i am without judgment. There is nothing "wrong" about me

. If you can't accept yourself as you are how can you expect others to accept you? 

[NoSelfSelf]

@Someone here Problem is you are concerened about women that shouldnt even cross your mind, because you only care about it so you can satisfy your needs...

I wouldnt say wrong i would say fixing the wrong programming and education you have so you see real you..

Edited September 19, 2023 by NoSelfSelf

[josemar]

27 minutes ago, Someone here said:

There is something true about what you are saying.

Desperation arises when i start to prioritise the perception of significant other over my own life.

I will be 100% open about it . I'm like a horny desperate dog . Dunno why maybe I have abnormal levels of Testosterone in my body ..but I get aroused easily and quickly when I see an attractive girl . I'm also addicted to pornography. I'm working on correcting that .

Thanks for being blunt and honest with me. 

Why do you say you love them then? That's not love, that's you being a horny young male.

Have some self respect and see that love is more than horniness...

Find someone that will still stimulate you intelectually and spiritually even after the initial few months of oxytocin and whatever other chemicals are gone...

If you can't see that far, admit to yourself that having sex is maybe your most important need at this stage of your life and take steps to satisfy that need.

Falling in love with every attractive woman you see is not one if those steps ..

[Someone here]

15 minutes ago, NoSelfSelf said:

Problem is you are concerened about women that shouldnt even cross your mind, because you only care about it so you can satisfy your needs...

Yes .I'm definitely a creep . I stare at women in public.  With only one intent which is to get into their pants ...that's me OBJECTIFYING women..I need to fix that .

6 minutes ago, josemar said:

If you can't see that far, admit to yourself that having sex is maybe your most important need at this stage of your life and take steps to satisfy that need

I've had plenty of sex with my ex . I masturbate twice a week .get nocturnal emissions every other day . Maybe I need to get chemically castrated (jk lol ? ).

[Ajax]

11 hours ago, Someone here said:

How long do you think that a couple should be together before getting married? I am thinking as to the time when you would think that the marriage was a sensible well thought out decision .. and not a too quick and frivolous choice.

The question is for both guys and girls on here .

Marry me!? You are already a pain in my ass... might as well make it official ?

 

 I'm kidding ?  kidding ?... or am I??

Actually bro, you need to get your shit together and have a career and life stability. That is when you will be ready to have a wife or not. Whatever you wish.

Edited September 20, 2023 by Ajax

[Someone here]

@Ajax don't post while high .