Confidence seems unattainable

[meta_male]

14 hours ago, 99alvarosanchez said:

@flowboy how to go about healing that type of childhood trauma?

https://www.actualized.org/insights/ifs-therapy-for-trauma-healing

[flowboy]

14 hours ago, 99alvarosanchez said:

@flowboy how to go about healing that type of childhood trauma?

@99alvarosanchez I've got videos and fun group exercises just for that!

[flowboy]

26 minutes ago, Princess Arabia said:

Frustrating isn't it, and you give quality advice too.

[universe]

Confidence comes from your emotional state.

Lower your needs and you will become confident. You are afraid that someone won't like you? Afraid of not having control over the situation? Afraid for your safety? These are all needs that you can lower and lower. If you have them super low your emotional state will rise naturally.

[Princess Arabia]

 

[D2sage]

7 hours ago, universe said:

Confidence comes from your emotional state.

Lower your needs and you will become confident. You are afraid that someone won't like you? Afraid of not having control over the situation? Afraid for your safety? These are all needs that you can lower and lower. If you have them super low your emotional state will rise naturally.

This.

 

Also, work on your inner fears. Drink ayahuasca or something if you don't have access to your minds control panel.

You need to rewire your automatic thoughts.

You are what you mostly think. Mostly subconscious thoughts that dictates your life. Even posture lives here. 

Edited August 31, 2023 by D2sage

[SeaMonster]

What do you mean you've had no luck with the gym?

That is entirely under your control.  You can make incremental progress if you keep doing it.

I suspect the real problem for you is how you THINK about these things, your mindset is in serious need of adjustment.

[flowboy]

On 30/08/2023 at 9:00 PM, 99alvarosanchez said:

@flowboy how to go about healing that type of childhood trauma?

Made u a vid