How do I embrace red shadow?

[Jenkins]

I believe I have developed myself a lot, and the more I develop, the red shadow tends to grow as well.

Any advice?

[Spiritual Warrior]

Can you explain what the red shadow is?? 

[TwistedOntic]

I assume you mean stage red tendencies. Just do shadow work. 

The 3-2-1 step by Ken Wilber helped me alot. Writing it down too helped me, keeps you on track. 

[Spiritual Warrior]

I wouldn't suppress the red shadow, if it comes up then let it run it's course. As you climb higher, it will fizzle itself out for the most part. I actually think that this is your psyche or higher self telling you that there are red qualities that you want to integrate in your life. 

A few months ago, I realized that I am too much of a pushover so I decided that I was going to make sure I had red more integrated in my life. I started thinking about my own needs over other people's, started working out (angrily I might add), and in situations with friends I would put conscious attention on making sure that I was solid - not allowing myself to be swayed to do things I didn't want to do or to react a certain way in order to get approval. I became a little bit more of a jerk and more standoffish for a short while, but I set some boundaries with friends and family, got a little bigger, and started to respect myself more. Eventually, the jerk facade faded and what was left was a solid, don't fuck with me internal facade. I'm not outwardly a jerk, but if you overstep the boundaries that I have set, you are going to hear about it.

That's what integrating a healthy red looks like in my opinion. 

[SeaMonster]

There isn't a red shadow or a blue shadow, there is just The Shadow with all these aspects to it.  Ken Wilber seriously overcomplicates this shit.  If you lack self-assertion e.g. you integrate self-assertion.  You start by doing a martial art or something like that. An activity where you get to engage that part of yourself.

Trying to fit in the SD paradigm is just nonsense.

Edited September 13, 2023 by SeaMonster

[Jenkins]

@Spiritual Warrior I think this might be something I need to go through as well. I always felt bad for when I was a little too much with close ones. However, it makes sense that after a while you're rebalancing yourself to a healthy standard. 

I've done that from being a complete introvert to as extrovert as I could, and after a couple of years I have balanced myself to something I considered healthy, however I might need to let more assertiveness show. Maybe I'm too empathetic at times

[Jenkins]

@TwistedOntic @SeaMonster Thank you guys, will research that as well