How much fighting in a relationship is okay?

[Hello from Russia]

It's okay to have fights here and there and that they can actually be beneficial

But where do we actually draw the line? How much fighting is okay? Is fighting every week okay? What if for 6 days you have an ideal amazing loving relationship and 1 day a week you fight very badly and the situation is consistent? How damaging is this situation? How much fighting is too much and how much fighting is too little?

I invite you to discuss this

I personally had a great deal of experience in a scenario discussed above. 6 days in a week it is an ideal relationship, 1-2 days it is an utter nightmare. I was excusing a lot of it because these 6 days felt so great once we "have worked on an issue" . But now in retrospect I see how damaging it was and kinda even regret it. I'm not sure what personal standard to draw here.

The biggest thing was that it usually was happening during the weekend. I am pretty ambitious person and I like to work hard or go really balls to the wall with meditation/learning. That entails I really need quality rest and recharge time. And instead of it I was constantly dealing with shit load of nonse drama that would take an enormous energy tax on me and lead to a heavy burnout after a while.

Edited September 3, 2023 by Hello from Russia

[Yimpa]

Based on the example you gave, it sounds like the fighting is actually a cycle. The relationship is predicated on this cycle repeating itself. Wash, rinse, repeat.

The dam is bound to burst any day now. That’ll lead to a serious reevaluation of the relationship - and it certainly won’t be easy to clean up.