How to know when to commit to a girl

[Noahsteelers34]

I have been struggling with indecision.
 

I’m currently seeing a few different girls, and have found myself constantly chasing girls that are “out of my league” and not that interested in me. I’m just done with the games. Constant flaking, and being stressed out over the girls I am very attracted to. 
 

on the other hand, one of the girls I’m seeing is really into me. I’m so busy chasing these other girls, I’m not worried about her at all. At the same time she really likes me for who I am and doesn’t play games. I find her attractive and we have fun, and she is chasing me to a certain extent. 
 

 For context, my last relationship ended because I was so indecisive about wanting to be with her, so I took her for granted. 
 

My main issue with this girl is the culture difference. She is from Indonesia, and I am from America. I am worried that those cultural differences will get in the way down the line.  But she is the kind of girl who I can say anything around, and she doesn’t care because she likes me. She is always down to see me and doesn’t play these stupid games with me. 
 

my question is how do I know when to actually commit to a girl, and get over my indecision of always wanting to find someone else. 

[Thought Art]

I don’t have an answer for you. But, these sorts of girls are under appreciated. 
 

I am contemplating what true value is with women and dating. Raw hotness I think isn’t as important to me… though, I know as well I want to be able to smash a girl who I think is a 10.

That being said I recently slept with a girl who I thought was maybe a 7… turned out she was amazing I’m bed and somehow in the sheets she turns to a 10! So, that’s surprising. 
 

I think this may be for you to figure out on your own. I think having a quality girl you like is important. But, if you don’t have the experience you want yet out of your system it can make commuting hard. Which, I get.

[NoSelfSelf]

You dont have a structure/program that she needs to follow ,so she earns a spot to be your gf you just give it all for free just because she likes you ?

If you dont have like a book that looks like a contract, where you say how things should be with you then you wont know if she is the one...you litteraly sat her down and read it all to her..

Such a big mistake to leave it all on sentimental level and jump into for example marriage or have kids while down the road you figure out she is not the one...

[Noahsteelers34]

@NoSelfSelf I’m not sure I’m following what you mean 

[Raze]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gA2rUR9fnWQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QXB80VEaRQQ

 

[Spiral]

If she makes you happy, and you think you’ll be happy in a relationship long term with her. Although I’d be careful with girls that chase.

[Ajax]

16 hours ago, Noahsteelers34 said:

I have been struggling with indecision.
 

I’m currently seeing a few different girls, and have found myself constantly chasing girls that are “out of my league” and not that interested in me. I’m just done with the games. Constant flaking, and being stressed out over the girls I am very attracted to. 
 

on the other hand, one of the girls I’m seeing is really into me. I’m so busy chasing these other girls, I’m not worried about her at all. At the same time she really likes me for who I am and doesn’t play games. I find her attractive and we have fun, and she is chasing me to a certain extent. 
 

 For context, my last relationship ended because I was so indecisive about wanting to be with her, so I took her for granted. 
 

My main issue with this girl is the culture difference. She is from Indonesia, and I am from America. I am worried that those cultural differences will get in the way down the line.  But she is the kind of girl who I can say anything around, and she doesn’t care because she likes me. She is always down to see me and doesn’t play these stupid games with me. 
 

my question is how do I know when to actually commit to a girl, and get over my indecision of always wanting to find someone else. 

OMG... if you can commit to the Steelers... you can commit to anything! lol JK... NOT... Chiefs RULE!!!

I would say simply to be more decisive in your life and all the component parts. Your indecision in women probably extends to other areas in your life. 

LOVE

[SeaMonster]

On 9/14/2023 at 8:24 PM, Noahsteelers34 said:

My main issue with this girl is the culture difference. She is from Indonesia, and I am from America. I am worried that those cultural differences will get in the way down the line.  But she is the kind of girl who I can say anything around, and she doesn’t care because she likes me. She is always down to see me and doesn’t play these stupid games with me. 

How will they get in the way? What are you specifically worried about?

I think for long-term relationships a girl liking and wanting you is pretty damn important.  If that's what you're after, it's a no-brainer.

[Hojo]

go have sex with her. your mind will be clear after for making decisions

Edited September 18, 2023 by Hojo

[Raze]

4 minutes ago, Hojo said:

go have sex with her. your mind will be clear after for making decisions

Literally the opposite is true, sex can cause all sorts of hormonal changes to cloud your judgment.

[Hojo]

@Raze that is strange i do my best mathematics after jerking off

[Yimpa]

Take things less personally. Let her do her thing. If you find yourself being needy, then that’s something you need to address; it has nothing to do with the girl.

Also, you are taking things too seriously if you are triggered about girls playing games.

Dating is literally a game. Frame it as such.

[Noahsteelers34]

@Raze @Hojo it’s called post nut clarity hahaha 

 

[flowboy]

@Noahsteelers34  I didn't see the words "and I'm in love with her" in there at all, so drop them all and go looking for the real thing.

[Noahsteelers34]

@flowboy I’ve only been seeing her for 3 weeks. Plus I don’t even know what classifies being in love with someone. 

Edited September 18, 2023 by Noahsteelers34

[Raze]

18 hours ago, Hojo said:

@Raze that is strange i do my best mathematics after jerking off

Jerking off and sex are different 

[flowboy]

48 minutes ago, Noahsteelers34 said:

@flowboy I’ve only been seeing her for 3 weeks. Plus I don’t even know what classifies being in love with someone. 

If you have to think about it, then that's not it.

Would you be happy if she was pregnant?

If not, this is not the girl to commit to.

[Yimpa]

@flowboy I let her live freely, as she is a beautiful reflection of me 

[nhoktinvt]

but she's not into u bruhh

[Yimpa]

1 minute ago, nhoktinvt said:

but she's not into u bruhh

No. You’re not into you