Social anxiety deconstructed

[Javfly33]

This is my personal view, this not might apply to everybody. But this is what I found.

The solution that I have discovered to finally feel Ok in social situations is to completely surrender what I'm feeling in my stomach. It seems there is a deep brutal pain of rejection in my stomach. I have surrendered to it, i completely feel it, and then I speak or say whatever I want to say.

For example now I'm feeling oh, look how pathetic I am, I have social anxiety, that's something inferior people have. And I surrender and express this. And I feel this pain and I share it with you. I'm free because I feel comfortable inside my own skin right now, finally I accept myself.

In summary: don't try to avoid or escape the pain feeling. Feel it, go deep into it, let it say or do anything that wants to do to you. Don't be scared of it.

Edited September 14, 2023 by Javfly33

[Sandhu]

I wonder whether these kinds of ideas can actually help resolve your and my social anxiety problems in the long term. Understanding the problem at its root (books help a lot), self-reflection, gradual behavioral adjustments, correcting erroneous beliefs, and other techniques have helped me.

Edited September 14, 2023 by Sandhu

[Guest Bazooka Jesus]

1 hour ago, Javfly33 said:

This is my personal view, this not might apply to everybody. But this is what I found.

The solution that I have discovered to finally feel Ok in social situations is to completely surrender what I'm feeling in my stomach. It seems there is a deep brutal pain of rejection in my stomach. I have surrendered to it, i completely feel it, and then I speak or say whatever I want to say.

For example now I'm feeling oh, look how pathetic I am, I have social anxiety, that's something inferior people have. And I surrender and express this. And I feel this pain and I share it with you. I'm free because I feel comfortable inside my own skin right now, finally I accept myself.

In summary: don't try to avoid or escape the pain feeling. Feel it, go deep into it, let it say or do anything that wants to do to you. Don't be scared of it.

Amazing. ???

[Jacob Morres]

I actually had a very similar insight while on shrooms 

I noticed my social anxiety was just anxiety and I needed to feel the fear 

Edited September 14, 2023 by Jacob Morres